Chillinight Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 He used to break off with me - it was always a bad fight, then he feels extremely guilty about it the next day. Then he would entice me to break up with him. I wouldn't give in because all the issues he put forward with me were things I thought I could 'make right'. However, now he is just asking for more space. Not including me into his life anymore. How do I let go? And just let everything drift apart?
LostOne1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Well you don't have much of a choice now do ya? If he wants space give him ALL the space he needs. This might be a good time for both of you to get away from each other and see life without one another. My advice is to go NC for a bit and let him figure out what he wants. And give yourself sometime to think about life as well. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 He used to break off with me - it was always a bad fight, then he feels extremely guilty about it the next day. Then he would entice me to break up with him. I wouldn't give in because all the issues he put forward with me were things I thought I could 'make right'. However, now he is just asking for more space. Not including me into his life anymore. How do I let go? And just let everything drift apart? when you wouldn't give in what was his mind set when the relationship would continue what did he say
Author Chillinight Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) When he used to fight with me, it was always the 'race' issue, how 'compatible are we' and 'would his family approve'. When I tried to reassure him that everything is going to be alright, he would then say 'I don't like you enough to make it through with you'. I would always let him go after breaking off with me. He is always the one saying sorry and coming back until recently. He won't actually start a fight but put me in bad situations that I would not be happy with. If I ever tried to discuss it with him, he will give me the silent treatment and avoid me. Now it had reached to this point where I don't feel like talking to him anymore and he, well, always 'needs his space' (By watching porn, or stalking ppl on his FB etc). Thing is, I have met his family, they do approve and love me to bits or treat me really well. But he on the other hand still acts scummy. Why I do not break up outright with him? Because my heart won't let me do it and I feel I will regret it since he is not actually trying to break up with me like he used to do in the past. So, I'm letting go. Will just disappear and let it be his way (mind you, I have been after him for 4 or 5 years - so it is definitely a change on my side). I'm trying to find passion again in my life. Just a bit hard if you have been lonely for so long. Edited December 9, 2012 by Chillinight
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