Tia_angel Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Ex still in contact after breaking up with me. He rings everyday but doesn't want to get back together. He still says he loves me and that I am his best friend. He says he wants time to figure out somethings. I want to be friends with him but find it hard. He has a lot of problems at the moment with friends, health etc.Its hard to turn your back. He is a very genuine guy. I don't feel used by this but as he is not that type but that doesn't mean that this is the right thing to do. I don't think he will get back with me but hopes sometimes can be high. What happens in these situations??
Fayebelle Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 But if you are conflicted on the exact nature of your feelings than you need to tell him you need time to decide if you are ready for a platonic relationship. If he's a True Friend- than he'll understand.
Author Tia_angel Posted August 11, 2004 Author Posted August 11, 2004 He will stay friends, of that I am sure. But it will come out of the blue as its been over for a while. How do I nicely ask him to stop saying he loves me??
Fayebelle Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Explain that hearing those words conflicts Your feelings and you are trying to move to a mindframe that allows for a platonic friendship. It may even take a bit of time of NC to allow you to look at your relationship in this new light- that's how all of my exes and I were able to get on the same page.
simplybrill Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Ive tried and it was always a sticky situation, issues kept creeping back in from when we were dating,and muddled everything Its worth a try though!
Author Tia_angel Posted August 11, 2004 Author Posted August 11, 2004 Thanks guys. He will be ringing soon. Keep your fingers crossed as things are going into action. I'll dicuss the "love you" bit first and depending on reaction(if there is one) I may move to the NC part. I don't want him to think this is me testing him out I just want some peace of mind.
bambi_4 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Hey think you were on my thread earlier. Best of luck, hope it goes well and keep strong. Keep us informed as I'm going with the NC with my ex but someday hope to be friends. IF THATS POSSIBLE!!!
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