Illyana Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Okay so I really don't know what to do. I've never been in this situation. My ex and I broke up well he has been saying he still loves me and to give him a second chance because he made mistakes and knows he should have treated me better. He broke up with me about a month ago. Well I told him last night that his friend, someone he is supposed to trust, admitted to liking me and was talking bad about him. It was on skype and I have powergramo so it records the conversations. My ex was threatening to beat this guy up and I know this guy would call the cops and have him arrested so I sent him the file. I had nothing to hide. I did nothing wrong. We were playing a video game and I was talking about the game and laughing about how I kept dying. The guy admitted to liking me and I told him it would never happen and asked why he was telling me this since he has a girlfriend and he should go be with her. Well my ex and I were going to play a game. He told me to wait 5 minutes which turned into hours. Then I didn't hear from him. When I did I asked him why he went away for so long and the conversation went like this: Ex: I'm just kinda hurt after listening to the whole conversation. Idk. Me: What did I do?!?!? Ex: Just the way you talk Me: I talk that way to everyone who hasn't hurt me. Even girls. Ex: Ok. Me: I didn't do anything wrong. Ex: I know. Then no responses. I asked if he was going to talk to me or judge me differently and he didn't respond to either. I already told my ex I wouldn't talk to the guy ever again. The guy actually has been annoying me and won't leave ME alone! I told my ex he could go through my texts. I have nothing to hide. I am just a really nice person and try to find the good in people. I am friendly when I talk to anyone, even strangers. It makes no difference what gender it is. I also never think anyone likes me so I just assumed his friendly behavior was just apart of who he is. I know I didn't do anything wrong but I feel so bad that my ex has to hurt like this. What can and should I do?
Carenth Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 So why are you still talking too your ex? furthermore why are you telling him things that will piss him off? Most exes don't like hearing about people who are interested in taking up the mantel of their old job (being your boyfriend) now that he has exited the role. I can understand this honesty when you are in a healthy relationship but to an ex it just seems like prodding them with hot coals too see how they react. If you don't want to hurt your ex leave him alone and move on with your life. He doesn't want to hear about people trying to serenade you, why would you think he would want to hear that anyway?
Author Illyana Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Every time I try to move on and tell him it is for the best, he doesn't stop contacting me. Then he wanted to work things out. It isn't like I am being some toying bitch who likes to harm him and cause problems in his life. I told him because this guy is supposed to be his friend and he is just some scumbag who uses people and talks about someone who is supposed to be their friend in a negative light. To me, I was doing the right thing because if that was my friend, I would want to know. When confronted, the guy said I was making the whole thing up and my ex demanded the proof to use against this guy so I sent him the conversation. I didn't flirt back or do anything misleading in the conversation so unlike that guy, I have nothing to hide. Plus, his girlfriend needs to know what a cheating liar this guy is. He was also bragging about how he was going to have sex with some girl until he found out she had herpes.
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