TI567 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Long story short I broke up with my ex-girlfriend of 2 years several months ago. Were both in our mid 20's, she was my first serious relationship, she had been in several serious relationships before. Our relationship was great, got along well, went and did many things together. She loved me. I ended up breaking it off because I was unsure if I loved her...sometime I found myself wondering what else was out there...ultimately I wanted sometime to myself to figure things out. I didn't want to waste her time and drag things on if I was unsure. No other women had any influence on me ending it with her, It was all due to my uncertainty. This came out of the blue to her, there was no warning. Looking back I regret this but I really didn't know what to do. Broke up several months ago and starting to think I have made a big mistake. I now know for a fact that I do love her, the feelings I have for her now no longer cause me to be unsure. That being said part of me still thinks the timing is just not right...I have a lot of things (career-wise) that I want to accomplish that make it hard to dedicate myself to someone else. Anyway I want her to know how much I care for her and I want to get my feelings off my chest. She is a great person and I want her to know how lucky I was to have had 2 years with her in my life. Making it difficult is the fact that about 1.5 months after we broke up she started seeing another guy. For the first month after break-up we talked once or twice and texted a little. Since than its been pretty much no-contact, I tried texting her several weeks ago but never got a response...that was the first time she never responded to one of my texts. I figured it was probably due to the fact that she had found a new boyfriend and is trying to forget about our relationship. My question I guess is when should I try to contact her? I feel like if I try now she won't be receptive to it, since she just started seeing someone else. My plan I guess is to wait a few more months, continue to not contact her and than go from there. I don't want to beg for her back or anything, I know I gave up my chance. I just want her to know that I do love her and have grown from this whole situation. This was my first major break-up and I do honestly feel that I have learned a lot from it. That being said much of me worries about waiting as well. I worry about the guy she is with now and her becoming attached...which is a pretty selfish thing to think being it was me who ended it. I ejust want her to be receptive of my feelings and thoughts, for all I know she may not even have feelings towards me anymore due to the breech of trust that I caused. I am pretty lost right now...as you can tell, any advice/help would be much appreciated.
coffeebean201 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 It is probably too soon to be just friends which sounds like what you are sort of aiming for. If it is something else you want with her, then you have to see what about her causes a strong reaction within you.
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