deekay Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Hey LS, Id like to know if i should back up and give her space. This will make you cringe and wince when you read it because I would too. It was an expected breakup... I wasnt being a good boyfriend as I rarely listened to her problems and didn't care for her feelings, and now I'm looking to change some things to get her back It's been around 1.5 months since the break up and we've been txting/calling each other occasionally. i'm trying to pinpoint the flaws that my ex and my peers have pointed out and improve upon them one of which ways being being nicer to her and caring for her. recently she sent me a photo of her location saying "look it's snowing!!!" and I replied "wish i were there to make a snowman with you" and she said "haha i dont like to touch snow..." and i said "aw you need gloves.. with heaters attached" and no reply and the next day I sent her a txt "=) good morning bunny, did u have a sound sleep?" she read it but didn't respond Should i just back up? a week ago I really wanted to clear some things out by giving her an ultimatum -- "either be my girl again or completely break contact because I can't bear to be friends with you. This is for the sake of both of us." and she began to cry and I instantly regretted saying it and she admitted that she still has feelings for me when I asked her but she doesn't know what to do... then she hung up because she didnt feel like talking so I sent her a txt "everything's going to be okay. let me know when u feel better to talk" ... maybe I should've given her space. WHat do you think? Please help! p.s. after i sent that txt I waited for 2 days and I called her and by the tone of her voice I swear to heavens I could hear mad/sadness and said, "I thought you didn't want me to call you anymore," then we just talked for a while and yeah.. and then she sent me the "look it's snowing!!" txt afterwards.. i'm honestly confused by this. i'm still going to do NC, but i want to get back together, too!
Author deekay Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 I'm still waiting to cringe and wince. So I wasn't being clingy to her?
cavalier99 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Duuude. I give up. Keep on beating you head against the wall until you knock yourself out. Some of us need to do this.
Author deekay Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Duuude. I give up. Keep on beating you head against the wall until you knock yourself out. Some of us need to do this. What? o_O?
cavalier99 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 What? o_O? You are fighting a LOSING battle. The only way to win is stop fighting and do something else. My point is that eventually you will be forced to give up. The only question if when. You can keep on going with this delusional hope until you crash (and it will happen). Or you can accept reality NOW and start to heal. She is gone FOREVER. Act accordingly and you will recover faster. Keep on contacting and you will recover...but MUCH slower. Your choice. Either way it is OVER. Your choices on how you recover are up to you. If you feel like contacting her go ahead. You will eventually understand what she communicated the day she left..."she doesnt want to be with you" irregardless of the few nice texts about SNOW. YOU ARE "SNOWING" YOUR SELF. Look up expression. Good luck.
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