NGC1300 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I'm not a lazy slacker; I just don't have a life any woman is going to find captivating. I work around 50hrs a week, and when I'm not working I lift weights or spend time on the internet or tinkering with computers. I also have VERY FEW friends in my life and almost no social life. I worry that any girl that dates me will evetually learn all this, and will bail. In fact, this has already happened to me once. People claim just to "find someone compatable", but let's face it, girls want guys that have exciting things going on at all times. How can I convey to future girls that she's not the only thing in my life when it will appear that way to her?
Mr Scorpio Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I think that when she can't hang out with you all the time because you're A) working long hours, B) working out, and/or C) want some time to "tinker" and do your thing, that she'll realize she isn't the only thing in your life. You're working full time and then some, so you aren't a burnout. You have a hobby (tinkering). You're (presumably) in shape from lifting weights! How do these things make you a loser? Do you have your own place? Your own car? Do you have aspirations and goals for the future? Are you articulate? Compassionate? Generous? Artistic? Can you cook? Do you have a "style"? There is more to it than whether or not you have a large social circle constantly battling your woman for your attention, pulling you out to titty-bars and poker games. First things first is to drop this loser business. 2
El Brujo Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I'm not a lazy slacker; I just don't have a life any woman is going to find captivating. I work around 50hrs a week, and when I'm not working I lift weights or spend time on the internet or tinkering with computers. I also have VERY FEW friends in my life and almost no social life. I worry that any girl that dates me will evetually learn all this, and will bail. In fact, this has already happened to me once. People claim just to "find someone compatable", but let's face it, girls want guys that have exciting things going on at all times. How can I convey to future girls that she's not the only thing in my life when it will appear that way to her? I think the key here is you need to work smarter, not harder. All work and no play has made you feel like a boring person... but you're not a loser, because losers don't have jobs. No way in hell would I put in 50 hours a week unless that job pays like winning a lottery... and even then, I'd have to really enjoy it.
allenpo123 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 People claim just to "find someone compatable", but let's face it, girls want guys that have exciting things going on at all times. I dated a guy who doesn't talk much, watches movies on the net all the time, and seldom goes out with friends. People might think he's boring but I really liked this guy because he's a good listener, he is genuine, he is happy the way he is, and most importantly, he makes me feel safe. And although he is an introvert, he can get really passionate sometimes with me as well. It's just the right chemistry It's the chemistry you have with that other person that matters.
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