Cutiepie1976 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Interesting responses! I've cuddled with every guy who eventually turned into a serious relationship, whether we met in real life or via OLD. *shrugs* One of my favorite activities, so I've never turned down an offer to cuddle.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 as others have said, how long have you know the person, ans context is important. With that being said, this statement seems off to me. It's reaks of I just want to get close to you any way I can desperation. I've cuddle with exceptionally attractive women before, my only real requirement is she needs to behave herself as well.
Author mesmerized Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 as others have said, how long have you know the person, ans context is important. With that being said, this statement seems off to me. It's reaks of I just want to get close to you any way I can desperation. I've cuddle with exceptionally attractive women before, my only real requirement is she needs to behave herself as well. I think men usually mean sex when they say it. With one of the guys I think he just wants a closeness/relationship like experience and we've been friends for a while.
Esoteric Elf Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. You are probably deciphering correctly. That being said, I know of a man who currently resides in England who has been a sort of "emotional tompon" for three close girlfriends (friends who are girls for lack of better terminology). He has cuddled with all three of them and not initiated sex. This being said, more likely than not, sex is probably, if not implied, the apogee of what may start out as cuddling.
johan Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I use that line when I come in from a run in the cold and my hands and feet need warming up.
ScreamingTrees Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I don't think a guy has to be gay, that's why I asked. It's just never happened to me that a guy cuddles with me in bed and doesn't want a kiss at least. Glad to know some guys are capable of it. Maybe it's just the guys you've been meeting? Maybe they're not capable of that sort of intensely focused bonding? If I like a girl, I'm down for anything. I might want to go at it like jack rabbits, and I'd hope that she'd feel the same, but if I break out the Barry White CDs and she's not up for it, merely embracing each other and exploring and enjoying each other's bodies in an intimate, sensual way is just as if not more enjoyable for me. 7
Lonely Ronin Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 If I like a girl, I'm down for anything. I might want to go at it like jack rabbits, and I'd hope that she'd feel the same, but if I break out the Barry White CDs and she's not up for it, merely embracing each other and exploring and enjoying each other's bodies in an intimate, sensual way is just as if not more enjoyable for me. What he said... 1
Author mesmerized Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Maybe it's just the guys you've been meeting? Maybe they're not capable of that sort of intensely focused bonding? If I like a girl, I'm down for anything. I might want to go at it like jack rabbits, and I'd hope that she'd feel the same, but if I break out the Barry White CDs and she's not up for it, merely embracing each other and exploring and enjoying each other's bodies in an intimate, sensual way is just as if not more enjoyable for me. I clarify that I'm not talking about a boyfriend or someone you have had sex with already. I'm talking about a new guy cuddling you in bed without wanting anything more at all...yeah it never happened to me, they always want to at least kiss or touch some other parts lol Yeah, maybe it's the type of the guys or maybe they didn't like me too much? They do listen when I say no though. It's just that they always do try to escelate.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Well, if that's the case, can you cuddle me ? Haha! Only if you will cuddle with me. According to this thread though, you're trying to trick me with that line. Can I trust you???
Lonely Ronin Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 It's just that they always do try to escelate. Maybe you're so irresistible they can't help themselves......
Author mesmerized Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Maybe you're so irresistible they can't help themselves...... lol, well that is true but I believe most women have the same experience.
ScreamingTrees Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I clarify that I'm not talking about a boyfriend or someone you have had sex with already. I'm talking about a new guy cuddling you in bed without wanting anything more at all...yeah it never happened to me, they always want to at least kiss or touch some other parts lol Yeah, maybe it's the type of the guys or maybe they didn't like me too much? They do listen when I say no though. It's just that they always do try to escelate. As long as this person would clarify whether she sees any sort of future with me, short term or long. I wouldn't cuddle with someone I'd just met, that'd just be weird to me.. I also would rather not be her cuddle buddy/emotional tampon. I want to know where I stand rather than have my feelings played with. I'd actually be MORE comfortable just having ONS/NSA sex.. I mean, have you ever heard of "casual cuddling"?
Lonely Ronin Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 lol, well that is true but I believe most women have the same experience. Maybe, the few times I had a hard time with it, was when someone was trying to get me to escalate. 1
GLDheart Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I can picture a time when it's ok to cuddle without sex: when you're in her father's living room and he's sitting on the other couch watching tv. But there will be plenty of risky behaviour teasing her with what she can't have because of that said obstacle ;-) 2
Under The Radar Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Haha! Only if you will cuddle with me. According to this thread though, you're trying to trick me with that line. Can I trust you??? Absolutely ... and, for the record, I have no hidden agenda . 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Honestly, there is nothing wrong with cuddling at all. It would be weird, if it was done the first few dates. Cuddling is what? A passionate form of expressing ones' love towards one another in a pyshical way, without pushing it further. Now, for a serious relationship, there is nothing wrong or gay about it. Gay is cuddling a boy/boy or girl/girl. Not a boy/girl. More care you show her anyway, the more she might be willing to "express" to you. 1
RR1 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I gotta admit that it does annoy me a bit that people automatically assume that a cuddle has, or is going, to lead to sex. I just don't get it. A loving relationship should be about so much more than just sex. Sex is such a small part of a relationship and yet everyone seems to assume that every act is geared towards having sex. Being tactile with the person you love is so important and being tactile should not just be about sex. I think this is too often where many guys do themselves a disservice. I'm a guy and i think the most loving and rewarding thing you can ever do with a loved one is cuddle them not because you want somethig else but just because you want to be close to them. And also make it clear to them you are cuddling them only for the pleasure it gives you to cuddle them not because you want it to lead to anything else. You're cuddling that person not because of any ulterior motive but just because you love them and you want to show that person you love them. I think if you can make someone understand that you are cuddling them and you really are not expecting any sort of sexual intimacy but you are cuddling them just for the joy that holding that person gives you and you want to show that person that really is the only reason you are doing it then that person will know that you really do truly love them. Hold someone just for the joy of holding them, hold them because they mean everything in the world to you, hold them to show them you are there for them and you love them more than anything. If you cuddle someone for those reasons i think that is easily as joyful and passinate as having sex with someone. It's about giving love and strength and support to someone without wanting anything back but just for the joy of being there for someone you really love. Everything shouldn't just come down to sex all the time. There should be more, so much more to loving someone, and holding them tight just for the joy of it should be a staple part of that and you should do everrything you can to make them know that. I think if you cuddle someone for those reasons and they truly know you are cuddling them for those reasons alone, because you just want to show your love to them, then you have something special which is what love should be all about. True love should be giving yourself without any expectation of anything in return and the cuddle should be a major part of that. 3
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Perfectly said! You captured what makes cuddling such a special activity. Like I said, it's one of my favorite ways to bond and connect.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Absolutely ... and, for the record, I have no hidden agenda . A fellow cuddler! Glad to hear my yum yums are safe:laugh: Now, will you also abandon that bag of popcorn you're cuddling?
Under The Radar Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 A fellow cuddler! Glad to hear my yum yums are safe:laugh: Now, will you also abandon that bag of popcorn you're cuddling? You got it .
kaylan Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Im straight forward. If I want sex, I will say so or initiate. If I really like a girl, of course Ill want to cuddle sometimes with no sex.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I remember cuddling with my ex; it not only gave me a chance to just be near her, but gave me a great chance to speak comfortably to her. Nothing loud, just comforting words, usually about the future. In the end, neither cuddling nor sex compared to just talking to her; but I am odd like that, as her voice was rather something I cared deeply to hear. A touch can be forgotten ,or replaced, but certain words and sounds are rarely ever forgotten. 2
AlexDP Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. This is my girlfriend's code word for sex 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 (edited) It seems to have come to this... I fear the only feasible way to resolve this..::deep sigh::..is to sacrifice myself in honor of this noble cause to observe the results of this cuddling epidemic...by simply cuddling with all the fine ladies on LS (and friends/volunteers/willing and able/recently deceased - natural causes) to observe whether this would escalate into further physical contact or even sexual behavior. I think it would be wise to set up "realistic" scenarios in several locations...such as a park bench that provides moderate seclusion, a nice soft sandy beach during a full moon (half moon will do...I'm sensitive to the moons illuminating power), on a plush living room couch where we will pretend to "watch a movie", then finally a candle lit bedroom on a soft plush bed that exudes sexual vibes (just fyi, I prefer a down comforter). And don't worry gentlemen! I have not forgotten about you, you will have the privilege of providing the funding for these flights, trips, time-shares, etc...And any other accommodations you feel are necessary. We shall find our answers, good people of LS!......together, as one. I am simply the guinea pig, the man who walks into the fire. P.S. Sorry ThaWholigan...only females, no exceptions Edited December 12, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
MrCastle Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Standard procedure is to cuddle after I've f***ed her into submission.
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