movingon12 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Next time you feel the urge, post it on here instead. It will get easier though.
youngnlove89 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I am, well WAS, the same way. It's a vicious cycle, until one day you realize it isn't worth it anymore. Just learn from your lesson and don't do it again. We all have been there, we all have done that. 1
brokengirl3 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Yes next time u feel the urge post here like i do!!Forget it and continue NC!
HopelessRomantick Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I know I'm stupid but I am hurting so badly you are not alone. my gf broke off our 3 year committed relationship in july. she begged me to not break contact with her, she begged me to still be her bff, i love her unconditionally and agreed to both. [note to self: you're a pathetic fool]. turns out i made it easy for her to break it off, then I made it easy for her to move on. last week i told her i can't do it anymore, but if she ever needed me she can contact me but the casual communication has to stop so "I" can move on. she said she understood and respected that. well it's been since tuesday (not even a week yet) and maintaining NC. It is one of the most difficult challenges I have ever faced. I sit here in my bed with a text ready to send to her but I am trying so hard to hold back from sending it. I wanna tell her that i miss her, and that I miss "Us". but I know it will only comfort her to know i'm still here for her as a backup plan. again, i really just wanted you to know, that you are not alone in your hurting time. everyone says NC and it will get better. I hope so, I really hope so. despite the pain she has caused me, i still love her unconditionally. I am angry but I don't think there is anything she could do no matter how awful to cause my love for her to die. hang in there... Signed, pathetic hopeless romantic foolish xbf 2
HopelessRomantick Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 oh and one more thing KJBA, you are not stupid. the heart wants what the heart wants. it's that simple. 1
Author KJBA2816 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 Thank you, my friends took me out for tea and drinks and spoke it over with me, my parents and our mutual friends are fed up of it and I just feel so hurt that he doesn't care. Thank you so much, tomorrow is day 1 of no contact and start again. Thank you so much, I really mean it! 2
na49 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Nothing good can come from breaking NC. We all are in this together and we're all here for you. No one said it'd be easy and as you can see, it isn't. but we are all strong enough to get through this. I find that posting here when I feel like I'm "wanting my ex too much" helps me realize that she wasn't all that and that I can do much better. 1
Author KJBA2816 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I just feel it took me that long to find a boy I was crazy about and I feel like I won't find anyone else but 3 weeks later he found someone.. I can't of meant that much to him? But when/how will I find someone else? He wants nothing to do with me and I can't get my head around it I just feel stuck in a rut of missing him and its all I can think about x
LostOne1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 It takes time but after awhile you'll feel stupid and lame for breaking NC and you won't do it anymore. That's how it was for me.. NC seemed insane! So I broke it over and over... and over... It also ONLY made things WORSE each time and created more fights. Probably ruined any chances we had at sitting down and talking it out. But then I stopped and went into total NC. I realized I messed up and should have done it from day 1 of the BU. But we learn.. and soon you'll learn that NC is the best way to heal.
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