NYC-BigKat Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I just dont know right now u know . I ate a whole lot of food today & felt a little sick so maybe I ate too too much. I tried watching tv but it dont help it alot. I dont know what to do. This whole week was bad. 2 bosses lied to me about calling me for a interview. I still cant get a job after graduating school last summer . My mother didnt' want me back in the house 'cause I spent the day with my uncle & she hates him & she says for me to stay there. How can I? I dont live there . And every time I see a girl I cant even look 'cause it makes me mad. And with x-mas coming & another family party I just dont wanna go u know and time is moving so so slow right now . I wanna feel a little better but dont know how to do it. Um..advice?
Author NYC-BigKat Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I just dont know right now u know . I ate a whole lot of food today & felt a little sick so maybe I ate too too much. I tried watching tv but it dont help it alot. I dont know what to do. This whole week was bad. 2 bosses lied to me about calling me for a interview. I still cant get a job after graduating school last summer . My mother didnt' want me back in the house 'cause I spent the day with my uncle & she hates him & she says for me to stay there. How can I? I dont live there . And every time I see a girl I cant even look 'cause it makes me mad. And with x-mas coming & another family party I just dont wanna go u know and time is moving so so slow right now . I wanna feel a little better but dont know how to do it. Um..advice? Wow guess I'm the only guy that feels this way. Thank u loveshack .
dasein Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Only advice I can give is stay on your mother's good side. If you know things irritate her, don't do those things. Would go home and ask her what the rules are for you to stay there, then no matter how silly they are, follow them. Get out of the house in the morning and don't come back until night... every day. You don't have to look for work every day, but most days. Other days figure out something to do out that lifts your spirits. You don't have to stay outside all day, just not around the house. Have been where you are long ago, and that's what worked for me. Good luck man.
Mr Scorpio Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Wow guess I'm the only guy that feels this way. Thank u loveshack . Maybe if you try asking specific questions instead of throwing your entire life into one post? How can we give you advice about your boss, your job prospects, your family relationship, and your lack of romance all at once? That being said, jogging to upbeat music is a good remedy.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 Only advice I can give is stay on your mother's good side. If you know things irritate her, don't do those things. Would go home and ask her what the rules are for you to stay there, then no matter how silly they are, follow them. Get out of the house in the morning and don't come back until night... every day. You don't have to look for work every day, but most days. Other days figure out something to do out that lifts your spirits. You don't have to stay outside all day, just not around the house. Have been where you are long ago, and that's what worked for me. Good luck man. Thanks but the only place to stay so long is at my uncle's house & he's not there alot u know. He dont have a job but he hangs out & messes with girls alot & I'm not in his league to do it. Its like magic for him 'cause he doesn't try & when I try I fail so that adds to depression. I tried listening to alot of music & playing ps3 but then I think of x-mas coming & it sucks to know that . I just wanna job so so bad 'cause it'll keep me busy alot & I wont have time to feel down.
Mr Scorpio Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I'm sorry to hear about your situation, especially the not being able to find a job part. Getting rejected in the job-market and the dating-market is rough stuff. It certainly doesn't help that Christmas is fast approaching. A lot of single people are miserable around the holidays. I've never been one of them. Is it nice to have someone to buy gifts for? Sure. Is it cool to attend multiple gatherings/parties to celebrate the holiday? Yeah. On the other hand, is it nice to avoid the traffic, parking, lines, rudeness, and cost of holiday shopping? You know it! Is it cool to sit back and relax during the holidays rather than having to get up at such-and-such a time to go spend six hours with people whose company you may or may not enjoy? You know it! Aside from that, I suppose all any of us can do is hope for good things in the New Year. Now, if your problem is that you have too much free time, I'm sure you can find a way to fill it. Your city has a few libraries, yeah? I went 20 years w/o a library card until my ex left me. It came in powerfully handy! Can you afford to join a gym?
Author NYC-BigKat Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I'm sorry to hear about your situation, especially the not being able to find a job part. Getting rejected in the job-market and the dating-market is rough stuff. It certainly doesn't help that Christmas is fast approaching. A lot of single people are miserable around the holidays. I've never been one of them. Is it nice to have someone to buy gifts for? Sure. Is it cool to attend multiple gatherings/parties to celebrate the holiday? Yeah. On the other hand, is it nice to avoid the traffic, parking, lines, rudeness, and cost of holiday shopping? You know it! Is it cool to sit back and relax during the holidays rather than having to get up at such-and-such a time to go spend six hours with people whose company you may or may not enjoy? You know it! Aside from that, I suppose all any of us can do is hope for good things in the New Year. Now, if your problem is that you have too much free time, I'm sure you can find a way to fill it. Your city has a few libraries, yeah? I went 20 years w/o a library card until my ex left me. It came in powerfully handy! Can you afford to join a gym? Nope no gym right now but I do need to lose this tummy. Its getting big & I like to eat alot & am eating more 'cause there isn't much to do u know . I think am gonna try a different library 'cause the one where I go has alot of smelly people in there I think they homeless 'cause they look bad but it seems they always stay in there alot. I used to just sit in the malls but too many pretty girls & seeing them makes me get upset so no malls now. Uh..maybe try the movies? Haven't been there in a really really long time & my friend says he hates going now 'cause people are rude & always sits in places where he hates so I dont know yet but maybe give it a shot?
El Brujo Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I used to feel depressed around the holidays after the last of my relatives died... but then I remembered how they used to argue and fuss over everything whenever they used to get together, and I thought, what am I nuts??? Why would I want to have my relatives back for the holidays, when they'd only want to wreck everything and make me miserable? So, yeah... I have no gf to hang around at my place for Thanksgiving or Christmas, but I'll tell you one thing, my dog and my cat are a hell of a lot more grateful than the last gfs I had.
Mr Scorpio Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Uh..maybe try the movies? Haven't been there in a really really long time & my friend says he hates going now 'cause people are rude & always sits in places where he hates so I dont know yet but maybe give it a shot? My gym membership costs less than one ticket to a movie + a theater soda. I'd spend the money doing things now that you wont be able to do when you're working and you dont have enough free-time. Lose that gut! Buy a cheap guitar! Hit the books! ...Of course, I go to the movies about once every 18 months, so I'm biased.
Radu Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I just dont know right now u know . I ate a whole lot of food today & felt a little sick so maybe I ate too too much. I tried watching tv but it dont help it alot. I dont know what to do. This whole week was bad. 2 bosses lied to me about calling me for a interview. I still cant get a job after graduating school last summer . My mother didnt' want me back in the house 'cause I spent the day with my uncle & she hates him & she says for me to stay there. How can I? I dont live there . And every time I see a girl I cant even look 'cause it makes me mad. And with x-mas coming & another family party I just dont wanna go u know and time is moving so so slow right now . I wanna feel a little better but dont know how to do it. Um..advice? Get a bunch of movies and watch them. I usually go with the Marx Brothers.
allenpo123 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Try hanging out with friends more? It sucks to be jobless and single during the holidays... makes you wanna just give it all up and yell. My advice is to go out more, distract yourself from the ****ty things in your life now, it'll all go away eventually. I promise!
Mrlonelyone Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 You sound clinically depressed to me. If the kinds of things suggested so far do not work try seeking professional help. In any major US city or metro area there are free or inexpensive mental health services. There is no shame in admitting you need this kind of help, if that is the case. Situations like yours + The darkness of the season + all the upbeat false happiness of this season thrown in our faces by the media = depression that feels even worse. I know the feeling.
dasein Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I tried listening to alot of music & playing ps3 but then I think of x-mas coming & it sucks to know that . I just wanna job so so bad 'cause it'll keep me busy alot & I wont have time to feel down. Reemphasize getting out of the house, exercise every day, even if it's cold outside. Go to libraries, museums, find someone to help in life, charity. Helping people will help you be happier, and in doing that, you will realize your situation isn't all that bad compared to others'. It's not guaranteed, but jobs and connections that lead to jobs can result from helping people and volunteering too. Sitting on the couch won't help you feel better, I know that sounds like a cliche' but it's a true one. Games and tv are feelbad traps and will just drag you down, try to do real things with real people.
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