ello Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 hi guys. So i met this guy about a month ago. He works far away during winter, and i knew that when i met him. We have talked on the phone every day, and gone out a bit. He was calling me lots, and dropping strange hints that confused me. He would ask if i liked him, ask if i was dating other people, etc, etc. He even called me one night a bit drunk and was saying stuff about being his girlfriend. So, naturally I thought he liked me. And the other day i asked him on MSN. I thought I was just having fun, I mean he did it, why couldn't I? He typed back "you are an awesome girl, but I am leaving soon, i cant have a relationship. the long distance thing is too hard to do." This conversation went on for awhile because he added that he just got out of a relationship, etc, etc. I got a bit defensive and said that he shoulda told me this instead of acting like he liked me. He went on to say he wanted a casual relationship, and i thought he meant just sex, so i was a bit angry. He said no, not just sex, but i want to be able to meet new people, date people, etc. Just have fun cause hes single now and going away. He says he likes me as a person.I was a bit offended, and i really shouldn't have been i guess, but i was like well do you go on dates with all people you like just as people? And he was like well obviously I like you more than a friend. I was mad, and didn't really continue the conversation. And haven't talked to him since. But I feel bad and kinda stupid now, cause all i really wanted was a casual dating relationship as well, just to have fun. I was just offended I guess that he seemed to change his mind about me or something. I dont know if I should contact him just to patch it up, what I should say, etc. I would like to at least be friends. I think I made him mad. And I was just kinda mad cause I never asked him to be in a relationship, he assumed. Should I say that though? I dunno, i guess i will keep my mouth shut next time i like someone. Please help!
overseas2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 First of all you should stop lying to yourself. It is obvious from your post that you like him and you dont want to just at least be freinds as you said. You should also check on whether you just want to be a casual f--- for someone as well. I doubt you do.. and that is precisly what he wants lest you be fooled (as it seems you have fooled yourself). You should let this one pass... before you get hurt. But that is just my humble opinion. Good luck Overseas2004
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