Sweett Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Saw my ex and it made me angry! So I saw my ex yesterday for the first time in a year after he cheated and decided to leave me for her. Saw him as he was in his truck leaving a store when he pulled out of he drove up beside me... I looked at him and he looked at me and we both had no facial expressions. Kinda hate that I saw him because it made me angry and upset all over again!!!!! My friends were like u didn't flick him off or give him a dirty look and I was like I didn't want to give him the satisfaction. I am still very hurt as the way he left me was awful and he tried his best not to make himself look like a bastard to relieve his guilt. Telling me the girl I caught him with was just friends, he loved me but wasn't leaving me to be with her but I eventually found all of that to be a lie as he and this girl are engaged now!!!! This person called me by phone and broke up with me at work a few hours later I went to him in tears asking him why??? So he tried to give me tears as well as if he felt bad for me but now I just think that was guilt. I can't see how he had feelings for me especially the way he left me. I constantly asked him if it was someone else because he got emotionally distant from me and he always denied it. I don't know just making eye contact with him yesterday had me in a funk. Someone please give me some advice should I still be so hurt and angry after a year and 5 months?
Romantic_Lefty Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Everyone has their own way and time frame to deal with things. Especially when it's matter of the heart.
portableversion Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 ur situation sounds a little bit like mine. i never caught her cheating on me but ive always said u left me for this other guy, shed say no its nothing serious, even after our divorce shes lied about him and i dont know why. at least ur ex hasnt been tellng you they miss you and hope and wish you all would get back together. Im going to a group called surving divorce and they told me that the things she has said to me keeps offering hope and anymore they feel she is lying to me or is putting me on the back burner in case it dont work out with this guy or other guys. yeah like the other oster said when it comes to matters of the heart we all have our own time, no one can tell you when to move on or what ever. if you really loved someone and they've dumped you its gonna hurt. the more you loved them the more hurt and more time its gonna take. you've given me some perspective, you guys were not married and youve got almost 1 yr and a half. so im probably right there with you folks at group told me ive probably got 2-5 yrs. if you gotta cry let it out, goto church, find god thats all we got, jesus loves us and is around and wont ever abandon us
Author Sweett Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 ur situation sounds a little bit like mine. i never caught her cheating on me but ive always said u left me for this other guy, shed say no its nothing serious, even after our divorce shes lied about him and i dont know why. at least ur ex hasnt been tellng you they miss you and hope and wish you all would get back together. Im going to a group called surving divorce and they told me that the things she has said to me keeps offering hope and anymore they feel she is lying to me or is putting me on the back burner in case it dont work out with this guy or other guys. yeah like the other oster said when it comes to matters of the heart we all have our own time, no one can tell you when to move on or what ever. if you really loved someone and they've dumped you its gonna hurt. the more you loved them the more hurt and more time its gonna take. you've given me some perspective, you guys were not married and youve got almost 1 yr and a half. so im probably right there with you folks at group told me ive probably got 2-5 yrs. if you gotta cry let it out, goto church, find god thats all we got, jesus loves us and is around and wont ever abandon us I appreciate your advice but I hate to say this I stopped attending church after this break up because I felt Like god was punishing me. When the relationship was good I used to pray and pray for my relationship and thank god for sending me the person who is now my ex but yet god took this person and placed him with someone else leaving me betrayed and torn emotionally and with trust issues. Just seems god blessed him with a marriage to someone he cheated on me with to leave me alone and picking up the pieces. It feels like punishment to me so I kinda lost my faith.
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