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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

Eternal Sunshine

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I know some of you won't approve but I have been conducting a little experiment.

 

I made a fake OKC profile using a picture of a girl with kind of pretty face but clearly very overweight. Profile is short and dumb-ish. I answered some match questions too to make it look more real. I put her body type as a "little extra", although the pictures show that there is a LOT extra.

 

Using fake profile, I have messaged most of the guys I have met through OKC during the last year. Most of them claimed to me that:

 

a) they hate casual sex and would never do it (of course, that comes after I mention something like that first) or

 

b) that they can't even "get it up" if a girl is not hot

 

They actually volunteered that info for me and were never even asked.

 

Keep in mind that I don't care for any of these guys, I have rejected most due to other reasons or things didn't work out. I always had a feeling that above statements were lies but I told myself that I am being too untrusting.

 

Anyhow, after couple of messages - this girl tells them that she is currently in a relationship but is looking for casual sex on the side (and hoping her bf doesn't find out ;)) - so not only this overweight girl is looking for NSA sex but she is cheating too.

 

EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. agreed to this. They full on wanted to make specific plans to come to this girl's house and f... her.

 

So they have lied to me and they would f.. anything and obviously have no problems with casual sex. I have also uncovered more interesting info: one guy that was most vocal about the fact that he never did casual sex in fact frequented group sex parties every few months.. etc etc.

 

I was hoping that one will say no to this, but NONE did :(

 

I just don't know why I am even called untrusting when an overwhelming majority of men (and humans in general) are filthy liars with no integrity :sick:

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Muhrica Member

Muhrica

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a few men on an internet dating site is not the overwhelming majority or counts for anything.

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Later82012 Established Member

Later82012

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I share your pain. I am also disgusted with a majority of the human beings.

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Muhrica, You're missing the point. 100% of the few men on the internet dating site completely contradicted everything they had previously stated.

 

That's 100%.

 

No exceptions.

 

I sadly suspect that even if the number had been greater, the odds would still have been greatly against them.

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Els Established Member

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ES, your sample is a subset of men on OKC who send messages to a girl with a dumbly written profile. I'm really not sure that is the 'overwhelming majority' of men...

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soccerrprp Established Member

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Wow, I am sorry, but you must have been through a lot to be so vitriolic. As a guy who entered the dating scene just this year after being out of it for 15 years, I must admit that there are a lot of guys who couldn't care less about commitment and it is true that most of them, likely, are trolling the OLD sites for sex. But we are all not like that and you should be empirically aware of that.

 

With this kind of attitude, it will be very difficult for you to find that special guy who deserves you.

 

I personally take offense. I am a MAN of integrity and do my best to treat all human beings being with respect. I slip at times, but if it makes any difference to you, if I would have responded (likely not since I am a particular preference for fit women), I would have warned her of her behavior, though none of my business and left it at that.

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Muhrica Member

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Muhrica, You're missing the point. 100% of the few men on the internet dating site completely contradicted everything they had previously stated.

 

That's 100%.

 

No exceptions.

 

I sadly suspect that even if the number had been greater, the odds would still have been greatly against them.

 

but it's the internet though lol, It still doesn't mean anything. A girl they don't deem attractive who wants NSA is to them the easiest lay they can get. We also don't know if she is being dramatic to enhance her point by claiming all of them. That's why I don't trust internet figures or much of the internet in general.

 

A guy with no standards is pretty frequent, but there are some who do care who they put their dick in. Granted, you probably won't find them online though.

soccerrprp Established Member

soccerrprp

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A guy with no standards is pretty frequent, but there are some who do care who they put their dick in. Granted, you probably won't find them online though.

 

There are and have been some guys with standards, decency online. The problem is that the majority of women are SO jaded/suspicious that they don't believe ANY of the profiles that demonstrate any semblance of cogency, substance....:)

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movingon12 Established Member

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Um, who's photo are you using? Does she know you're doing this? Has she given permission? If she hasn't, I would think you're on the verge of breaking a law, and even if it's not technically illegal, it's incredibly immoral.

 

How would you like it if someone put a picture of you on an online dating site with a 'dumb' profile and a message to say you were begging for NSA sex??

 

I really hope she's ok with what you're doing, otherwise, this may be the lowest thing I've seen on here...

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Muhrica Member

Muhrica

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There are and have been some guys with standards, decency online. The problem is that the majority of women are SO jaded/suspicious that they don't believe ANY of the profiles that demonstrate any semblance of cogency, substance....:)

 

Come on now, you can't go and do the exact same thing you are hounding her for. People need to stop saying majority this, majority that. we are not staticians. I agree that the most vocal groups are the girls you say, and the guys OP lists.

 

But they are not the majority. that's just silly thinking.

Carenth Established Member

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Thank you for your broad brush analysis at entire gender based on the behavior of a few bottom feeders on the internet. We should go get this research published in every media outlet as soon as possible.

 

Though I'm not sure what is more disturbing the thought that you actually think all men are like that or that you actually went and made an account to try and bait men like that.

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soccerrprp Established Member

soccerrprp

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Come on now, you can't go and do the exact same thing you are hounding her for. People need to stop saying majority this, majority that. we are not staticians. I agree that the most vocal groups are the girls you say, and the guys OP lists.

 

But they are not the majority. that's just silly thinking.

 

Okay, okay, you got me on that....how about "some."

xxoo Established Member

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Using fake profile, I have messaged most of the guys I have met through OKC during the last year. Most of them claimed to me that:

 

a) they hate casual sex and would never do it (of course, that comes after I mention something like that first) or

 

Wait....you told them that you hate casual sex? Isn't that a lie? :confused:

 

I share movingon's concerns about the use of a woman's photo for this purpose....

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xxoo Established Member

xxoo

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I think it is really unfair (and somewhat ironic) to bait single men with casual sex, and then be disgusted when they say yes.

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dasein Established Member

dasein

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I'm not surprised in the least.

 

I've always maintained that most guys would screw a knot-hole in a fence if they were sure their neighbors weren't watching and they wouldn't get splinters.

 

The only clear statement I see from the OP is that some unspecified number of men (10, 20, 100?) who:

 

1. are in OP's dating pool; and

 

2. are men whom OP got to know while using her real profile, in other words, of the men whom OP didn't reject before getting to know them, the ones she liked enough to email, talk with, date, whatever, of those men she liked, and she selected to continue contact with on the site and off;

 

3. most of them (she says she contacted most with the fake profile) are willing to engage in NSA sex with a cheating OW woman.

 

Does this say more about "most men's" propensity to screw a knothole? or about OP's selection criteria of men who would screw a knothole?

 

IMO, OP needs to reexamine her selection criteria.

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TigerCub Established Member

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I just don't know why I am even called untrusting when an overwhelming majority of men (and humans in general) are filthy liars with no integrity :sick:

 

Says the person with the fake profile ;)

 

I'm sorry - that's too funny.

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ascendotum Established Member

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Thank you for your broad brush analysis at entire gender based on the behavior of a few bottom feeders on the internet. ...

 

tch tch, you just insulted ES on her taste in men.

 

I'm actually quite surprised, that most of her dates would volunteer this info.."they hate casual sex and would never do it" + "they can't even "get it up" if a girl is not hot". I could imagine a couple of them getting carried away and blurting out this information, but surely not the vast majority of her 50+ odd dates. I'd have thought most guys would not go there and leave it unsaid, if it were false.

 

There are a lot of players on OLD, but also a lot of regular guys that wont knock back an offer of easy sex even if they go below their usual standards...and on OLD lots of guys think they have to lower their standards to get dates even. Like the OP many of these guys may have spent the past year on OLD and are still looking and don't have the benefit of an fwb to tide them over in the meantime. IDK, maybe their attitude in what they want out of OLD may have changed over time as frustration grew and tales of their hot looking mates exploits on OLD mounted up. Anyway this does forgive their deliberate deception, and I can understand her disappointment.

 

I know people are more forgiving when someone caves into their carnal desires when it involves an attractive personage, and you can be judged on the type of person who you date/sleep with, but I think its a little rough (given the tone of many of the female posters on LS) to use a man's willingness to sleep with an overweight woman, as a yardstick for his debasement (but I do get why in the context of this experiment). Look most guys are horny and when single if a woman seeks you out and offers it up gratis, well it is a bit of a game changer. The fact the fake woman is not single as well, well they don't come out looking too good. Again I'm surprised most said yes to being a OM as well.

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Carenth Established Member

Carenth

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I could care less about her taste in men, I don't like been guilty by association because I happen too have a penis.

 

I also find the OP's double standard about honesty and integrity hilariously ironic.

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dasein Established Member

dasein

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A woman and I made a funny, fake profile once. What I learned was that all men everywhere in the world say, "hey, you're hottttt" more than any other phrase. :lmao:

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Imported Established Member

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Wow OP, what a stupid "experiment".

Els Established Member

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Um, who's photo are you using? Does she know you're doing this? Has she given permission? If she hasn't, I would think you're on the verge of breaking a law, and even if it's not technically illegal, it's incredibly immoral.

 

How would you like it if someone put a picture of you on an online dating site with a 'dumb' profile and a message to say you were begging for NSA sex??

 

I really hope she's ok with what you're doing, otherwise, this may be the lowest thing I've seen on here...

 

This, too. Very concerning, ES... :(

Toddbt12y1 Established Member

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Women lie just as much. Women want sex just as much. Women want good looking guys just as much. This wagon should have broken years ago...its loaded one sided.

 

LOL, look at PoF and tell me the women are just lovely saints.

iris219 Established Member

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This is one of the reasons why I shun OLD. Your experiment doesn't say much about men as a whole, but it says a lot about the kind of men who use OLD.

 

I already knew that most of the men on OLD are not the kind of guys I'd want to know, so I'm not surprised. Sounds like you need a break from OLD.

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grkBoy Established Member

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ES, you've now seen the futility in OLD.

 

That and seen the nature of the pool of men you share social relations with.

 

Lord knows how many pretty women I've known who seemingly only know and hang out with jerks or douchey men because they're all hot and/or wealthy.

Carenth Established Member

Carenth

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This is one of the reasons why I shun OLD. Your experiment doesn't say much about men as a whole, but it says a lot about the kind of men who use OLD.

 

I already knew that most of the men on OLD are not the kind of guys I'd want to know, so I'm not surprised. Sounds like you need a break from OLD.

 

Her "experiment" if you can even call it that shows a whole lot of nothing, other than the men she likes would happily have sex with a kitchen faucet if given enough lube, which I have no problem with.

 

However when she takes this in depth "analysis" of the male population and then declares that the "overwhelming majority of men" are like that, yeah I take issue with that because it's groundless, generalised rubbish.

 

Not to mention she is guilty of the same misconduct she is harping on about, pot calling kettle black much?

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