Dkp Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I wanna call him and say wow so this is really it? Should I?
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 No, no you shouldn't contact him under any circumstance. Just as before, you shouldn't now. DKP, it is over. You have to start accepting that sweetheart, and if you cannot on your own power...you may need to seek help. You keep giving this boy power over you. Power over emotions, is still power over you. Not that I do not get mad when I think of my ex for too long, but I try to not think of her for too long, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Point is, you need to make some efforts into not worrying about this boy. He did you wrong. Pretend I am him. What do you want to say to me?(him)
Author Dkp Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 No, no you shouldn't contact him under any circumstance. Just as before, you shouldn't now. DKP, it is over. You have to start accepting that sweetheart, and if you cannot on your own power...you may need to seek help. You keep giving this boy power over you. Power over emotions, is still power over you. Not that I do not get mad when I think of my ex for too long, but I try to not think of her for too long, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Point is, you need to make some efforts into not worrying about this boy. He did you wrong. Pretend I am him. What do you want to say to me?(him) Lol your cute that made me laugh. **** you *******!! He just unblocked me and I posted a hot pic a while ago he must o seen it because he just made a subliminal post toward me smh
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Lol your cute that made me laugh. **** you *******!! He just unblocked me and I posted a hot pic a while ago he must o seen it because he just made a subliminal post toward me smh My, cussing me out, when I give you advice. So what, he unblocks you, big damn deal. Oh, he sees your body, and wants that, big damn deal! You want him so badly, go back to him. Tiger rarely changes it's strips; maybe you could learn that! How many people have told you, ceaselessly, to leave this boy alone, considering what he is and has done, for you to ignore that advice, or constantly put yourself in a position of constant hurt over someone that isn't even loyal to you! But whatever, some people have to learn one way or another. Play the game with a cheater, and find out how fast you lose that game. Enough said. Clear you don't want any advice, other than the advice that tells you to run after this idiot. So go on, and hurt yourself some more. Come back for more advice you don't even care to hear, when he does so again.
betterdeal Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 When a relationship is ended by one or all people, that means you no longer relate to one another. Relating to something means interacting with it. Imagine this is the garage that services your car. You fall out with each other and end the relationship. You no longer take your car to that garage. The relationship is ended. Social media makes it possible to passively interact with people. It means you can say things to one another with very little effort. But what good does this do you? What are you getting out of it? You're afraid to let go, so you hold on, but all you're experiencing is reading some words written on a web site; a web site designed to make money by hooking into your fears and insecurities; not a bona fide relationship. Don't let Facebook distress you (and distressing you is its main way of keeping you attached to it, and therefore make money out of you).
betterdeal Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 My, cussing me out, when I give you advice. So what, he unblocks you, big damn deal. Oh, he sees your body, and wants that, big damn deal! You want him so badly, go back to him. Tiger rarely changes it's strips; maybe you could learn that! You did tell her to treat you as though you were him and to say what she wanted to say to him, which I think is what she was doing, with levity.
Author Dkp Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 My, cussing me out, when I give you advice. So what, he unblocks you, big damn deal. Oh, he sees your body, and wants that, big damn deal! You want him so badly, go back to him. Tiger rarely changes it's strips; maybe you could learn that! How many people have told you, ceaselessly, to leave this boy alone, considering what he is and has done, for you to ignore that advice, or constantly put yourself in a position of constant hurt over someone that isn't even loyal to you! But whatever, some people have to learn one way or another. Play the game with a cheater, and find out how fast you lose that game. Enough said. Clear you don't want any advice, other than the advice that tells you to run after this idiot. So go on, and hurt yourself some more. Come back for more advice you don't even care to hear, when he does so again. Lmao omg I'm dying!!! You told me to pretend you were him!!! I wasn't cussing you out
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 You did tell her to treat you as though you were him and to say what she wanted to say to him, which I think is what she was doing, with levity. That is true, and I was wondering if she was implying that as in thinking of me as him, or other, was confused by the way the whole of what she said was put. If so, than disregard what I said, and continue on with cussing me out please, and sorry if that was the case(once again, I got confused based on the whole of what was said, sorry, do continue if you where treating me as him, venting helps!)
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Lmao omg I'm dying!!! You told me to pretend you were him!!! I wasn't cussing you out Yes, sorry about that, I kinda got confused when reading that as whole, and even writing that I was a bit confused as to whether I should or shouldn't. A dumb moment for me, please forgive me of it. Continue on, we are crystal clear on that. But continue on with acting like I am him, say whatever you want, (im truly sorry, I really did get confused, a dumb mistake on my part dear)
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Well, I guess I screwed this one up... DKP, you know I have only been trying to help you out since I saw your threads. I wouldn't want that to stop, cause I know you need it. I have been through it too...It really was an honest mistake, when I read the whole thing, no other excuse, it was an error in how I processed what I read. I thought you where overjoyed he unblocked you, as you said in the later part of the sentence, and then, weren't too happy to hear me say that But anyway, I screwed up..
LostOne1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Yes, sorry about that, I kinda got confused when reading that as whole, and even writing that I was a bit confused as to whether I should or shouldn't. A dumb moment for me, please forgive me of it. Continue on, we are crystal clear on that. But continue on with acting like I am him, say whatever you want, (im truly sorry, I really did get confused, a dumb mistake on my part dear) Cann I join in on the cussing too? You ******** son of ***************** LOL just playing wit ya. I'm glad you gave some good advice to let it all out. I think she just needs to vent out here and NOT let anything get to her. Looks like to me her ex is trying to get a reaction out of her. So I hope she gives NONE to him at all. Just go COLD HARD NC on him
movingon12 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 If he's unblocked you - good: it means you can block him now, and you won't keep checking to see if he's blocked you or not. BLOCK HIM. 1
LostOne1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 If he's unblocked you - good: it means you can block him now, and you won't keep checking to see if he's blocked you or not. BLOCK HIM. This is WHY I love that my ex blocked me 1st. Now I can't see anything.. I can't see the new guys pics with her and all. So the pain isn't as bad, than to be able to see it all. She did me a huge favor and here my ex is probably thinking blocking me is really hurting me LOL 1
Simon Phoenix Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 If he's unblocked you - good: it means you can block him now, and you won't keep checking to see if he's blocked you or not. BLOCK HIM. I guarantee you she doesn't.
oracle Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Stop reading into things... And stop playing the game lol your cute that made me laugh. **** you *******!! He just unblocked me and i posted a hot pic a while ago he must o seen it because he just made a subliminal post toward me smh 1
Axee Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Dont block him, face the situation, see the photos of him with other gals.. I too used to think that blocking helps but its not blocking but actually seeing the pictures with your naked eyes that helps. It hurts like hell initially but later after some time you LOSE interest in the pics and in the person and they cease to affect you. Trust me on this one. If you block, you and I both know that one day you will unblock and face all the feelings and hurt that time again on seeing the pics. But dont play any games or psedo comments on FB. FB is **** and treat it like that ...
Anela Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I wanna call him and say wow so this is really it? Should I? No, don't do it! I was just thinking to myself, that I wished I'd cut contact with someone completely, the first time that I did so (4 1/2 years ago). It would have saved me a lot of heartache.
movingon12 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 If he's unblocked you - good: it means you can block him now, and you won't keep checking to see if he's blocked you or not. BLOCK HIM. I guarantee you she doesn't. I'm sure you're right, but eventually she will, when she realises how much she's needlessly torturing herself. Sounds like it may not be for a while though...
Author Dkp Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I just got back from an eventful night and I can't keep him off of my mind but I have not broke NC. He posted some subliminal post towards me but I ignored him. Obviously he's in pain right? I feel like I have a lil power over him. I left the door open I was still willing to give him that chance but he didn't and hasn't taken it. Mind you I know for a fact he is still talking to the girl he cheated on me with. I have never felt so much anger an hate towards a peson, a part of me wants to break nc but I know it would be a big mistake
movingon12 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I just got back from an eventful night and I can't keep him off of my mind but I have not broke NC. He posted some subliminal post towards me but I ignored him. Obviously he's in pain right? I feel like I have a lil power over him. I left the door open I was still willing to give him that chance but he didn't and hasn't taken it. Mind you I know for a fact he is still talking to the girl he cheated on me with. I have never felt so much anger an hate towards a peson, a part of me wants to break nc but I know it would be a big mistake Poppet, I know it's still raw, and well done for staying NC but you have to let.this.go. He has moved on. He's not in pain. He's not leaving you subliminal messages. He is quite happily talking to the other girl. Not you. He chose her. Not you. I know that's awful, I've been where you are, I know how much it hurts, but you have to start finding a way through this. You don't have any power over him. But you do have power over yourself and how you deal with this. You will get over him and you will find someone great, but the first step is remove him from your life. And that includes facebook.
TaraMaiden Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 BY all means vent, but please, honey, don't ask questions you already know the answer to. It makes you sound weak, feeble and a doormat. And- dare I say it? - other posters will begin to get tired of this same old same-old.... You now have enough information - and ammunition - to continue with NC and never ever drop your guard again. Like I said - by all means 'scream and shout' at us, and vent - but the questions are redundant and superfluous, really - aren't they? Think right now, of what kind of an example you want to set your kids when it comes to dating, respect and love. Then follow it for yourself.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Lol, yeah sure, you all can cuss me out if you want. I am good. Although, the OP I think is done with that...I cannot apologize a billion times, already have three or so times..Everyone makes mistakes, well except the Gods of LS lol.
Hopeful714 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I am so glad I do not take part in facebook. I cannot look to see what my ex does (although Im curious) and he has absolutely NO IDEA of ANYTHING that is going on in my life. Seems to me facebook is a load of crap which most people use to boost their ego's and play games with others. Who needs this? Also, I have heard and read that it is a huge contributor to relationship problems and leads to many break-ups, divorces and infidelities. DKP- my story is similar to yours. You have a long road of recovery in front of you and you need to start thinking how you are going to go about this. You have not even yet got to the rock bottom stage of the final realization that it is over. Once that hits its going to be a whole new ball of wax to figure out how you are going to pull yourself together. I wish I could give you more advice but today I am having a lousy day myself. I can only say maintain NC for your own dignity. Take care.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I just got back from an eventful night and I can't keep him off of my mind but I have not broke NC. He posted some subliminal post towards me but I ignored him. Obviously he's in pain right? I feel like I have a lil power over him. I left the door open I was still willing to give him that chance but he didn't and hasn't taken it. Mind you I know for a fact he is still talking to the girl he cheated on me with. I have never felt so much anger an hate towards a peson, a part of me wants to break nc but I know it would be a big mistake He's not in pain, you don't have power and slam that door shut, lock it, deadbolt it then board it up.
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