Myob12345 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) I'm looking for advice on how people cope when they aren't included in their boyfriend's social group. I'm not on bad terms with any of them, but the time I hang out with them is limited because I'm in a LDR and only see them all during breaks. The issue I have is with his friend's girlfriend, "Marge". I know Marge, we've talked, I'm always polite with her even though she isn't a person I would be friends with normally but I've found her a little insufferable since she made a snide remark about my schooling taking a long time (doctorate program). So Marge has recently taken it upon herself to completely integrate herself into her boyfriend "Richard's" life. She organizes theme parties and events, has somehow gotten all of his friends' phone numbers and contacts them regularly. IIf you're curious I can explain more about what her personality is like. It's great and all, but the problem is when she organizes events, I'm not on the invite list. Everyone is invited-- people from out of town, other guys' girlfriends, but not me. I get that she and I aren't bffs, but she knows I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and that everyone knows me. I've hinted a few times about my desire to participate in events with them, which have gone unanswered mostly, except for from "Richard" who is a nice guy and has made an effort to include me in things (probably because he knows I'm important to his friend/my boyfriend). My bf had another girl add me to the list of the latest event, so Marge texted my boyfriend a couple weeks later (as opposed to directly messaging me on facebook or something...) asking if I was coming or not (even though something came up, so I had posted on the wall already saying I couldn't make it). My boyfriend tells her I'm not coming. A few hours later she goes onto the event "wall" and posts "I'm so excited we have 100% turnout for this event!!!!!!!" I found this kind of hurtful, because it seems like she doesn't even consider me as part of their "group" and seems strange to me to comment on how "everyone is coming!!!" considering she just found out I couldn't make it. I guess I'm not sure how to cope with this girl. I'm angry, frustrated, and have a pet peeve about being left out of social groups. I worry about the future of my relationship with his social group because this girl literally organizes all of their hangouts excepting a few. My bf says Marge is just "stupid" and can't do math, and this isn't intentional, but I've met her, and she's not a dumb girl. Edited December 9, 2012 by Myob12345
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