eleonor Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) So this has been troubling be for a while now. Last weekend I met a guy at a club. We had fun, got quite drunk, and I ended up at his apartment. After sex I left to go home. The next night I was out again, and who do I meet? The same thing happened, and again, I leave afterwards. Before leaving he followed me outside, which surprised me. I asked him what he wants (did not think about the question before said it. I didn't mean it the way that he should want anything or that I do). He said nothing and asked me the same question. I said that I didn't want anything, and we parted. The following day I receive a text from him (he got my number after I thought I had lost my earrings at his place and wanted him to call if he finds them - I swear that was the only reason). He apologized for being rude and saying he didn't want anything to do with me, saying that he wants to get to know me better. I told him straight up that if "getting to know me" means having me as a little toy to play with whenever he wants to he could forget about it. I also reminded him of my age (I'm 18 and he is 25), but he insisted. I agreed to go out with him, because he had seemed nice. We went out, ice skating, had coffee, walked and talked. Every once in a while I caught him staring at me (not in a creepy way, though). I noticed that I made him somewhat nervous, while I myself was completely relaxed. He was nice, but I couldn't really reach him (probably because of his nervousness). When we parted, we hugged, he almost walked away, but changed his mind, came back and kissed me on the cheek saying "I'll see you if I do" (I'm from Sweden, and what he said doesn't really translate smoothly to English). Edit.// On the date he had asked me what I meant by the question of what he wants, and that it had hit him by surprise. What should I think about all this? What does the kiss on the cheek mean? That we had fun but it's better if we don't see each other anymore? Should I text him and thank him for the date (because there's nothing wrong with him and I wouldn't mind another one - I just don't want to be too pushy)? Or just leave it be and let him contact me? Edited December 8, 2012 by eleonor Forgot this piece of info
kaylan Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Ill be real here. Chances are a 25 year old is only going after an inexperienced 18 year old for a FWB arrangement. So just keep your eyes and ears very open for red flags.
lovesick1 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Ill be real here. Chances are a 25 year old is only going after an inexperienced 18 year old for a FWB arrangement. So just keep your eyes and ears very open for red flags. While this possibility is certainly likely due to the age gap, I am the type of person who can be nervous and shy around a new girl I am crushing on unless I'm only mildly intersted. Although the whole thing started with a drunk hookup... I wouldn't expect much more than that but maybe go out with him a couple more times
Author eleonor Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Thank you for the answers. I know it is highly possible that he only wants the one thing, annd I'm keeping that in mind. It feels though like I don't know him, and it would be nice to. But I think I'll let him make the next move. If he really wants to put effort in this (even if he just plans to have me as a one night stand), I'll let him do the work.
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