looks2k1ll Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) Hello everyone, I've been following threads here for a while after my bad break up with my ex of 3 years (found out he had been sleeping with a friend of his for a year while we were dating - mind you, this is after I forgave him after he confessed cheating once with a different person around the same time) and they've been really helpful. Since he told me about his year long affair, I've cut off all contact with him. We both live away from our respective hometowns and I am out of job opportunities and have decided to relocate back to my hometown in a few weeks. Last week after a month or so of NC he started sending me a couple of emails. The first one was a classic breadcrumbs/reset situation - very casual, friendly and with complete amnesia about what had happened between us a few weeks earlier. I didn't respond, and about five days later he sent me another brief email saying that he misses me, he really wants to hear from me and that he'll be leaving for his hometown... the SAME DAY I have a flight out (coincidence). I obviously also haven't responded to this email. I'm concerned, because NC has been doing me a lot of good and now I'm wondering if there will be a moment when we run into each other/he sees me in the airport and I'm cornered. I know that he wants to talk to me and get closure before he goes back to his home town. He doesn't want to feel like a complete *******, also people back home will be asking him about me so I'm sure he wants something better to say than "The last time I saw her she was sobbing inconsolably because I'd been cheating on her." Of course, we could be in the airport at completely different times of day, but I just have this bad feeling that I will run across him. It's not a very big airport. What do I do should that happen? How would you all respond? Edited December 9, 2012 by looks2k1ll
veggirl Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Wear your headphones and pretend you don't see him. You aren't obligated to talk to him, even if he does "corner" you, you say "I have nothing to say to you, please leave me alone" and walk away..go to the bathroom or something. also you could look up flight times and see if it is possible you will be there at the same time or not.
Author looks2k1ll Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 Thanks veggirl. My favorite headphones are broken but I think you're right, I'll have to acquire some cheapies and also have my shades on. I looked up flight times - there are a few that day headed to where he lives. The most are at the same time as my flight. As in, of 12 flights total, 5 are at the same time as me, 2 are earlier, 3 are quite a bit later and 2 are at the crack of dawn. The good thing is I'll be prepared for it and he won't, so I can hopefully make a quit exit as he's processing what happened. Sigh. I had really wanted to disappear out of his life without a trace...
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