charlietheginger Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I know the feeling about Being ugly.... I feel ugly .... But ive turned it around I used my low self esteem as fuel Fuel for improvment..... I goto the gym eat healthy building muscle loosing fat Gave more of a masculan face... I sleep with a sweat band on my head I think its helping my ears tuck in.. I also groom my eye brows nose hair Haircuts finger nails toe nails Every 4 weeks.... Its all helped my selfesteem 1
tori0001 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 You're cute, don't know why you think you're not good looking.
Esoteric Elf Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Now here is the hard part, I know that being attractive/handsome doesn't mean anything at all. When I read this part, I raised in eyebrows in doubt. Doesn't mean anything at all? I am dubious. As to the OP, I have been told by many many people online that I am very good looking and look like an alpha male who would have plenty of girls swooning over him. I have come to ignore comments as those since they mean nothing: the fact of the matter is that real life has shown me a different side, a side of loneliness without a single girl liking me; that is my life. I am painfully shy, and, as a male in a society where males are expected to take the lead in DSR, I am quite uncomfortably relegated to being single. As to your looks...~5.7. Above average.
Author Gentleman810 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Well I mistyped that part, I mean't that from what I have been told being handsome doesn't mean everything in a relationship, so there are many more things which makes a man ''attractive'' like personality etc. So a typo from my side.
Esoteric Elf Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Well I mistyped that part, I mean't that from what I have been told being handsome doesn't mean everything in a relationship, so there are many more things which makes a man ''attractive'' like personality etc. So a typo from my side. No problem, bro.
GirlontheLam Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 OP I think you are cute. You remind me of a guy I dated in college. And interestingly enough....he was very popular with the ladies. He had loads of charisma. Despite the full compliment of negatives according to LS: he was 5'6 and Indian! So focus on being yourself......and the rest will happen! 1
Sith Apprentice Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 You look like Shogun Rua from the UFC.
GLDheart Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 You look fine. BUT, a smile goes along way by the way. If you're worried about your eyebrow, yeah I saw the scar right away... it looks cool in my opinion. It makes me want to know how you got it? Do you have a good story for it? And I don't mean a BS story, I mean the REAL story but told in a fascinating way/delivered compellingly? I myself have a bunch of FUN scars, each with a cool story of skipping school and crashing a motorcycle... or getting shot by an ARROW (yeah my older cousins psycho...)... or... you get the idea. See? Scars could be great material for conversation. They are your battle wounds. Get yourself a few classy shirts, a pair of expensive dark jeans, and some dress shoes... then go knock em dead ;-) 1
Author Gentleman810 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 You look fine. BUT, a smile goes along way by the way. If you're worried about your eyebrow, yeah I saw the scar right away... it looks cool in my opinion. It makes me want to know how you got it? Do you have a good story for it? And I don't mean a BS story, I mean the REAL story but told in a fascinating way/delivered compellingly? I myself have a bunch of FUN scars, each with a cool story of skipping school and crashing a motorcycle... or getting shot by an ARROW (yeah my older cousins psycho...)... or... you get the idea. See? Scars could be great material for conversation. They are your battle wounds. Get yourself a few classy shirts, a pair of expensive dark jeans, and some dress shoes... then go knock em dead ;-) Yeah, the scar is something that shows up in every picture. I have been told that when I was little (age of 2) I felt and bumped my head on the corner of the street. Blood everywhere but I seemingly didn't cry XD. As for the picture, I should have asked how people would rate me on a scale of 1 to 10. Thanks for everyones reply.
GLDheart Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 BAH!! Forget that 1 to 10 thing. You already heard you look fine. MOVE ON. Work on your lifestyle. You seem young enough. What's your plan? Here's a hint: If it's about as deep as world of wracraft/Halo/Call of Duty this weekend, then you ain't getting laid. What are your goals? What are you doing? Working at McDonald's? That's Fine!! But I want to hear that you are working your way up, have a plan to make manager in 6 months and someday you WILL own your own block of Micky D's... So your looks are fine. Polish your style. AND GET YOUR LIFESTYLE IN ORDER. A guy going places is sexy to women... you don't have to be there yet... but you damn well better be pointed in the right direction. Ok... ok... I hear your retort... but how come that loser keeps getting the girl. Well maybe he's a damn good drug dealer... or has his little social circle all figured out and is climbing that social ladder... who cares? Don't worry about the other guys. Take care of YOU. The girls will take notice. You won't attract every girl on earth... no guy does. But the better you improve yourself in a way that is true to your own ideal, then more women out there will want to sample your goods.
rocketman122 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Originally Posted by Gentleman810 I know that being attractive/handsome doesn't mean anything at all. dont kid yourself. it means A LOT. I live in the real world and everything goes your way when youre good looking. one one hand you say I dont care about my looks but look how insecure you are about it that you have to make a post asking for peoples opinion. kind of a pity post imo. your low self esteem/confidence will push woman away. also, dont look too much into the "youre cute" comments. cute means very little. it means youre ok. if they said hot, handsome, youre good looking then thats an indication. cute is a nice way of saying youre not that ugly and they dont want to be brutally honest with you. if a person is hot, the girl would say it stright out. dont kid yourself. 1
GirlontheLam Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 also, dont look too much into the "youre cute" comments. cute means very little. it means youre ok. if they said hot, handsome, youre good looking then thats an indication. cute is a nice way of saying youre not that ugly and they dont want to be brutally honest with you. if a person is hot, the girl would say it stright out. dont kid yourself. You should probably ask the women who said it where it lines up for them on the scale of attractiveness and appeal. For some women, they only want to date "hot." Personally, I tend to reserve handsome for men older than me who look distinguished. Cute tends to be attached to men who look "boyish." But to be quite honest, cute is generally what my preference is. Hot? Well that takes a little more than a picture. For me hot takes attractiveness and chemistry. I can only ascertain cute, good-looking and attractive on the basis of a picture alone.
rocketman122 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 (edited) You should probably ask the women who said it where it lines up for them on the scale of attractiveness and appeal. For some women, they only want to date "hot." Personally, I tend to reserve handsome for men older than me who look distinguished. Cute tends to be attached to men who look "boyish." But to be quite honest, cute is generally what my preference is. Hot? Well that takes a little more than a picture. For me hot takes attractiveness and chemistry. I can only ascertain cute, good-looking and attractive on the basis of a picture alone. I never have been called cute on my looks. I get "youre so sweet" but it wasnt about my looks. I got hot, sexy, handsome and good looking, but not cute. I also think the way he dressed in the pictures impacted the womans comments. I would be embarrassed if I was called cute. I didnt see a "youre good looking" comment. I think he could improve his looks though. seal is an ugly asfkkk singer but he has sex appeal. Id take that over cute or even good looking any day. yes, even over good looking. sex appeal is way more powerful and important than beauty. its especially important in a woman. when you say cute to a girl its not a good thing. what? youre going to say "eh, youre ok"? so you say cute not to insult. hot is hot and good looking is that but cute is none of those. that "You're not ugly" says it all. and all the woman here just dont want to insult so they downplay it. thats ok. its very admirable and kind of you (not being sarcastic). im just being honest. if youre good looking, people will say it. if youre ugly, people try to downplay it not hurt the persons feelings. Edited December 10, 2012 by rocketman122
ascendotum Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Yeah, the scar is something that shows up in every picture. I have been told that when I was little (age of 2) I felt and bumped my head on the corner of the street. Blood everywhere but I seemingly didn't cry XD. Booorrring. when girls ask you about it...you got it stakeboarding down this really steep hill when you were 12 or you got it in fight and one the other guys had a bike chain or you got trail bike riding when you tried to mono over this gully but crashed. As for getting called 'cute' to your face, I agree with Rocketman, its more of a pat on the head compliment than a pat on the bum compliment from a woman. Its definitely better than being told 'you're a really nice guy' or 'you're a sweet guy' but you cannot put a lot of stock into it, when it comes to your sex appeal for women. 1
Perplexingana Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I know how it feels to feel I unattractive which btw you are very handsome . I have felt this way too especially when it comes to girls, I am bi and I have had boyfriends but I haven't yet had my first girlfriend. I finally have a date tomorrow with a beautiful lady, and so it has helped boost my confidence a bit. I think you just need to try and be patient there is someone out there for everyone we just have to wait . Keep your head up kid, don't lose faith, she's out there! 1
GirlontheLam Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I never have been called cute on my looks. I get "youre so sweet" but it wasnt about my looks. I got hot, sexy, handsome and good looking, but not cute. I also think the way he dressed in the pictures impacted the womans comments. I would be embarrassed if I was called cute. I didnt see a "youre good looking" comment. I think he could improve his looks though. seal is an ugly asfkkk singer but he has sex appeal. Id take that over cute or even good looking any day. yes, even over good looking. sex appeal is way more powerful and important than beauty. its especially important in a woman. when you say cute to a girl its not a good thing. what? youre going to say "eh, youre ok"? so you say cute not to insult. hot is hot and good looking is that but cute is none of those. that "You're not ugly" says it all. and all the woman here just dont want to insult so they downplay it. thats ok. its very admirable and kind of you (not being sarcastic). im just being honest. if youre good looking, people will say it. if youre ugly, people try to downplay it not hurt the persons feelings. Well there is a difference between someone asking you in person, and you have to respond. And on the internet, where you can easily ignore if you have nothing positive to say. In person people tend to diffuse. Cute is generally positive. If someone thinks you are ugly they say something like "you have nice eyes" or "you have great shoulders." or "you have presence." 1
Emilia Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 look like: http://i1355.photobucket.com/albums/q711/Insomnia710/Ugh2.jpg http://i1355.photobucket.com/albums/q711/Insomnia710/Ugh.jpg Once again, I still can't believe I'm doing and still feel pathetic about it actually might help me. Honest opinions are appreciated. I am still 20 though, maybe the uglyness might cover up in a few years. Your face is nicely symmetric - which is what handsome is - and I can't help thinking you would look very lovely if you grew your hair out and found a flattering cut. If you hit the gym more and got those shoulders wider, you would do very well I think. 2
Author Gentleman810 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Your face is nicely symmetric - which is what handsome is - and I can't help thinking you would look very lovely if you grew your hair out and found a flattering cut. If you hit the gym more and got those shoulders wider, you would do very well I think. Thanks, I never thought of a haircut before really, when I was little I did have my hairs a bit longer but now it's just plain simple. I will let my hair grow longer and see how it fits me. The difficult thing is, finding a right haircut but I'll figure something out I guess.
Emilia Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Thanks, I never thought of a haircut before really, when I was little I did have my hairs a bit longer but now it's just plain simple. I will let my hair grow longer and see how it fits me. The difficult thing is, finding a right haircut but I'll figure something out I guess. There are so many options for guys at your age, so many trends. Start having a look before your hair is too long so you don't panic. The thing is, some girls - especially in your age bracket - find short hair like yours a little severe at times. Longer hair with a nice cut gives you a softer look.
Author Gentleman810 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 There are so many options for guys at your age, so many trends. Start having a look before your hair is too long so you don't panic. The thing is, some girls - especially in your age bracket - find short hair like yours a little severe at times. Longer hair with a nice cut gives you a softer look. I was searching a bit on the internet, finding haircuts from several male models. I was thinking of a haircut such as the one of francisco lachowski or jon kortajarena. I honestly wouldn't know how it'd such a haircut would fit on my head but I think it might be worth trying though. I'll just keep looking.
Emilia Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I was searching a bit on the internet, finding haircuts from several male models. I was thinking of a haircut such as the one of francisco lachowski or jon kortajarena. I honestly wouldn't know how it'd such a haircut would fit on my head but I think it might be worth trying though. I'll just keep looking. Talk to some hairdressers. Check out shops when they are not busy attending clients and ask them what sort of style someone with the shape of your face and at your age usually go for. 1
PrinceAli94 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Dude what are you talking about? You're defintely above average. And this is coming from a guy You're lucky too because it looks like you've got a nice physique. I'm really lean/skinny and it's hard to put weight on, it take's a lot of work for me to get to a body type like yours, and you just naturally got it! No worries man. 1
mammasita Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I vote - NOT ugly. Work on your confidence. That will go a looong way. 1
Content Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Also, don't get any insecure ideas in your head thinking that people here on this forum are going to sugarcoat things and say you're attractive when you aren't...trust me, this bunch won't do that. I found that out first hand,wasnt good for the ego but sometimes i guess a dose of relaity is ok lol 1
yessy21 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Honey, you have beautiful eyes, full lips and a youthful face. there is nothing ugly about you. now about the eyebrows, you can go to a professional, many men do this, and have them trim everymonth a bit of the top. the extra little hairs, they will brush it evenly for you also. either way with the eyebrows fixed or not you are still handsome. 1
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