surfer67 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 A guy I have had a thing with for a while was talking with me the other night. We were both in bed and he knew I was upset. He was incredibly comforting and said such sweet things like "I think your one of the nicest people I know" and "Thats what I love about you". (He has never mentioned the word love ever) When guys say stuff or when anyone says stuff like this when their drunk is it just drunk talk or are they thoughts they keep away when their sober? Details: Were in college btw, and basically dating. Yes were exclusive and I know that for sure. He also knew we werent going to have sex that night because I was super tired. I am the closest thing he has ever had to a girlfriend. Long story but I know why, its not because he is a player.
soccerrprp Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) For many people under the influence, their inhibitions are weakened. So, he may have been saying things that he wouldn't under normal conditions. So, yes, it could have been what he really feels. When I get that way, I seem to be more open about my feelings, more animated, less likely to care how things come out...of course, not always the case and certainly not the best way to get him to say these things.... People tend not to be their true selves when drunk. The fact of the matter is that people have differing levels of control depending on how drunk and simply, tolerance. Just hope that he says these things when sober. Edited December 8, 2012 by soccerrprp
lovesick1 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Oooh good topic I've thought abt this a lot. In my experience, alcohol makes you more likely to say what you really feel. However, when sex becomes involved or you are close to sex (making out, cuddling whatever), these feelings get extremely exaggerated as brought on by the turn-on. Do guys normally sit there and sweet talk their woman from across the table when they are drunk? Probably not. In bed? Yes.
gaius Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Booze doesn't put thoughts in your head that weren't there before. It just gets rid of the filter.
veggirl Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Well drunk words may convey sober thoughts, but I don't believe things guys say to me drunk unless they back it up sober, esp for something like a first time mention of love! Also I've told strangers at bars that I love them when drunk. Those thoughts sure weren't there pre-booze lol. So don't overthink what someone says drunk. may or may not be how they really feel. 1
Joaquin Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Talk, drunk or sober, is just that.....talk. Actions are what you need to pay attention to if you wanna decide on a persons sincerity.
dasein Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 All talk, sober or drunk, is prone to be noise. Go by treatment and physical affection shown more. Agree that drink removes the filter, but often that filter is truer than the underlying sentiment.
Author surfer67 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) thanks for your input! Edited December 8, 2012 by surfer67
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