Jojo67 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) I was in a long distance relationship and everything was perfect but as my boyfriend started school, he became really stressed and didn't seem happy with me then four months into the relationship, he dump me out of the blue, but about 2 weeks later he started talking to me so I casually talked with him, and he told me he loves me, then for 2 weeks we didn't talk, and then him and my friend talked and turns out he still wanted to meet me because he loves me but he didn't think he deserved to talk to me for hurting me, and the thing holding him back is knowing that he'll see so much pain in my eyes but as they chatted, he actually messaged calling me baby and I was confused so I replied back and he told me that he loves me and wanted me back, at first I thought it was a bad idea but I really love him so I thought I'd give him another chance, but the thing is, it seems like he rarely ever wants to talk to me anymore, like he is in college so he's been busy with school. So my question is, am I just over reacting? Is he not talking to me as much because he's busy with school, or do you think he just took me back because he felt bad for hurting me, or something is up? Like the things he says sound pretty genuine but I really think I'm being paranoid but I was wondering if anyone had any opinions. Like its been a week since we've been back together and I just feel like he doesn't really care about me anymore, like I know he has his own life and is busy with school but I wished he'd put even a bit of effort into our relationship like he use to. Like maybe things will get better after finals and he comes to see me(at least that's what he's planning on doing but idk anymore) What should I do and it's actually really hurting me sorry if I rambled on a bit near the end. I know this might not be very exciting but I'd love to hear some feed back (: Edited December 9, 2012 by Jojo67
PepperPotts Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I doubt he took you back just because. LDRs are hard. He likely is actually busy at school. He's made a major change to his life, and you have to accept that that changes some of the dynamics of your relationship. Work out a communication plan with him. When you have a routine of taking to each other at a set time, you don't sit around wondering why he hasn't called or isn't texting you back. You have to trust him more now that he's far away and busy, and you have to relinquish some spontaneity for the sake of your sanity. Talk to him about setting a time to regular time to talk, and what you each expect no that his life is so different. It will really help!
PepperPotts Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Also bear in mind that you are only one week back into a recently broken relationship... Expect some rocky road ahead, but it will pass with time.
Author Jojo67 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 Thanks for the reply. I do trust him and I don't expect him to text me all day everyday but I guess I'm just afraid of being hurt again, and I don't want to lose him again because I do love him aswell. I'll take your advice and talk to him about it. I really don't wanna think negative about this because I'm really looking forward to see him in a couple weeks if he really does come and see me like he promised. I just hope that he really loves me enough to keep his promise.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 You two haven't actually met yet? You can't leave someone you've never met. LDR's aren't for the light hearted or for kids. How about actually meeting (old fashioned way of doing things I know) and seeing if you get on in real life.
Author Jojo67 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 No no, we have met in person before, we were just suppose to meet up again soon after a long time without seeing each other (I should have been more clear in my post) and when he dump me, I really hurting thinking I would never see or speak to him again. Well turns out the reason he dump me was because he was afraid of commitment because of being hurt in the past so he thought he rather hurt me the one time then continuously throughout our relationship but after he did it, he realizes how much he loves me and wanted to be with me. I know I sound really kiddish but hey I'm only 18, it's my first time ever loving someone and it's honestly really overwhelming.
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