Mr Scorpio Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Although I haven't spent much time reading this forum, I imagine it is "accepted" that -- in a way -- people who are somewhat less attractive physically can be more desirable? That is to say that, on a psychological level, one would feel less threatened by competition if their partner is less attractive than a particular standard? I've noticed television ads using women that I consider to meet this idea. I find them... adorable? Lauren Lapkus - IMDb Kate Micucci - IMDb
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Although I haven't spent much time reading this forum, I imagine it is "accepted" that -- in a way -- people who are somewhat less attractive physically can be more desirable? That is to say that, on a psychological level, one would feel less threatened by competition if their partner is less attractive than a particular standard? I've noticed television ads using women that I consider to meet this idea. I find them... adorable? Lauren Lapkus - IMDb Kate Micucci - IMDb I see your thinking but disagree. That lauren girl isn't that bad, but that Kate girl omg when ever I see her on TV I'm like WHY ME... her head just looks really misshapen and she looks annoying. I'd consider people like http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/59/AmberHeard09TIFF.jpg/170px-AmberHeard09TIFF.jpg and http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/d/dd/Olivia_Wilde_at_CES,_2011_2.jpg/220px-Olivia_Wilde_at_CES,_2011_2.jpg and http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/4/47/Anne_Hathaway_at_the_2007_Deauville_American_Film_Festival-01A.jpg/220px-Anne_Hathaway_at_the_2007_Deauville_American_Film_Festival-01A.jpg much more attractive and much much much more desirable as well.
todreaminblue Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Although I haven't spent much time reading this forum, I imagine it is "accepted" that -- in a way -- people who are somewhat less attractive physically can be more desirable? That is to say that, on a psychological level, one would feel less threatened by competition if their partner is less attractive than a particular standard? I've noticed television ads using women that I consider to meet this idea. I find them... adorable? Lauren Lapkus - IMDb Kate Micucci - IMDb So for curiosity sake say if a woman was less desirable by society standards( i guess this standard is society and its view) and a man was to date them thinking they were less of a risk and they changed physical appearance after feeling good about(love can do that_) themselves dropped weight got a hair cut started wearing different clothes..... and then competition started coming at that guy....looks whistles and obvious interest through flirting not from the woman though....regardless if that guy they are dating is standing next to them or walking with them how would that person feel then? would they still find that woman attractive or become distrustful, pissed off, blame the woman for others behaviors and therefore interest would wane on the mans behalf .....and regard that woman as a risk? what is your opinion.....so less attractiveness is not a certainty of no competition in my opinion....things change women change.....so do men.....being in a relationship makes some people highly confident and secure.....also makes them more attractive to either of the sexes for people who like a challenge and a pretty face...i dont think it is a way to pick someone on attractiveness alone or not pick them.........deb 1
veggirl Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 LOL no. Both those girls you linked to are very odd looking, and if it weren't for professional make up, they'd prob be downright ugly in real life. I don't think either of those 2 are "somewhat" less attractive. I think they are downright goofy looking.
dasein Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Not sure I see the connection between less threat and more desire other than in LSE cases, but when you mentioned adorable in a quirky way, I thought instantly of Anna Chlumsky. Now she is arguably traditionally good looking as well, but that's who I think of when I think adorable. Also Alexie Gilmore, another poster child for adorable, also good looking though.
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I like the girl next door look but hardly the less attractive look. I'd like to mention Freido Pinto to give the indian ladies some love. Also Kate Winslet is hott 2
ScreamingTrees Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Micucci is 30+ years old? She looks 12. That might be one plus side to dating her? That she'll never age and give off the impression that she'll live forever until she suddenly dies some day?
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Micucci is 30+ years old? She looks 12. That might be one plus side to dating her? That she'll never age and give off the impression that she'll live forever until she suddenly dies some day? A lot of parasites don't really age until they suddenly get killed by the immune system or host dies some day. Some people go the reproduction route, I guess nature has seen fit for Micucci to go the self repair route.
ThaWholigan Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I'm confused by this thread. Why would your desire be affected by these things? You think she's hot or you don't. Simple? 1
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I'm confused by this thread. Why would your desire be affected by these things? You think she's hot or you don't. Simple? My theory is he finds them good looking for some crazy reason yet he understand they are not so that makes them feel more approachable or something like that... Just a guess 1
ThaWholigan Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 My theory is he finds them good looking for some crazy reason yet he understand they are not so that makes them feel more approachable or something like that... Just a guess Ok. A sort of organic "perfect league finding" phenomenon. I see.
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Ok. A sort of organic "perfect league finding" phenomenon. I see. yeah not that I believe in leagues but something like that. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I you wanted to look beautiful and attractive you should check you dressing and you can increase it by you personality .I think personality had a great effect on others .What you think about it . i do too.....i think beauty comes from the way you treat others the way you carry yourself in your own skin in spite of nerves in spite of insecurities and clothes can often determine how you are perceived..... in my opinion guys in white t shirts no emblems.....to em signify they are who they are no tags or frills...just a guy..comfortable in his own skin......ok i have a thing for white t shirts.....masculinity city....deb
ThaWholigan Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 yeah not that I believe in leagues but something like that. I don't believe in leagues either
Author Mr Scorpio Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 My theory is he finds them good looking for some crazy reason yet he understand they are not so that makes them feel more approachable or something like that... Just a guess More less. I find them attractive, but I understand that they are not necessarily objectively attractive. To reverse the idea, I find Kim Kardashian objectively attractive (i.e. - I would hire her to model a jacket) but I personally do not find her attractive. Now, sense they are less objectively attractive, my cold mind reaches the conclusion that there is less competition for them, making them more attainable and thus more desirable. All things being equal, would I prefer to date a Mila Kunis look-alike? Hell yes. Would I enjoy knowing that my GF is being hit on by other men on a regular basis? Nope.
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 All things being equal, would I prefer to date a Mila Kunis look-alike? Hell yes. Would I enjoy knowing that my GF is being hit on by other men on a regular basis? Nope. Mila Kunis is hotttttt, you know we have some Mila Kunis look alikes who post on this site. No joke. Maybe it is Mila Kunis... Look I date beautiful women so I know other men are going to be looking and trying when I'm not around, heck some times guys will try when you are around. Thing is if you're confident you can even enjoy that fact. It's called a trophy girlfriend or trophy wife.
SJC2008 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I don't believe in leagues either People have different opinions on leagues. I say they exist and it's also a proven fact that they exist. Now sociologists don't use the word leagues but it's what they are talking about and I'll paraphrase 'People for the most part date and marry those of similar race, education, religion and LOOKS' IMO mabye the OP meant more obtainable?? Plain janes probably get more attention than hotties because they guys think they're more obtainable.
ls32ssibm Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I believe what OP is trying to say is that some people are "adorkable", which is entirely true. However, Gooch from Scrubs is very unattractive and to an extent creepy I think. Another person that would fit this archetype is Chloe from 24.
CptObvious Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 never used to notice hathaway until tdkr. Now I think about her all the time
todreaminblue Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Mila Kunis is hotttttt, you know we have some Mila Kunis look alikes who post on this site. No joke. Maybe it is Mila Kunis... Look I date beautiful women so I know other men are going to be looking and trying when I'm not around, heck some times guys will try when you are around. Thing is if you're confident you can even enjoy that fact. It's called a trophy girlfriend or trophy wife. yeah well being a trophy wife or girlfriend .....sucks for the woman....my ex used to show these behaviors.....he seemed to like it when guys stopped and stared or he woudl tun around to see them checking out my rear because then he could say....."what are you looking at,yeah she's mine matey" yes he did this once ......it was embarrassing for me.....when i put on weight he changed.....i wanted to look good for him sure.....the fitness was for his benefit......and mine.....i didn't do it to get attention from others....he liked it though when i did.....doesnt show or say much about me though does it...he eventually left when i started to get ill.......deb.....
GoodOnPaper Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 That is to say that, on a psychological level, one would feel less threatened by competition if their partner is less attractive than a particular standard? Definitely a huge factor for me. Whenever competition arose, I always lost, so in a sense looking-like-I-wouldn't-have-competition became an appealing trait in a woman. The problem is that trying to find someone to whom you are attracted enough to fall in love with but who you don't think any other guy would want is pretty much an impossible task. At least I wasn't able to pull it off. You live either being less-than-inspired by your partner or always insecure about her leaving.
EasyHeart Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 People with healthy self-esteem seek out the most attractive partner they can find; people with low self-esteem try to find partners they think have no other options.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 yeah well being a trophy wife or girlfriend .....sucks for the woman....my ex used to show these behaviors.....he seemed to like it when guys stopped and stared or he woudl tun around to see them checking out my rear because then he could say....."what are you looking at,yeah she's mine matey" yes he did this once ......it was embarrassing for me.....when i put on weight he changed.....i wanted to look good for him sure.....the fitness was for his benefit......and mine.....i didn't do it to get attention from others....he liked it though when i did.....doesnt show or say much about me though does it...he eventually left when i started to get ill.......deb..... Deb, did you date a pirate? *wink.... "matey"..... I think anyone that posts a picture or says somethign critical of another person should have to post a picture of themselves! This should be a new LS rule. It would certainly put things into perpsective instead of being able to hide behind our computers putting down other people.
IT Geek Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 People with healthy self-esteem seek out the most attractive partner they can find; people with low self-esteem try to find partners they think have no other options. Maybe the reason we have low self-esteem is that we've been shot down so much that we DO have no other options.
gaius Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 People with healthy self-esteem seek out the most attractive partner they can find; people with low self-esteem try to find partners they think have no other options. I don't think Hugh Jackman or Pierce Brosnan lack confidence because they are with women society would consider beneath what they could get. They go for what they want and don't care what anyone else thinks. Good for them. To walk into a room and know that everyone is whispering “THAT's his WIFE?” behind your back takes an abundance of self-confidence. I respect that more than some of the guys I know who don't stay with the women they really adore because they're embarrassed of what others may think. Sometimes yes, guys with low self esteem with deliberately seek out a woman they might not be super attracted to because they feel less threatened. Attraction is so much more multifaceted and complicated than that though.
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