willapple Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Would you be p#$$ed about this?? My girlfriend and I recently went out for drinks on her birthday. She really wanted to go out and have a good time with her friends, so we spent the evening at a few bars/clubs. I took her out to dinner, was sure to buy her all of her drinks, and bought a couple of rounds for her friends. All was well and we were having a good time. But sure enough, her group of friends started to get hit on by a group of some well-known football players (college) in our area. I'm really good at keeping my jealousy in check and usually ignore and laugh off other guys' advances or stares. However, two minutes after I come back with another round, one of the football players asks my girlfriend if she wanted a drink (she still had a drink in her hand). Her face just lit up and she asked for some girly drink and looked back at me with this guilty look on her face then turned back around, leaving me just standing there watching her and her friends get hit on. After a couple of minutes of this awkwardness, I tapped her on the shoulder and told her I was leaving and that she could "have her fun." She then got all defensive with me and said she just needed another drink . I had heard enough and just left. Now I am somehow the one that was in the wrong. Ya right. I want to work things out but lately it feels like I've been getting a bunch of "tests" from her. One day she will act like she is absolutely in love with me, then the next day will act indifferent. Do I not have enough of a reason to be pissed? I'm sure that if one of my all-time favorite dream girls came up to me and started to hit on me I would be excited as I am a human, but I wouldn't have the heart to just leave my girlfriend standing there watching. She ultimately apologized, but I am still pissed. What would you do?
dasein Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 If there is no pattern to this, would just write it off as birthday drunk. If she has girls' night regularly with this group of girls, she is showing you how she acts when out without you, and you need to get some restrictive expectations of behavior on the table. Have had to deal with this very thing many times when dating good looking women with single friends, and common sense would dictate they have more control over their attention response, but they don't. So you have to effectively be the "bad controlling BF" to make expectations crystal clear to the point of insistence. No, you are not being unreasonable, I wonder what her response would be were the roles reversed? not likely good.
truth_seeker Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I wouldn't trust her at all. I remember a girl telling me a long time ago, who had a boyfriend, if a guy came along she thought was really hot and couldn't pass up, she would do him, even though she "loved" her boyfriend. Keep that in mind.
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