Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Hey guys, I got out of a bad break up about 10 months ago. Since then, I've been on dates with nearly a dozen different women. A few of them have lasted more than 1 date, but most don't. This most recent girl has been an exception. We've been dating for a month and a half now. She's a beautiful girl and we've had a blast together, but she also made it clear she wants to take things slow. We've been seeing each other about 1x week and have even slept together a few times (guess everyone's definition of "taking things slow" is different). We went to a concert together and seemed to connect well together, but she left for Boston a few days later for a weekend and it seems like she has been a little more distant since she's gotten back. She doesn't wish me good night in her texts anymore and just doesn't seem as into it. It'll be two weeks tomorrow that we haven't hung out. I asked if she wanted to hang out Thursday, but she said she was too tired. She told me that night however to call her this weekend. I texted her yesterday about what time she wanted to chat. No reply. I called her before I was about to go out that night and no answer. This is the first time she has never not responded to a text or call within a few hours. Perhaps I'm overthinking things or perhaps she might've lost her phone or something happened last night. But I feel like she is either losing interest or interested in someone else now. I guess I just have to wait to hear back from her and let go for now. I've tried to stay busy, but it's hard to stay busy on the weekends which I like to use as my downtime from my demanding job during the week. I guess I'm just disappointed in thinking she had a lot of potential and it just feels like this is going to fizzle out like it has with all my past dating experiences. Any insight would be appreciated.
coffeebean201 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I wouldn't get too hung up on how beautiful she is - I would focus on whether you are really getting to know her and whether or not she is really having fun and enjoying your company when she is with you. At this point - sounds like you date each other when you both have time.
Author Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Thanks for the advice coffeebean. You are right, I just need to relax and go with the flow. We had a nice chat and she is calling me tomorrow to plan a date for the week. I think I just want us to be official in the back of my mind just to say I have someone during the holidays. When in actuality, doing that is only going to sabotage things and put unnecessary pressure on both of us.
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