Romantic_Lefty Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 Trying to keep this short again, ha, but...4 months...4 complete months where i thought i was healing and moving on, after finally having enough of being treated poorly and leaving my gf, even if it was with the girl of my dreams whom i dated for almost 4 yrs (see other posts). and then i have to run into her. On a thursday night when i'm out at a friends kegger trying to have a good time. Ya know, move on.But, quick thinking did prevail, as me and my buddy headed downtown to meet some other friends just as she showed up. (the party was way too crowded and someone had a handgun with them) OH but low and behold! after we meet up with some friends downtown and start getting drunk, who has to walk into the bar? Yep, her. and she's accompanied by a friend of mine (not the one who hosted the kegger, or who i was with, completely different friend...i live in a small college town...you get to know a lot of people regardless if you want to or not). But seeing as it's actually mildly early still for this bar my now 'group' and her 'company' see each other because we are about the only ones there. Since it is a small college town...everyone knows everyone at least one way or another and so we go through the hey what's up and all that jazz. Except for her...she can't even say hi to me or look at me...and then just like that...she and my friend leave...together. Which has already got me fuming, missing her, and all of that. On top of that, throughout the night as i continue drinking with my buds and try to forget what happened, one of them who knows the whole story between me and her (other posts) comes over and mentions that she apparently wanted to talk to me and apologize. At this point there is no thinking...i called her and left a voicemail saying wtf you say you want to apologize now but yet you can't even say hi? There is more to this story, which i will happily divulge if anyone is interested...but to get to the bottom line, I'm completely broken right now. I literally do not know what to think or feel, its like beyond that sadly. How am i supposed to be ok when i run into that? To find out a friend of mine is probably dating you now and you can't even say hi to me yet you say you want to apologize and talk!? Any words of encouragement, advice, or yeah even a scolding for calling her when drunk ha would be greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
bitterruin Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 I'm not going to scold you for calling her, you already know it was a mistake, and honestly I probably would have done the same thing. Just don't respond if she calls you back and resume NC. Whatever it is she has to say she can leave it in your voicemail. I understand you feel like **** right now but you'll quickly go back to feeling better. I also live in a small college and run into my ex and his new boyfriend almost every day. Just keep your head high and know that you're gonna keep running into them but nothing that they do is any of your business anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romantic_Lefty Posted December 10, 2012 Author Share Posted December 10, 2012 Much thanks for the input. And yeah it just hit me so hard because i hadn't run into her sooner i guess it just overtook me. That and finding out i guess she did or does want to apologize for stuff kinda got my hopes up. but oh well "turn your face towards the sun, and the shadows will fall behind you" Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Dude, you were better off staying NC. You texting her did nothing for you except letting her know that she can still get under your skin; hence, she still holds some kind of power over you. Link to post Share on other sites
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 It's all natural Lefty, don't worry about it. I'm sure you had this moment in your head before, daydreaming about how this encounter would go down. Now you know the truth, you no longer need to fear seeing her again when you're out. She'll be cold, she'll be distant, and if not, YOU will because of how she treated you with very little respect. This is just another step in the "process" which you just went through. Congrats!! Just another step toward freedom. I'm guessing she never even responded to your voicemail huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Romantic_Lefty Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 Eventually, she did. Which led to a very long and drawn out conversation that seems there could be chance for reconcile, but the more i think about it and with people's input just seems another chance for her to think i am below her and to hurt me. if anyone is interested i will try to put up that conversation given i can make it so it remains withing the 'rules' of this forum. The actual hardest thing to grasp and deal with is how a person can be so inhumane towards another. Especially coming from a small town where we grew up together and then called each other best friends and lovers for so long. Link to post Share on other sites
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