fray5 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) I've been seeing this girl for about 3 wks now and shes possibly one of the sweetest girls I've met. We've been on 5 dates and on top of that I took her to church recently. I kissed her the second date and on the third date which was more romantic, she seemed to loosen up and let the tongue slip in. On the next 2 dates we kissed but nothing really like the 3rd. While we weren't in as good Of a place for it, I kinda expect it to pick up from now on. However, I don't want to pressure her too much and freak her out bc she said she wants to take things slow. Usually by this point the girl is always all over me so it's hard to tell how to approach this. We hold hands everywhere and touch a lot just walking around and stuff but I feel like I need to show her that I'm more physically into her. So I've planned a movie at my place for this upcoming week and figure that would be a good chance for me to esclalate things a bit. What do you all think? Is this a good plan and how far should I take it? I also want to mention that we're both in our mid twenties with her being a couple years younger than me. Thanks for any help! Edited December 9, 2012 by fray5
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Sounds good. Every woman is different, so it's better to watch her response as you try to progress things rather than getting a specific timeline from strangers. If you're going too fast, she'll push back, and that's your cue to go no further during that session. If you're never getting push back, you're probably not progressing fast enough. Not every woman will jump you. Many women let the guy set the pace. If he goes too fast for her, she'll slow him down, but she's not going to speed things up. You can't go wrong if you're respectful of the cues she gives you about her boundaries. These shift as she gets to know you better. But I can tell you, as someone who does go slow, that there is such a thing as too slow.
Author fray5 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) Sounds good. Every woman is different, so it's better to watch her response as you try to progress things rather than getting a specific timeline from strangers. If you're going too fast, she'll push back, and that's your cue to go no further during that session. If you're never getting push back, you're probably not progressing fast enough. Not every woman will jump you. Many women let the guy set the pace. If he goes too fast for her, she'll slow him down, but she's not going to speed things up. You can't go wrong if you're respectful of the cues she gives you about her boundaries. These shift as she gets to know you better. But I can tell you, as someone who does go slow, that there is such a thing as too slow. Everything you said is exactly what I was thinking. It's just hard bc she's hard to read sometimes, like when I'm kissing her I want to continue but it's these short kisses she does that stops me. I was worrying that maybe I've already gone too slow since its been 5 dates. Do you think that's possible? Or maybe I'm just overthinking it now. I'm a traditional guy also and so far it's pretty much been me calling her most of the time. I feel like here sometime she should start initiating more contact with me from her Edited December 9, 2012 by fray5
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