Beets Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I had this in the dating section, but then I realized I was in the wrong section! This is my story: I've was dating this guy for a month, and I really liked him! It's obvious that we are complete opposites -- I'm extraverted, he's introverted. He cares deeply about religion and politics and I do not care at all about these things. I loved talking with him and we got along great. However, he came to me yesterday with the proposition to break up. He said he has moments where he intensely likes me, but he doesn't have a "spark" or feel a "deep emotional connection" with me. He says he "admires" me above anything. He says he doesn't think he can have deep intellectual conversations with me because I am a very "light" person. However, if he was to break up with me, he said he knows he would regret it and he has discussed how he sees us together in the long term. He gave me the control to either break up all together or understand he will be a bad boyfriend that wont be able to hang out all the time because he is busy with school. I gave him the power again, and he decided, that he likes me so he doesn't want to break up. So, I broke up with him. So he contacted me again yesterday and asked to hang out. I texted him that I was going out, so I guess he felt comfortable to hang out. This became a 7 hour discussion about how likes me so much, but he doesn't think he likes me as much as I like him. He again said he doesn't have a "deep emotional connection" because he cannot be open to me. However, this entire conversation was very, very open! He told me he cried after I broke up with him but felt no need to contact me. Then he talked about how he was so upset because he "feels for me" in the way that he wants me to find someone, its just he doesn't know if it is him because of his timing. He came back to the deep intellectual conversations topic and he now thinks we are compatible in this form, and he can see me fitting well in his family. However, he doesn't want to cause me any more "pain" by hanging out. He said that he thinks he may just be a rebound to my past relationship, I only like him because I am on birth control, and he is scared that I will fall in love with one of my best guy friends that I hang out with all the time. After all of this, he asks if he can spend Christmas with my family and wants me to travel across country to go to festival with him. However, he doesn't like me and hopes I find a guy that is perfect for me. Why is he doing this to me? I was sitting there for close to 7 hours listening to an analysis of why he doesnt like me when I already broke up with him. I know he doesnt like me the amount I like him, but it's like he MUST discuss it. I still like him, so this hurt a great deal. Why must he tell me EVERYTHING on his mind, and why can't he just let things be? We only dated a month, so I feel we shouldn't be in "love", but thats what he wants in order to date someone. It's crazy. Have anyone else been put through this situation?
Hopeful714 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 OMG. Hate to say it, but I laughed when I read this. I think you better end it with this guy. Emotionally unstable? How about nuts! Really, a 7 hour discussion of why he doesn't like you? Well I admire his ability to communicate but this is a tad much. This guy is going to end up picking you apart to your death. Who the f does he think he is to do this to somebody? How could you sit there and listen to that? Don't walk.....run. And end it by text so you don't have to hear another lengthy dissertation ripping apart your being. The guy is a bubble off for sure. A relationship with him would be hel*.
Author Beets Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Its so funny you said that! I talked to my best friends about it today and we laughed about the insanity of this ENTIRE situation! You have no idea how speechless I was the entire time. I was just nodding, because what do you say to some of that stuff?! I will run! But, I already broke up with him, so there is nothing else to do! I've already decided that I will not agree to hang out anymore, thats for sure. thanks for your input!
Hopeful714 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 You will laugh about this for the rest of your life! On to the next! Thanks for the giggle:)
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