na49 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I haven't checked up on my ex in over a month so I have no idea if she is "officially" with the guy she cheated on me with or not. I've also been a little over a month of NC. After the semester is over, I won't see her much if at all. My question is, because I've gone so long without knowing anything about her life. Do you think if I saw her with another guy next semester it would set me back or because I've been NC for so long, it shouldn't bother me much? I really don't want any setbacks at this point.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I haven't checked up on my ex in over a month so I have no idea if she is "officially" with the guy she cheated on me with or not. I've also been a little over a month of NC. After the semester is over, I won't see her much if at all. My question is, because I've gone so long without knowing anything about her life. Do you think if I saw her with another guy next semester it would set me back or because I've been NC for so long, it shouldn't bother me much? I really don't want any setbacks at this point. Not really sure if anyone can intelligently answer that question. Heck, I've been absolutely no contact for 2.5 months with my ex (no calling, texting, facebook watching, anything) so I literally have no idea if she has a boyfriend, if she's hooking up with randoms, if she's drinking paint thinner, if she's sitting in a corner in her apartment crying and hoping I contact her (highly doubtful). I think about her still, but not nearly as much as I did two weeks ago, much less two months ago. That being said, I have no idea how I'd react if I saw her with a guy. No clue if it'd set me free or if it would just make me angry and sad. It's one of those things that you don't know how you'll react to until you are in that situation. 1
Frank13 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 If you have to ask the question, then yes it will set you back. Many people go a year or two, think they are healed, and then they see or hear something about their ex and they get set back to square one. 1
Author na49 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Hmm alright, well I guess I won't put myself into that situation then. As much as I'd love to never have to see her again, I probably will see her around campus eventually and she probably will be with another guy telling him the same things she told me. My hope is I'll get better every month and by the time I do see her with another guy it won't affect me. I'm enjoying the fact that I have no idea what is going on in her life even if I think I know, not knowing gives me comfort. Hoping to keep it this way.
suladas Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Hard to say, considering you were cheated on and that's a bit different, and you already know she's been with someone else. I don't think anything can really put you back to the start, maybe a setback but not as bad. Who knows, things work weird. Contacting my ex use to set me back, but the last few times hasn't bothered me at all which was a bit surprising, I mean I figured hearing from her for the first time in over 4 months would phase me but it didn't.
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