Greg Sigurdson Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 HI, I(28) met my girlfriend(27) in august 2002. It was love at first sight, or something like that, at least we were very devoted to each other, and I mean that. Doesent happen often. She became pregnant after we had been dating for 1month, and at that time in a healthy relationship. The news were of course surprise, but we were happy about it. Then she began to have morning sickness, (the whole day), she had gestional diabetes, always tired, too little amniotic fluids, aches and pains in back, partly do to difficult job(night shifts in a hospital), after 5months they found out the baby had a congenital defct in the lungs, the delivery was very hard, she lost a lot of blood, a lot of stiching to do, pain killers didnt work, had an infection for weeks after the birth, after a week they found the baby had 2congenital heart defects, and the lung defect. They saved the kid after 2 very big operations, and now he is fine, although he might need one more operation. Apart from this my girlfriend had lost her very close brother on year before we met. Our son is named after him and everybody loves him. He is wonderful. I mean finally you find the woman u love and this is what happens!! I hope somebody is willing to reflect on my and her situation. I can still see a little bit of the spark that was between us, but there has been so many events and hard situations, that its hard to find it. I know i have to find it out myself, and accept if this doesent work out, and think I have. I would be thankful if somebody, could say something about this. Regards, Greg (Norway).
bambi_4 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 This is probably just a rough patch. You said you found the woman you love. Well is that not enough, especially now that ye are a family. Work through the tough times and it will be worth it. Love isn't easy but no one said it would be!!
Greg Sigurdson Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Thanks for the reply. Yes, what you say makes some sense. U have to work for things, but hard things, dont become so hard, because they are worth something! In my case there was this great uncertainty at time about that! In my case my girlfriend, as you can imagine, went thru very difficult time, and I am not sure I was there for her all the time. For one thing, she moved back to her parents home half a year before we met. Its hard for the relationship. I mean everything changes, and dozens of times, during this time, I felt things were smoothing out, only for something new to go wrong, and her mood to go in a whirlwind ;-), and I was slapped back to the ground, many times, and each time hurt. Maybe during that time I wasnt really 100% behind her, I mean thats just normal reaction. You cant expect anyone to have stood 100% behind their partner in this situation, although they love them. The biggest part of this all is that probably nobody can understand what I am going thru. It is impossible to explain it. Regards, Greg
bambi_4 Posted August 12, 2004 Posted August 12, 2004 Well I know of one person who will have a fair idea as to what it was all like and thats your girlfriend. Don't forget bad times, if dealt with properly, can bring two people closer. All that has happened to you has happened to her too. These times ye are having may well seem like the end but only if you allow it. If you support her you will be supporting yourself too.
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