mesmerized Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible.
Author mesmerized Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 only if he is gay... You look good with blonde hair!
Tara247 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 It's a line, mesmerized, ok. They want sex. :bunny:
NoMoreJerks Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. Definitely sex. If a guy says this to me, I'd be severely turned off. Especially if too early, or if he dropped such hints before we met up (in OLD) or after we've known each other for 1 or 2 days... that's a serious red flag for me. This is an extremely clear statement that he wants to have sex with you -- it can't get any less subtle. A guy saying, "hey, do you want to go back to mine and watch some TV?" would probably receive a positive response from me after a few dates -- but the same guy who used that line on me, would be turned down for sure. It just sounds weird and too sexual. I would expect that such wording be used when you're interested in a ONS (since it's more explicitly sexual), but not in the case where the guy is courting someone for a relationship.
Author mesmerized Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 It's a line, mesmerized, ok. They want sex. :bunny: Oh I know. But some swear up and down that they only want to cuddle and they don't mean it in a sleazy way lol
Failboy Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I can, if I really like the girl.. then again though, I am not a "real man" according to some women's standards. So maybe that doesn't count. Fun fact: I just recently told a girl that I would love to cuddle with her until she falls asleep in my arms and what not, and I really meant that. Apparently she took it as a code for sex and told me few days later that she is not some kind of booty call option. I was perplexed, as I never thought of her that way. I would, however, only be open to that cuddling scenario if there was clearly enough sexual attraction for me on her part. Enough to make me confident she is not using me for cuddling only while getting her brains effed out by some dumb jock or something. Also, if I don't really like her, I'd prefer fast sex over cuddling greatly.
charlietheginger Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I could cuddle , i dont really desire sex... If a women tells me she thinks im hot Or that she wants to be frisky ill Do it strickly out of compassion for Her feeling so she wont feel rejected. It would be all about the womens pleasure But as for chasing " poosie " or wanting sex I could care less.... I was married for 10 yrs the last 2 yrs we had sex maybe 4 times... I just assume im ugly and not attractive... This might change being im 40lbs less My next relationships might involve sex
Illusionist Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I hug and cuddle with my female friends, who I would describe as attractive, but I never got that kind of ideas. I have no romantic interest in them, which would be an important factor for me to even get to the sex thoughts.
Necris Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. Its probably is a code word for sex. Now me personally I've never held a woman before but I've also never had sex, I'd probably won't be telling a girl I want to cuddle her anytime soon, and I'm not exactly sure what cuddling is so it might feel awkward, but If I am cuddling a girl I might have thoughts about sex but that's it I'm not going to be trying to get more.
ScreamingTrees Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I strongly desire sexual intimacy.. But I also really enjoy cuddling, I enjoy showing and receiving affection.. Why does a guy have to be gay just because he has self control? I can wait for a bit in the beginning if the girl doesn't feel comfortable. It's like there's no healthy middle ground, you're either a sexual deviant or a flaming homo. 4
Author mesmerized Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I strongly desire sexual intimacy.. But I also really enjoy cuddling, I enjoy showing and receiving affection.. Why does a guy have to be gay just because he has self control? I can wait for a bit in the beginning if the girl doesn't feel comfortable. It's like there's no healthy middle ground, you're either a sexual deviant or a flaming homo. I don't think a guy has to be gay, that's why I asked. It's just never happened to me that a guy cuddles with me in bed and doesn't want a kiss at least. Glad to know some guys are capable of it.
Els Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Could be many things. They might enjoy both cuddling and sex and think that saying 'sex' at the beginning would scare you off, so they'll start with cuddling. Some guys also genuinely prefer to ramp up to sex instead of doing everything on the first night - there's nothing gay or unmasculine about that. Of course, they could also just be trying to get into your pants. 2
Balzac Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I thought guys cuddled after great sex with her! Guess I went to the wrong school. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I had no trouble cuddling with my ex. Girls need emotional just as much as pyshical. Of course, I cared more for listening to her. But there is a difference between love vs lust. Not that I didn't mind sleeping with her either I certainly did not suggest we cuddle at first; but to be honest. A guy will cuddle with a girl, if he thinks it will get him some in the later run. 2
ThaWholigan Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I like cuddling but cuddles plus arousal equals uncomfortable sexual tension 6
MikeyBe Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. Virtually everything is a code word for sex if you're interested in a girl. You know what's impossible though? Telling a girl I'd rather take it slower and cuddle and have her both believe me and not think I'm gay. Pretty sad I have to whore myself out to get some damn cuddles and tenderness. 1
rn0408 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. Not impossible. Actually it may be a good sign that he's treating you the way you want to be treated.
Balzac Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I'll willing cuddle and I enjoy it. My problem is that I then get an erection, obviously she's aware that sex is on my mind. Control is one thing but I'm not too sure how most women feel about the obvious signal! 4
Author mesmerized Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I'll willing cuddle and I enjoy it. My problem is that I then get an erection, obviously she's aware that sex is on my mind. Control is one thing but I'm not too sure how most women feel about the obvious signal! Lol we like it! If Im attracted to the guy I'd get upset if he didn't get an erection. 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a guy says that I obviously think it's his code word for sex. I wonder, can you guys cuddle with a sexy woman you have never slept with before and not want more? I think it's almost impossible. Actually...cuddling without sex sounds like an ideal situation. More intimacy and reflects more feelings.
veggirl Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Who wants to cuddle a STRANGER? I like cuddling too but I'm not affectionate and snuggley with someone I don't even know. That's fkin weird and I don't get people like that. I think it sounds desperate. I would be very turned off. Tell them to get a freakin body pillow. 2
xxoo Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Yeah, cuddling with a stranger is odd, for anyone.
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Yeah, cuddling with a stranger is odd, for anyone. Maybe I missed it but was the OP talking about strangers?
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