Author edgygirl Posted December 15, 2012 Author Posted December 15, 2012 Oh right if you are in the LDR forum you obviously are dating long-distance. You know, most girls would love meeting someone your type,a guy who is in touch with their emotions. That's the main thing I hope to find in a guy That and connection, so I totally get you. Nah people don't understand when someone like us gets involved in a LDR but it's because they don't find it hard or don't need to get this emotional connection we seek. I am open to find someone I connect with even if he's in the Polar Arctic hehe. Oh and that's why I was insisting in this DR-DistanceRelationship with the other doctor you mentioned, I felt all the signs that we might have that connection... although, yes - I'm not sure yet. It's so innebriating to find that type of connection that I find it hard to let go. And I find it hard as this thread shows to not jump into bed when I'm feeling a strong potential. I also wish I didn't require that kind of connection, makes it so much harder to find someone... Cudos for being such a great guy, I am sure the girl you end up with will be very happy and make you happy in return. I used to have a bf like this and I think it's a shame I was not ready to recognize his awesomeness and commit. And here I am running against time. Oh well. I still have hope 1
musemaj11 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I haven't had any problem attracting guys who make that kind of money (and are handsome, educated etc), even at my age. In fact I have a date next week with a blue eyed 6' cardiologist lol. He could certainly get a 25 yo right? The thing is wealth to a man is like a weapon. Even if you have a gun, you can still lose to a guy with a bow if you dont know how to utilize its potential. Just because someone is a loaded doctor, doesnt mean he will land a hot young bombshell unless he himself is confident enough to make a move on one. This is why wealthy men who have stunning women in their arms tend to be businessmen, lawyers, politicians, etc not doctors, programmers, scientists, etc. But I understand now most men don't care at all how much a woman makes or if she is successful professionaly. It took me years to understand that just because women instinctively want a stable man professionaly, that's not what a man wants or needs - we are indeed programmed differently biologically. I dont understand why its very difficult for plenty of women to realize this? I mean since high school years or even earlier boys have undersood that girls judge them first and foremost by their status be it financial (like having a car) or social (like being in the football team) not by their physical attractiveness. The things I say about money is because me -and most women- are strategists and I'm being real about what would it take having a baby. It's a shame but when I was younger and as you imply my value was higher in the eyes of men like yourself, I wasn't into settling down at all. Having a baby as a woman at the age of 40 is not very 'strategical' in the first place I should say. But then again as someone else already said it, starting a family is tough and it takes sacrifices. So you have to put your priority straight. What it is that you want the most? Having a baby or having a life of comfort? Picking one may considerably diminish the chance of getting the other. But honestly I think although we are biologically programmed to want certain things, it's not that black and white. I have always preferred men who are into someone's brains more than anything and found quite a few. I've been married briefly to one, younger than me, rich family, super handsome and 6'3. So your theory goes down the drain no? Studies show that without a college degree, one is very unlikely to succeed. But Bill Gates and Richard Branson are billionaires with no college degree. Does that mean the studies are wrong? No. Nothing is absolute. Exceptions do happen. How come the marriage ended briefly anyway?
Els Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 now this feels good Greznog This message is hidden because Greznog is on your ignore list. Heyyy, welcome to the club. 1
Els Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Oh right if you are in the LDR forum you obviously are dating long-distance. You know, most girls would love meeting someone your type,a guy who is in touch with their emotions. That's the main thing I hope to find in a guy That and connection, so I totally get you. Nah people don't understand when someone like us gets involved in a LDR but it's because they don't find it hard or don't need to get this emotional connection we seek. I am open to find someone I connect with even if he's in the Polar Arctic hehe. This is so true. One positive point about a genuine LDR (as in a LDR that both people are genuinely putting in the effort to make it work, and it shows) is the level of emotional connection and commitment required for anyone to even be willing to do it. That alone speaks a novel about the nature of the relationship and both partners. People who are only interested in the physical, and/or casual flings, don't do genuine LDRs. This is not to say that in-town relationships can't have that level of emotional connection or commitment, simply that a genuine, long-term LDR is almost guaranteed to have it. Else it would not last. That being said, I also think that OLD seems to be a little too commercialized, and I wouldn't bet on the odds of a genuine LDR emerging from that.
phineas Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 now this feels good Greznog This message is hidden because Greznog is on your ignore list. you really aren't ignoring him if you feel the need to still reference him. You are just going Nya nya then covering your ears. lame. 2
phineas Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 A woman who is 40 looking to have a baby & doesn't have the financial resources from her career to support that baby herself is a serious Red Flag to most men my age. Not many women who WANT a family make it to 40 without achieving that unless they have made some really poor choices, partied hard, or have some other kind of issues. I might consider career as a reason however I work with a lot of Female VP's with families so I don't really see how getting married & giving birth can make or brake a career since maternity leave is common practice in today's professional world.
Radu Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 OP, i actually have the reverse problem. I'm a guy and i'm ok with waiting a few dates untill sex. However, i had a tough time differentiating between those that make me wait because they are 'attention-whores' and had no real interest, and those that make me wait because they first want an emotional connection. One thing i noticed in the latter ones is the fact that they tend to start wanting it and exercise self-control [you can see it in their eyes and body language] and will also allow you [as a guy] to have small victories. Slowly but surely, you pass certain obstacles with them. Those that say 'i want an emotional connection first' tend to be amongst those that had no problem sleeping with a guy on a first date, but because you are 'relationship' ... they make you wait. I now view these as 'one of many' and view them as a pure numbers game. you really aren't ignoring him if you feel the need to still reference him. You are just going Nya nya then covering your ears. lame. I knew there was a reason i like you ... I usually end up saying the same thing to ppl.
sweetkiwi Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I like to wait. And guys who don't want to invest time with me without sexual gratification will stop calling. Thanks!!! Just because I've opened my legs once doesn't mean i ALWAYS have to. Should i ALWAYS sleep with guys on date 3? No. That's weird and forced. I really wanted to go home with my ex day one. But i didn't. I sat in his car front of my house and thought about it though. The first time i gave him head easy after he'd made dinner. Carried me upstairs and into bed. Got my pants off and then i said we couldn't. He said it was okay and not to worry. He was so genuinely sweet about it i showed him my skills. Something i reserve for boyfriends. (yeah that's my right too)
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