simplybrill Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 I was the dumper, it seems like I always am lately. I dont put up with BS like girls hanging all over my man, and him not caring...and I definitely dont put up with my man ignoring my feelings or ditching me all the time for his friends...so why do I feel so horrible about the whole thing? I miss the good times, but now I think that was all an act to "catch me." so that he could get comfortable enough to start acting like I would be around forever and wait on him. Why do guys do that? I just wanted him to love me as much as I loved him. I just wanted him to wake up and be real with me, be a real boyfriend. Gawd, im gonna cry, cuz I know im gonna run into him soon, and Im stuck in this icky funk. I hate it when they promise you the world and then they change on you...so terribly deeply dissapointing...
LatinKiss Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 I absolutely agree, it's like guys always want to play games, see just how far you'll go, how much you'll put up with. I think you did the right thing here, if he ignored your feelings and ditched you for his boys well then your not missing out on much anyway. Not all guys are like this. I went through this forever, at 25 and having broke up w/ my last boyfriend of 3yrs b/c he was such a kid still I can tell you that I have finally met a real man. This guy, he is so sweet, so attentive, so caring and in tune to my feelings....it's amazing. I never thought a relationship could be like this but now that I know these type are out here...these true men, real caring and loving men...I say to you step from this and make room for your real "Mr. Right" who will be there for you in every way, who wont test or play with you. You have to keep dumping them until you find the one that you just can't live w/out!
Author simplybrill Posted August 13, 2004 Author Posted August 13, 2004 Hahaha, chica you put your booty as your picture,thats great- I thought about doin that myself - thankyou so much for replying it really helps me a lot knowing someone went through the same thing I did and found a good man after all Gracias!
NotaBadGuy Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 Simply Brill, Not all guys play these games. I do know the type though. And the coin flips both ways. I don't know your individual situation, but in my case I have learned that having goals, discipline, integrity, self respect, hard working and so on wind up in the same position as yourself. I was the dumpee though. Seems like I always am for the most part. As my name states, I am not a bad guy. I know that is a pretty blank statement at this point, but I pride myself in those character traits. You should not have to settle for a man who does not meet your needs. Real men are out there. A real man will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, not mistreat you. A real man will make you feel whole, not empty. A real man will respect you and what you want to be and who you are. A real man listens to your needs and desires. I guess you get the picture. Sometimes what seems so real ends up being not so real after all. I've been there. Just don't feel bad. It is tough. Don't expect mediocrity in what you want, expect, and desire in a relationship. You shouldn't have to. There are too many decent guys out there who would give the world to be with a woman who wants the same. And sometimes you have to go through the bad to totally appreciate the good ones. I could be jaded and knock women based on my past experiences, but I know that all women are not like the ones I have dealt with. Not all women will leave me for another guy. At the same time, we all have our faults. I know I have mine. For example, in my last relationship, I was unable to be around and give her as much attention as she needed and deserved. But it was not because I did not want to be with her, it was because I was in law school and it demanded emense amounts of my time and attention plus working. It was supposed to be a mutual understanding between us. In the end, I was left for another guy who was able to give her the attention she needed and desired. Shame on me for not being there enough I guess. Not all guys play games and there are guys left who want nothing more than to give their woman the world. These guys are genuine. And I do believe these women still exist. In the words of Mark Twain, you have to love like you've never been hurt. These are the lessons in life that we must learn from. Keep your head up. Sounds like you deserve better. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. The funk will pass in time. Just my thoughts though.
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