Necromancer Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 It tried it two times didn't work, I didn't talk to one of them for more than a year and we are in the same school. I think in one of the case i never had a chance, i think Friend zone like that cannot be escaped. When a gal sees you only as a friend, you cannot change that. (Lack of looks, but likes your personality).
soccerrprp Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Of course it's possible. It happens in many more situations than you think.
RachR Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 When she friendzones you it means I HAVE NO SEXUAL OR ROMANTIC INTEREST IN YOU. What makes you think not talking to her for a year would change that? 1
Author Necromancer Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 When she friendzones you it means I HAVE NO SEXUAL OR ROMANTIC INTEREST IN YOU. What makes you think not talking to her for a year would change that? It didn't change anything, I was stuck and had to move on. I don't talk to her unless i need to (same social circle).
NiceGuyDTW Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Exactly this. Stop being so naive. You can't "escape the friend zone" if she's not attracted to you. Basically what women want is completely their right and they should be encouraged to be selective in their partners and not to settle for people they aren't attracted to. Maybe she wants someone a bit taller or more well off financially or as you said better looking as a suitable partner. Women are inundated with lots of unsolicited requests for relationships from men ,who are on the whole not attractive. These men are rejected, and rightfully so: because women when given numerous options will be picky and choose the best partner they can possibly get. What exactly do you want these women to do? Furthermore, you seem to lack a understanding of some of the basic concepts of biology. Yes, being the selector is an advantage - when choosing a mate. but this is for a reason and comes with a hefty price. Women and most females of all species cannot afford to simply mate with unbridled freedom like men can. this is because they invest the most in mating. for women this can mean a 10 month pregnancy, where she is vulnerable and requires support. its impossible to tell who really has the best deal in dating. fairness is not a word that is appropriate to use in this context. Both genders have benefits that are intrinsic to their particular gender. Try relating to women as human beings. Besides I hate to say this over again but if you were really nice you wouldn't mind being in the friend zone. There's nothing wrong with having more friends. Nice biological explanation of what's going on with women.
skydiveaddict Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I think in one of the case i never had a chance, i think Friend zone like that cannot be escaped. You are correct. Once inside the dreaded friend zone, there is indeed no escape.
Author Necromancer Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Exactly this. Stop being so naive. You can't "escape the friend zone" if she's not attracted to you. Basically what women want is completely their right and they should be encouraged to be selective in their partners and not to settle for people they aren't attracted to. Maybe she wants someone a bit taller or more well off financially or as you said better looking as a suitable partner. Women are inundated with lots of unsolicited requests for relationships from men ,who are on the whole not attractive. These men are rejected, and rightfully so: because women when given numerous options will be picky and choose the best partner they can possibly get. What exactly do you want these women to do? Furthermore, you seem to lack a understanding of some of the basic concepts of biology. Yes, being the selector is an advantage - when choosing a mate. but this is for a reason and comes with a hefty price. Women and most females of all species cannot afford to simply mate with unbridled freedom like men can. this is because they invest the most in mating. for women this can mean a 10 month pregnancy, where she is vulnerable and requires support. its impossible to tell who really has the best deal in dating. fairness is not a word that is appropriate to use in this context. Both genders have benefits that are intrinsic to their particular gender. Try relating to women as human beings. Besides I hate to say this over again but if you were really nice you wouldn't mind being in the friend zone. There's nothing wrong with having more friends. What a beta, I am amazed. So i should torture myself emotionally seeing her **** another guys while i have crush on her?. Be my guest!.
jcrew11 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 It tried it two times didn't work, I didn't talk to one of them for more than a year and we are in the same school. I think in one of the case i never had a chance, i think Friend zone like that cannot be escaped. When a gal sees you only as a friend, you cannot change that. (Lack of looks, but likes your personality). Is it just the guy's looks? Or do you also have low self-esteem and low self-worth? If got a lot of things going for you. If you dress well, or have a "cool" personality, then girls will be attracted to you. Besides looks, do you have any other reasons that a girl will want to be attracted to you? Its very rare to get girls with a "defeatest, depressing, attitude" especially if you are seeking a fun, upbeat, hot chick. The best thing you can do besides buying nicer clothes and maybe some piercings and tattoos. Is to make her jealous. Try "dating" or hooking up with other girls, so that she sees you as a sexual being, and not the gay, wimpy, platonic friend. Lower your standards and start hooking up with fat girls.
somedude81 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 "Lasciate ogne speranza, voi ch'intrate" (Abandon all hope, ye who enter here)
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 So, OP - are you contemplating jaw surgery?
dasein Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Here's how to get out of the friendzone, f-ck some of her friends well enough for them to sing your praises. You will be out in no time. 1
Carenth Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) The "Friend Zone" isn't real it is some warped sense of logic that some people make up for people not being interested in them. Really a seriously warped sense of entitlement. It's like going up to your friends and going "man that chick, I so would be with her but that bitch friend zoned me". Actually no that is not true for various reasons. 1) Fundamentally you have to agree to be in the friend zone. If you have been "friend zoned" congratulations for putting yourself there because you agreed to it, no one can put you there. 2) You are not entitled to someone being romantically or sexually interested in you. It doesn't matter what a "nice, brilliant, funny or <insert whatever here>" if the other person is not interested they are not interested don't demonize them with this friend zone bull****. Take it in your stride and move on, don't pine over something that was never going too happen anyway. 3) Agreeing to be a "friend" with a girl/guy that you want to have a relationship with is not friendship. It's that creepy awkward friendship where one of the following scenarios happens 3A) Your target has no idea that you are not actually interested in being friends with them and secretly want more. You are hoping the will secretly fall in love over time, then you crack the ****s when they don't. You are seriously deluding yourself if you think that is friendship and are being dishonest to them and yourself. 3B) You tell your target you are interested in them but they say they are not and offer you friendship and you agree to that friendship even though you don't want that. You pine for them and bitch and moan about the position you put yourself in. That is not friendship either. Both of these situations you put yourself into and can be easily avoided if you accept they are not interested in you and probably never will be and when they offer too be friends simply reply "Sorry I'm not interested in more friends right now and honestly I see you as more than a friend so I don't think that would work out. Let me know if you change your mind". Then move the **** on with your life rather than bitching about your sense of entitlement. Whining about the "friend zone" is seriously unattractive and shows how bloody insecure you are in yourself and how much you care about how others perceive you that you have to think of bull**** reasons as to why they don't want to be with you. Woo.... friend zone is bull**** rant over... Edited December 8, 2012 by Carenth 2
skydiveaddict Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Woo.... friend zone is bull**** rant over... It's not though. Ask any dude who has taken the "walk of shame." It's a prison that exists in real time.
Carenth Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) It's not though. Ask any dude who has taken the "walk of shame." It's a prison that exists in real time. A prison created by those who want to demonize a persons right too say no. Who can't accept that not everyone will like them back. So yeah it's quite bull**** for the insecure and immature. The "walk of shame" has nothing to do with friendzone bull****. Edited December 8, 2012 by Carenth
ThaWholigan Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 The friendzone is optional - and in all honesty sometimes she might still want to f*ck you eventually even if you end up there. Seen it happen. It depends on the two people involved - how you handle it and how she actually responds.
somedude81 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 The biggest mistake with the friendzone is letting yourself get put in there. When a girl turns you down, the best thing you can do is be a man and walk away. Act cool about just in case she changes her mind but don't expect her to. Basically, don't be an ass. 1
Carenth Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) The biggest mistake with the friendzone is letting yourself get put in there. When a girl turns you down, the best thing you can do is be a man and walk away. Act cool about just in case she changes her mind but don't expect her to. Basically, don't be an ass. Agreed except I would change it too. The biggest mistake with the friendzone is putting yourself in there. The way you wrote it is that it's the other persons fault, when in fact every time I've read about these situations the person who is complaining put themselves in the very situation they lament. It really comes down to a simple choice. A) Be their "friend" in the hope they will have sex with you one day. or B) Move on with your life. people in these situations choose A because they think that a person who is their friend will have a better chance and then get all pissy for the stupid choice they made. Edited December 8, 2012 by Carenth
skydiveaddict Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 The friendzone is optional You better watch out Wholigan. It will eventually get you too.
Locust Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Getting out of the friend zone will never happen. I'm always friend zone so I know what its like.
CptObvious Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Pick your escape route: 1. Get rich 2. Get shredded 3. Get famous 1
somedude81 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Agreed except I would change it too. The biggest mistake with the friendzone is putting yourself in there. The way you wrote it is that it's the other persons fault, when in fact every time I've read about these situations the person who is complaining put themselves in the very situation they lament. It really comes down to a simple choice. A) Be their "friend" in the hope they will have sex with you one day. or B) Move on with your life. people in these situations choose A because they think that a person who is their friend will have a better chance and then get all pissy for the stupid choice they made. Putting yourself in the friendzone implies that you decided that you only want to be her friend. Letting yourself get put in there means that it was her decision to have you only for a friend, and your choice is to accept or not. Every time I have been in the friendzone with a girl, it was because she decided that she only wanted me as a friend, and I let it happen. Putting yourself in the friendzone means that you let her know that you are not interested in her. That can be done both intentionally and unintentionally.
Carenth Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Both of those situations require you too choose to accept been just a friend. That's why I believe only you are responsible for putting yourself in the "friend zone". Then again I'm a stickler for people taking responsibility their choices/actions and not pass the blame too others. *shrugs*
Author Necromancer Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 I don't think anything extraordinary is going on. Women are the selectors and they will always be the selectors. In short eggs are expensive while sperm is relatively cheap. I think we need to understand, accept, and certainly appreciate this fact about women. Some men will no doubt be left out of the reproductive game and by simple logic there will be more men "friendzoned" than there will be women. Remember: It is not anyone's right to sex or love. Men such as yourself need to be reminded of this fact. So you are telling me that i am not nice for protecting my feelings and moving on by stop being her friend?. So you let yourself be friend zoned, because then you are nice wtf man?.
Author Necromancer Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 The "Friend Zone" isn't real it is some warped sense of logic that some people make up for people not being interested in them. Really a seriously warped sense of entitlement. It's like going up to your friends and going "man that chick, I so would be with her but that bitch friend zoned me". Actually no that is not true for various reasons. 1) Fundamentally you have to agree to be in the friend zone. If you have been "friend zoned" congratulations for putting yourself there because you agreed to it, no one can put you there. 2) You are not entitled to someone being romantically or sexually interested in you. It doesn't matter what a "nice, brilliant, funny or <insert whatever here>" if the other person is not interested they are not interested don't demonize them with this friend zone bull****. Take it in your stride and move on, don't pine over something that was never going too happen anyway. 3) Agreeing to be a "friend" with a girl/guy that you want to have a relationship with is not friendship. It's that creepy awkward friendship where one of the following scenarios happens 3A) Your target has no idea that you are not actually interested in being friends with them and secretly want more. You are hoping the will secretly fall in love over time, then you crack the ****s when they don't. You are seriously deluding yourself if you think that is friendship and are being dishonest to them and yourself. 3B) You tell your target you are interested in them but they say they are not and offer you friendship and you agree to that friendship even though you don't want that. You pine for them and bitch and moan about the position you put yourself in. That is not friendship either. Both of these situations you put yourself into and can be easily avoided if you accept they are not interested in you and probably never will be and when they offer too be friends simply reply "Sorry I'm not interested in more friends right now and honestly I see you as more than a friend so I don't think that would work out. Let me know if you change your mind". Then move the **** on with your life rather than bitching about your sense of entitlement. Whining about the "friend zone" is seriously unattractive and shows how bloody insecure you are in yourself and how much you care about how others perceive you that you have to think of bull**** reasons as to why they don't want to be with you. Woo.... friend zone is bull**** rant over... OMFG, are you on something?. I am not whining, 1st of all girls know if you like them if they don't like you, they are mostly using the guys. I am not insecure by any means, i know the FZ is bull****. It seems like it's you that is having the problems raging on ls
Author Necromancer Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Its totally possible to get out of the friend zone. But not by being immature about it. If you come at a girl with a "bang me our I'm gone" attitude after being friends with her, it will usually blow up in your face. Refusing to talk to a girl who rejected you is just immature and not sexy. Most guys end up in the friend zone because they are too wimpy and don't challenge the woman. They are afraid of her and will never judge anything she does because she is hot. I'm willing to be in the friend zone if the woman offers something else outside of sex that I can use. I was put in the friend zone by a girl two weeks ago and I'm not sweating it because she has hot friends and other connections. As far as getting out of the friend zone goes... Just stop asking like a friend. Stop being so available. Stop kissing her butt. Stop acting like you need her in any way. Give her space and start dating other women. Show that you have lost interest. You might even want to tell her: "I'm glad we're just friends because it never would of worked out anyway. I can see now that we can NEVER date." I love manipulating women and sometimes when a woman rejects me or friend zones me I see it as a great opportunity to practice messing with her brain. I don't talk to her, because I don't want to be her only friend. Nothing immature about it. Like I did moved ON. Now people are hating on me for it WTF?. If i keep her as a friend: You are wimp for being in the FZ If i move on: you are not nice and immature. Is anything i do right to you guys?.
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