zt89 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Hi, I posted a few weeks back about my situation. Basically I dated a rape victim who was physically abused by the boyfriend right before me. We dated 8 months and then suddenly she wanted to spend time apart. I went to her apartment to get some things and found that she was already seeing another guy, confronted her, took my things and left completely. Before leaving I gave her a hug and wished her the best and told her I hope she's happy. During these 8 months I encouraged her to go to counseling for the issues she had faced in her past. After I took all of my things from her apartment for about two weeks I kept getting hate texts which I never responded to. These texts ranged from "quit being so immature about the situation" to "grow the **** up". Then the messages slowly started to change. She told me I had a few things left at her place and asked when/how I want to get them. I told her to leave them on the porch after she leaves for work and I will swing by and pick them up. She never brought this topic up again or left my "things" on the porch. A week later she asked me to watch our pet while she is on vacation visiting home for Christmas. I told her I couldn't do it, which was my first message to her since the break up and got a "Well thanks for actually responding". I didn't respond to that either. I figured these were her ways to have me still around and not completely cut off. I got really confused with the most recent message, which was two days ago. She started off telling me that she felt she owed me something, even though I don't want to talk to her. She continued with apologizing for all that we went through and me having to deal with her illness. Then she thanked me for encouraging counseling because she has continued it after I left and hasn't been so happy for four years. She also said that without my help she knows she wouldn't have been able to go through it. Then she wished me the best and hoped that I find happiness. My question and confusion come with why she even sent this message and what she meant by it. I was on the road to recovery and this stirred all those ****ty emotions back up. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated but if not, just venting is good too. Thank you.
bitterruin Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Seems like she finally got the message that you're moving on and that she also needs to let go.
oracle Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 She is a basket case and always will be.. see it for that and that only. Don't try reading anything out of it.. Be happy you are free of that cr*p and get another chance at life. At some point you need to stop asking the WHY questions about a scenario. Its just IS. You have seen what that person is capable of. ALL the best. Hi, I posted a few weeks back about my situation. Basically I dated a rape victim who was physically abused by the boyfriend right before me. We dated 8 months and then suddenly she wanted to spend time apart. I went to her apartment to get some things and found that she was already seeing another guy, confronted her, took my things and left completely. Before leaving I gave her a hug and wished her the best and told her I hope she's happy. During these 8 months I encouraged her to go to counseling for the issues she had faced in her past. After I took all of my things from her apartment for about two weeks I kept getting hate texts which I never responded to. These texts ranged from "quit being so immature about the situation" to "grow the **** up". Then the messages slowly started to change. She told me I had a few things left at her place and asked when/how I want to get them. I told her to leave them on the porch after she leaves for work and I will swing by and pick them up. She never brought this topic up again or left my "things" on the porch. A week later she asked me to watch our pet while she is on vacation visiting home for Christmas. I told her I couldn't do it, which was my first message to her since the break up and got a "Well thanks for actually responding". I didn't respond to that either. I figured these were her ways to have me still around and not completely cut off. I got really confused with the most recent message, which was two days ago. She started off telling me that she felt she owed me something, even though I don't want to talk to her. She continued with apologizing for all that we went through and me having to deal with her illness. Then she thanked me for encouraging counseling because she has continued it after I left and hasn't been so happy for four years. She also said that without my help she knows she wouldn't have been able to go through it. Then she wished me the best and hoped that I find happiness. My question and confusion come with why she even sent this message and what she meant by it. I was on the road to recovery and this stirred all those ****ty emotions back up. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated but if not, just venting is good too. Thank you.
movingon12 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 That last message sounds a bit 'therapy-y' to me. She may have been discussing your relationship/break up with her counsellor, and s/he suggested she should clean the slate/clear her conscience, so she can move on. I don't think you should read anything into it.
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