Heatemyheart89 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I was with this guy for 2 years, at the start things were great he treated me good. Things went bad(arguing) 6 months ago but he still saw me told me he loved me etc. I was seeing him up until recently. A week or so ago i found out I was pregnant/miscarried. I also realise he is leading this double life with a girlfriend. He'd be lying to me about going to friends birthdays etc. He wasn't bothered at all about the baby and told me he just used me I am ugly/she is much better than me. Also he said if i tell his girlfriend he will ruin my life ( saying she will beat me up/ burn my house down/ he will put up 'naked' pics of me everywhere). After I had the surgery (because of the miscarriage ) he hasn't asked me how I am, he was just relieved I wasn't pregnant anymore. I feel like I have been kicked in the stomach. I keep imagining him and her together acting all happy whilst I am suffering like this. He just doesn't care and I don't know how to recover from this. I feel so lonely and upset I can't think straight. How can I get over the upset and the anger. I just wish he hadn't done this to me
Lexie82 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 What a complete b*****d this guy sounds. I know how much you must be hurting and how angry you must feel but this guy is totally selfish and self absorbed. He doesn't care because he clearly hasn't got the capacity to care about anyone but himself. I'm sorry you have had to go through something which is tough even when you're in a strong healthy relationship on your own but it must have made you see that he is a horrible, horrible person? He won't care about this current girlfriend either so don't get caught up in imagining that this other relationship is all rainbows and flowers because it won't be. These type of people only care about one thing and one thing only and that's themselves. Would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that? You need to focus on healing yourself and looking after you. Take care of yourself and do what you need to to feel better. If you need to curl up on the floor and cry your guts out do it. Feel the pain totally and then pick yourself up and try to do something that makes you feel a little better, no matter how small it is. When I first broke up with my ex I felt totally destroyed. I kept wondering why he didn't care, how he could have done what he did etc etc. I would spend hours curled up on my bed sobbing my heart out until my head wanted to explode and I would be physically sick. He's now off with someone else and although I have my bad days (today's been one of them) I'm nowhere near the wreck I was. Other areas of my life have suffered because of the relationship which are more of the issues I'm trying to cope with now but the anger and hurt I feel about him has eased massively because I've let myself sob and scream when I've needed to. I've leaned on friends, family and to be honest anyone who would listen to vent my feelings. I'd then try and do something that made me smile and feel good about myself. Let yourself cry and scream. Let yourself feel what you are feeling and then try and take a positive step forward each time. I hope this helps you; you're not alone xx
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 This dick needs his ass kicked and deserves a curb-stomp! Hugs* you're way too good for this loser dear. Way too hot for him too ignore this loser he'll end up alone.
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Good riddance to this assclown. No doubt he will do exactly the same to the next gf. If this is how she treated you, she can't complain she doesn't know what a heartless jerk he is. Good riddance to shyte.
NYC-BigKat Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I was with this guy for 2 years, at the start things were great he treated me good. Things went bad(arguing) 6 months ago but he still saw me told me he loved me etc. I was seeing him up until recently. A week or so ago i found out I was pregnant/miscarried. I also realise he is leading this double life with a girlfriend. He'd be lying to me about going to friends birthdays etc. He wasn't bothered at all about the baby and told me he just used me I am ugly/she is much better than me. Also he said if i tell his girlfriend he will ruin my life ( saying she will beat me up/ burn my house down/ he will put up 'naked' pics of me everywhere). After I had the surgery (because of the miscarriage ) he hasn't asked me how I am, he was just relieved I wasn't pregnant anymore. I feel like I have been kicked in the stomach. I keep imagining him and her together acting all happy whilst I am suffering like this. He just doesn't care and I don't know how to recover from this. I feel so lonely and upset I can't think straight. How can I get over the upset and the anger. I just wish he hadn't done this to me Yea & u probably still wanna be with him dont u? I bet u really do dont u? I see girls like u with my uncle all the time & he gets a new gf every week or month & the same ones he dumped always tries to call him or text him alot & its so stupid 'cause he dont care about none of them.
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I would never want to date someone like this, if this is the way they treat exes.
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Yea & u probably still wanna be with him dont u? I bet u really do dont u? I see girls like u with my uncle all the time & he gets a new gf every week or month & the same ones he dumped always tries to call him or text him alot & its so stupid 'cause he dont care about none of them. Your family must be really proud. If he was a woman he'd be called a slut and a whore.
coffeebean201 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 What do his friends think of you and what do they think of this new girlfriend? Do his friends talk to their girlfriends (with nasty threats etc) the same way he talks to you?
Esoteric Elf Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) as****e. The term is rarely more appropriately used. Unfortunately you have been victimized by typical douchbag behavior. Perhaps you were serving as an emotional tampon, someone to come home to (security), or some other reason(s). Whatever the reason(s) was, this behavior, especially drawn over this amount of time, is inexplicably damaging. This behavior stems especially more from more outgoing/confident males. If your man is bold in showing you off and purused you with courage and wit to rival a bard in his element, what is to say he will not do so again? In fact, I would say he is likely to do so again, and with a different woman When you had surgery, it was not only to patch up your body from the baby you failed to deliver but from the kicks he has delivered to you. Leave him. Edited December 9, 2012 by Esoteric Elf
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