ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Ok, I have been two months post BU of a 9 year relationship. For the most part I am fine or at least I think I am. For some reason today I am hating it. I'm not sure why or what reasons have caused this. I have been on NC/LC for awhile now and usually when I have a setback I can identify an event or an occurrence that has led to this. For some reason I can not identify an event that is making me miss her or think about her. The bigger issue about this is that I will be relocating to a different state for my job soon. Somewhere that I will know no one and will be away from all this drama. My fear is that even though this would be a great opportunity and a definite help in moving on I'm afraid of what will happen if I have a setback. My support structure will not be there. Any one that has done this before have any advice? Anyone have setbacks and found out what has caused them?
Hopeful714 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I had a huge set back today. Woke up balling for no apparent reason. The skies are grey, I am lonely and X-mas is upon us. I am on LS and my ex is moved on. I am feeling sorry for myself today. I got better as the day went on and I know I have to suck it up and face tomorrow in a better mind state. Set backs happen, and you appear to have much on your mind. Don't get too down on yourself. Love your self and plan ahead for a better tomorrow. This all sucks but somehow it will hopefully get better. Good luck.
na49 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I have small setbacks every now and then. Today I woke up just missing her company, I wanted nothing more than to have her come back, then I realized she isn't and I went on with my day. Other days, I just don't think about her and have an easier time. It's no joke that it's a roller coaster of emotions, but I think it's normal to have bad days every now and then. Try not to let it ruin you though, let it just be a short episode that doesn't keep you inside crying all day. 1
Author ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Yeah... its a lot better now then it was 2 months ago. I'm just to the point where i'm so sick of this crap. I can't stand feeling this way. I hate it when it comes up and i'm just tired of it. I hate that fact that it comes and goes whenever it pleases. Don't get me wrong. I don't wake up and start balling but I get this freaking empty feeling and I hate it. As the day goes on I get better but still sucks all the same. I try not to let it ruin my day. How do you guys progress with all this?
na49 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I'm dealing with about the same time since the BU as you. (2 months) The first thing I do is realize that I'm doing it. If I'm just sitting there thinking to myself about her and how lonely I am, I try to get busy doing something. Make myself something to eat, watch TV, come here, do SOMETHING. The empty feeling does get old, and the holidays don't make it any easier, but we'll get through this with time. Just need to stay strong. Sometimes I need time to think about it though, if I keep it in it does nothing for me. But if you're feeling down just ask yourself "does it really pay for me to be miserable like this?"
Allumere Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I have been in one continual set back but I think the holidays are a big trigger for everyone.
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