mike5770 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Went no nontact early october...celebrating almost 2 months....heard nothing from her moved on with my life...am into a new woman we are friends but growing closer and I took a pic with her and another couple at our x mas party last night. Well I get a text from a number (deleted her number but still remember it) "Are you seeing someone new? This is now the second picture associated with this erin I still have feelings for you I am sorry I treated you the way I did (Ignoring me picking a fight after we made plans the week before to get together with her children) can we talk? Miss you. I am not going to respond...I feel so empowered I do not want to go back on the roller coaster again. Recovery almost complete. I do feel kinda bad I didnt mean to rub someone new in her face we have remained facebook friends but she blew me off many times and I have had enough. I feel I am allowed to move on with my life at this point. Besides it is an innocent picture.
Love Bytes Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Man, people on this site can sure be bitter. (Not referring to you, OP) If you really think you're over her, and don't want to get back together, be honest. I can only imagine you're still fb friends for one of two reasons. 1, you still have feelings for her, or 2, you want to be friends. There's no other legitimate reason for her to be on there IMO. Either way, if you want a friendship with her, ignoring this isn't gonna work. I know nothing about your situation, but why/how did you guys break up? Maybe a little insight would help. Saying **** off, and being upset about fb messages doesn't do anything. We all know the emotional pain of something like this, and she might be feeling it too.
frederickkk Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 bitter or reality? tell her to ****ing sort her **** out, she either wants you or she doesn't. black and white.
lovesick1 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Don't even be understanding or sweet to her about it. If she was the one acting crazy and blowing you off just say, "The way you acted, you have no right to contact me out of jealously now that I am with someone who acts sane, goodbye." And don't respond back to anymore because you definitely will get more 2
spaniard Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 bitter or reality? tell her to ****ing sort her **** out, she either wants you or she doesn't. black and white. I think you should learn how to show some respect. You know nothing about the OP nor his ex, so your words are way too harsh. To the OP: stay strong, these are extremely difficult period. Yes, you should keep moving on, I think you're doing very well after two months.
frederickkk Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 respect means nothing. she had her reasons for the breakup. either stick to them or come back. dont mess the OP around. Period.
cavalier99 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) Went no nontact early october...celebrating almost 2 months....heard nothing from her moved on with my life...am into a new woman we are friends but growing closer and I took a pic with her and another couple at our x mas party last night. Well I get a text from a number (deleted her number but still remember it) "Are you seeing someone new? This is now the second picture associated with this erin I still have feelings for you I am sorry I treated you the way I did (Ignoring me picking a fight after we made plans the week before to get together with her children) can we talk? Miss you. I am not going to respond...I feel so empowered I do not want to go back on the roller coaster again. Recovery almost complete. I do feel kinda bad I didnt mean to rub someone new in her face we have remained facebook friends but she blew me off many times and I have had enough. I feel I am allowed to move on with my life at this point. Besides it is an innocent picture. Stay hard NC. Bet you wish you did this early on right? So now is your chance to recover even more self respect! Glad your doing well. Im at! 2 plus months also and would love to ignore the EX if ever given the opportunity. DONT JUSTIFY YOURSELF. You can do whatever you want remember? Hopefully at some point even ignoring them wont even give us this perverse pleasure! Edited December 8, 2012 by cavalier99
Author mike5770 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Thank you for all the replies. I still would like to have her as a friend. I deleted her from Facebook when she untagged a pic of us on vacation together after she told me she loved me and tagged herself in it. It was this kind of on again off again behavior that made me not want to talk to her. I really feel for her situation she has three kids who loved me and is divorced single mom living on assistance lookins desperately for a job. I guess I will send a text to the effect "I do want to be your friend again one day but I will need to contact you when I am ready. I do hope everything is getting better in your life." I dont want to break this 2 month nc streak it is like a game I am finally winning. She must realize I am not playing around this time before I would always give in and apologize to her just to het her back in my life. I think she knows I am moving on.
Author mike5770 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 I then re added her and we have stayed facebook friends ever since. No Contact really does work my mind is now more focusing on a new woman which would have been impossible a few weeks ago.
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 bitter or reality? tell her to ****ing sort her **** out, she either wants you or she doesn't. black and white. Really often dumpers treated us like shyte. Yet that's ok?
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Yet she's only interested as she hadn't heard anything from you in a while. Then only to blow you off yet again. That wasn't really polite was it?! Stuff her.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I then re added her and we have stayed facebook friends ever since. No Contact really does work my mind is now more focusing on a new woman which would have been impossible a few weeks ago. If your not trying to upset her, then when you post stuff to Facebook, make sure to use the exclusion function. For individual posts, you can tell Facebook to not let certain people see it.
Sav Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 respect means nothing. she had her reasons for the breakup. either stick to them or come back. dont mess the OP around. Period. Why don't you take your advice for once. For the OP I would say just do whatever you want because you do not want to have regrets. However if you choose to reply, know that there's a chance to get hurt once again
frederickkk Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 mine were false. Gigs. and when its done, ill be gone. wherever you are in the world sav, go after your ex, f uck the law, do as you wish, we are all animals on this planet, and you are just a number.
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