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My boyfriend admitted that he loves his mother more than he loves me?


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Is that wrong? I think it's great he loves his mom, that's wonderful. But I couldn't help feel a bit jealous when he told me this last night. We have a good relationship, and he tells me he loves me all the time, and I tell him I love him to, which I really do.

 

But this is what he said to me last night:

"I love you <3

more than anything

other than my mom

I love my mom more than you

sorry."

 

I just pretended to take it well and I said "Haha, okay babe"

But I am actually jealous of this. Am I wrong for feeling this way? By the way, he is 21, and I am 17. We have been together for a while.

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That is a long time. At least he loves his mom. That's a good sign on how he'll treat you.

 

I wouldn't worry about it. She probably tells him not to love you more than he loves her as a joke.

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I wouldn't be jealous because it is a fact, I honestly will always choose my family over my boyfriend.

 

Look at it this way, the both of you are still young, you will have your hurdles and at this stage, young love does not necessarily mean you'll be together forever. Until you become his wife, accept that he's a good little momma's boy.

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Well he was kind of a klutz to volunteer that out of the blue, wouldn't worry about it. We only have one mom, and as others say, it's a much better indicator for your relationship that he loves her than if he didn't.

 

If he goes into Vic Secret to buy his mom's Christmas present, -then- worry.

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It was totally goofy for him to point out he loves his mom more, but just as goofy for you to be jealous of that (or to expect anything different). Romantic love for you and familial love for his mom are different species; you aren't competing against his mom for some finite amount of love. Just take his dorky message as the sweet silliness it was meant to be.

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ScreamingTrees

Yes.. It's not the same sort of love, and he doesn't know you THAT long.. A year is a fairly long time, but you're both still so young, you're still maturing as individuals.

 

You shouldn't take offense to that, it's nothing personal, his mother brought him into this world.. She took care of him and gave him unconditional love. Of COURSE she'd be the most important thing in the world to him. Aren't your parents as loved by you as your boyfriend loves his? I'm willing to bet that they are. You don't love him more than them.. If you do, it didn't take much, relatively speaking. :p

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Is that wrong? I think it's great he loves his mom, that's wonderful. But I couldn't help feel a bit jealous when he told me this last night. We have a good relationship, and he tells me he loves me all the time, and I tell him I love him to, which I really do.

 

But this is what he said to me last night:

"I love you <3

more than anything

other than my mom

I love my mom more than you

sorry."

 

I just pretended to take it well and I said "Haha, okay babe"

But I am actually jealous of this. Am I wrong for feeling this way? By the way, he is 21, and I am 17. We have been together for a while.

 

He should love his mom more. If you give him kids and become a loving faithful wife then there would be an issue.

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florence of suburbia
your boyfriend is being honest, like an idiot.

He'll learn from this mistake though.

 

Being honest isn't the same as verbal diarhea -- just because it's inside you doesn't mean it should all come out.

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