ask_first Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 2 odd questions: 1. Not sure if it has been asked before, but there is a woman who I stumbled upon on LinkedIn and I really would like to take on a date! I don’t have her as a connection, but we are connected on 3rd degree(friend of a friend of a friend), which doesn’t mean much anyway! How do I go about it without sounding creepy? Should I introduce myself, ask her something on her fielf of expertise (I can pull this off – don’t want to mention too much info on here) and then if she replies to thank her and propose to take her for a drink as a “thank you”? I literally don’t know anything about her apart from the fact that we live in the same city and that she has a good education (which is a turn on). but sending a message on linkedin which is a professional tool for jobs etc to ask someone on a date sounds so wrong but I am so tempted! 2. Same story but on facebook this time. There is this other woman who is a friend of a friend of my ex (my ex mistreated me and was not a serious RL)on facebook and I would like to take on a date. Again, she is highly educated.I don’t use facebook much, and I am reluctant to message someone out of the blue to someone I don’t know. And what Iam I supposed to say? I am sure people doing that all the time, but probably people at their teens and early 20’s. we are both on our early 30’s. Again, why to put myself into all this effort when there are so many other women out there who I can date? I guess I like the challenge and there is something about those 2 women that I would like to experience face to face. At the end of the day, we might not click in person, but as Marcel Proust once said: On n'aime que ce qu'on ne possède pas tout entier. “We love only what we do not wholly possess” Thanks!
grkBoy Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I would not bother on LinkedIn. Pretty much everyone joins to connect/network for jobs/work. On Facebook it's risky as well. We've had others (not naming names) who have mentioned how they tried to add someone they know through a friend and then message them, or just plain out message someone they thought was attractive...only to be quickly rejected and blocked. If you want to take a risk, go for it...but I wouldn't fathom it succeeding unless you are good at charming women.
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