Can't eat, don't feel like talking to anyone

[Nb1988]

I hate what I'm going through right now. I can't eat, I've become distant towards everyone. I never answer my phone when people call anymore, nor do I call anyone back. I just feel like being by myself. At work I'm usually the happy, fun guy that keeps things lite. Lately though when I come in I barely speak to anyone. I just want to get through my shift and go home.

 

She texted me on Thursday and I told her I'd call her yesterday but never did. What's the point? I hate this bottomless pit of a feeling I have in my stomach from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep. I just want it to stop.

[na49]

Sadly it doesn't just go away. You'll have good days and bad days, but texting her or knowing what's going on in her life will not help you at all. Either tell her that you are going NC for your own sake, or just do it cold turkey and don't text her anymore. She's fine with keeping you around because she's not heartbroken like you are. It's up to you now. None of what you do has anything to do with her.

 

Sadly there's no way to control thoughts, if there is I haven't figured it out. My ex is still on my mind even though she doesn't care about me and probably doesn't think about me at all. It's okay to cry and be emotional, so don't fight your feelings. If you want to get better you can, but it takes time and some work.

[KJBA2816]

From what I've learned in my break up, although you don't want to do anything you need to force yourself because when you feel up to it, which you will soon, the people you didn't call back or contact will only try so many times before they give up. Trust me I know what it's like to just want to be in your own. Additionally possibly go and see your doctor? I don't know if you're already or have already done so but they could get you on medication that will help you. It's okay to be on your own and it's okay to cry and show emotion and its so easy to slip into wanted to be alone but in the long run it won't be beneficial. Keep your chin up and walk with your head high because you will come out of it beaming you just need to put in a little of the work. I don't know what the situation with your ex is but if she is contacting you maybe tell her what you want/where you stand too. Good luck x

[magnoliasoutherly]

told her I'd call her yesterday but never did. What's the point?

There is good news, though you cannot see it right now. The good news is that you got it already and have made the first step in healing. DO NOT CONTACT her in any way shape or form. No Facebook, no Twitter, no text (you can even call your provider to get her number blocked, well most providers) nothing. Stay away. The better you can do this, the faster the process will be.

 

Next, find something to occupy your mind. Go workout, work on puzzles, anything to help you channel your thinking into something else. Throw yourself into your work, whatever it is.

 

Surround yourself with your friends. By sitting at home, you are only stirring the pot and letting it simmer. Get out to get your mind off of things. One for getting your mind off but two, for exhausting you so you don't think about her when trying to sleep.

 

I will second what KJ said about medication. If you have the means to do that, do it.

 

Finally, try to avoid music and places she goes. Music embeds memories and I'm, um, a bit older. I can hear a song "Like a Virgin" for a example and remember the time that I was dating Joseph when in high school, even today, some many years later. The latter is obvious though. You don't want to see her.

 

Hugs. We're here for you.

[KJBA2816]

Exactly we are all here! Good luck!

Edited December 8, 2012 by KJBA2816
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[Ramzk001]

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