IST Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 We've been broken up for almost 6 months, and for the better part of the last few months I've been totally fine. Once in awhile I'd think about it all and bum myself out but for the most part I've been happy and getting on with my life. However lately I've been feeling a lot of anger towards her and the way she treated me. I've been fantasizing about tracking down her phone number just to call her up so I can yell at her. Which is ridiculous, I want to get over this and forget about it all and I certainly don't want to call her. But there's a lot of unaddressed anger. I kind of wish I could just talk to her about this and vent it all in a calm, healthy manner but that isn't going to happen. I don't want to think about any of this anymore.
Esoteric Elf Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I have found a fantastic (and certainly productive) outlet for venting my anger is weightlifting. When you have a certain amount of anger, channel it to energy used in lifting, and lifting heavy. I have been lifting for roughly 7-8 years now and have a physique far above the average male, and it was motivated by anger. A modest suggestion. 2
LostOne1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I have found a fantastic (and certainly productive) outlet for venting my anger is weightlifting. When you have a certain amount of anger, channel it to energy used in lifting, and lifting heavy. I have been lifting for roughly 7-8 years now and have a physique far above the average male, and it was motivated by anger. A modest suggestion. this really works.. I stopped working out.. because part of my anger stage is gone. But man.. when I was mad a few months ago I was hititng the gym hard and just using that rage and anger to pump myself up.
Axee Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Your feeling to vent out is understandable. Its a natural stage in your moving on process , now you have realised what all issues werent right and you want to kind of "seek justice" kind of a feeling. I was in this situation, there are 2 ways to handle it. 1. If you feel you can handle the aftermath of venting it out to her in person, then all by all means do so, but make sure not to get sucked into the whrlpool of drama, vengeful attacks, insults. Also a note of caution, she might try placing the blame on you and you might start thinking whether you would have done anything different. Trust me, its no, always. Or 2. Think and reflect on each and every moment of hurt you felt,what all happened. Give yourself as much time on this as you want, shed a few tears if you may, but feel everything from the bottom of your heart. And then let go, believe that there is a God above who is protecting you and watching you and release your hurt feelings to Him and God will do what is best, since He has seen the complete picture of her and you both.Cry , if you may, relive the moments.. face the situation. After some weeks this feeling will eventually subside.
Axee Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 What I did, I yelled, but didnt give him chance to reply back , I had the last word (most important) , I never responded to anything explanations, blame that came later. Complete NC after that last word. But still I continued feeling angry, I then did the second thing. But now , after 1.5 years I am still a bit angry but its an anger that prevents me from taking wrong steps in my new relationships , an anger that reminds me "There are such kind of idiotic people also " !! , kind of a good anger..
Author IST Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I have found a fantastic (and certainly productive) outlet for venting my anger is weightlifting. When you have a certain amount of anger, channel it to energy used in lifting, and lifting heavy. I have been lifting for roughly 7-8 years now and have a physique far above the average male, and it was motivated by anger. A modest suggestion. this really works.. I stopped working out.. because part of my anger stage is gone. But man.. when I was mad a few months ago I was hititng the gym hard and just using that rage and anger to pump myself up. Yeah I've been working out and doing a lot of running as an outlet. In the summer I ran 5 km every day, sometimes up to 10-15 km a day if I was really upset. Been running more sporadically in the winter. It's just so frustrating to be back in this stage of anger/hurt when I was doing so good...
Hopeful714 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I would love to make that call and give a piece of my mind. But in really, its not the smart thing to do. What are we gonna do ....call someone up months after the fact and let loose holy hel* on them? We'd look like idiots. Even if we called for a "talk" to express feelings....we'd still look like idiots who didnt move on. The working out thing does work but damn...sometimes the motivation for that just isn't there. I ALWAYS worked out all my life and I am at a stage where I can hardly motivate to do anything. It sucks. Yippee- Im at 3mos NC now, and your at 6? Do I really have this to look forward to now? great.
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