blue_jay_bird Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I reject or don't give guy's a chance really fast. One of the biggest things i reject is weather they where a dumper in their last relationship. If they dumped their girlfriend, i don't date them. Is this odd. Especially if they had a long term relationship. And well the list goes on, I feel like i'm protecting myself. Does anyone else do this?
Woggle Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 What if they had good reason for being the dumper?
iris219 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 You're entitled to feel however you want, but it seems unfair to reject someone without hearing the details of what happened. Not everyone's story will be the same. You should at least stick around long enough to understand why certain decisions were made. What's wrong with being the dumper? I would prefer that he be the dumper or I'll be convinced that he is still in love with her (if it was long term).
Silly_Girl Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I'd prefer a solid dumper (!) over a weasly passive-aggressive if-I'm-rubbish-enough-you'll-dump-me-and-save-me-the-hassle/guilt loser! 2
mortensorchid Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I'd prefer a solid dumper (!) over a weasly passive-aggressive if-I'm-rubbish-enough-you'll-dump-me-and-save-me-the-hassle/guilt loser! AMEN SILLY GIRL! THere's nothing worse than that! But honestly, I don't think there are any garantees in this world. If the man has never dumped a woman in their lives, don't assume that there wouldn't be a first time for everything and vice versa for women. You have no idea what will or will not unfold, because it's a different person each time with their own ideas and things that they bring to the table, good and bad.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Btw, these are just online conversations, from a dating web site. So i don't have much to go on. BUT When someone say's they broke up with there ex for the same reason you where dumped. You have to say it is very discouraging. Even the fact that they brought up ex's was a idiotic move on their part. Regardless, you don't have much to go on with blind internet dates. But i have to say, that was a deal breaker.
GLDheart Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I can see why you would shy away from the dumpers... maybe they are selfish and hurtful. But try and open up to other possibilities too. I dumped my Fiancee of ten years when she cheated on me. It broke my heart. I miss her everyday. I will never be with her again. I hold her accountable for her selfishness and hope she learns what she lost... If that makes me undateable by some good women, I accept that too... and still stand by my actions.
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