The more days go by w/ NC the more I think we will never get back together

[Dkp]

That's a good thing tho I guess.. For some stupid pathetic reason I had a lil tiny ounce of hope that we would. But each day that goes by the farther that idea gets and the more angrier I become. I absolutely hate the fact that I love and care so damn much for a person that did me so wrong and doesn't deserve another tear another thought another minute of my time. I feel that I need some closure I feel that will help. In the past when we "broke up" he would make it a point to say goodbye so we wouldn't end on bad terms but this time it's like this? Idk I guess I would need to see him bangin another girl in front of my face to get it through my stupid head that were done. He cheated why do I still give a damn. Smh I'm so dumb and pathetic I know!!!!!

[Toddbt12y1]

That's a good thing tho I guess.. For some stupid pathetic reason I had a lil tiny ounce of hope that we would. But each day that goes by the farther that idea gets and the more angrier I become. I absolutely hate the fact that I love and care so damn much for a person that did me so wrong and doesn't deserve another tear another thought another minute of my time. I feel that I need some closure I feel that will help. In the past when we "broke up" he would make it a point to say goodbye so we wouldn't end on bad terms but this time it's like this? Idk I guess I would need to see him bangin another girl in front of my face to get it through my stupid head that were done. He cheated why do I still give a damn. Smh I'm so dumb and pathetic I know!!!!!

 

 

Lol, silly-girl, silly-girl. Do not hold out hope. Look: No hope. That is what this is. No hope, not even in the smallest. He lied, he cheated. The only time he will come back, is, if he wants more ass from you. That is being blunt. If he wants to do you some more, and that is it. To him you are his pleasure wagon; like this other girl. He has no loyalties. He has proven that he treats women like meat, so.

 

But if you want to dangle on a string like a piece of meat for the wolf to devour, he will come. Only for that. Sorry, but he cheated. He doesn't love you. Doesn't care for you. He used you. There is no hope. I have better hope that I will discover a goldmine that could fill the moon up with gold, than this douche-bag ever changing and coming back.

 

I know you miss him, but abandon hope. Jump ship. Get away from the burning house. Run for the hills, it is over. Find a better guy, that will love your mind, body, and soul. Not holding out hope for one that hopes he can sleep with your vagina some more. That is what he loves, look, it is what he ran after, I promise. Vagina <3 that's what he loves. Go find someone who will respect first, and love this: <3 of you.

[geegirl]

That's a good thing tho I guess.. For some stupid pathetic reason I had a lil tiny ounce of hope that we would. But each day that goes by the farther that idea gets and the more angrier I become. I absolutely hate the fact that I love and care so damn much for a person that did me so wrong and doesn't deserve another tear another thought another minute of my time. I feel that I need some closure I feel that will help. In the past when we "broke up" he would make it a point to say goodbye so we wouldn't end on bad terms but this time it's like this? Idk I guess I would need to see him bangin another girl in front of my face to get it through my stupid head that were done. He cheated why do I still give a damn. Smh I'm so dumb and pathetic I know!!!!!

 

He doesn't give you closure. You're waiting for him to cut the cord rather than you do it yourself for several obvious reasons:

 

Your closure:

 

1. You don't want to be with a cheater

2. You don't want to be mistreated anymore

3. You don't want to give up your self-respect and dignity

4. You deserve better and will not accept anything less

5. You realize your value

6. You have boundaries and you will not compromise

 

The man cheats. That is your reason for you to be done. You don't need to see him banging another girl to accept that reality.

[Simon Phoenix]

And not being with that guy ever again is a good thing. C'mon.

[Dkp]

I've been stalking the girl he cheated in me with instagram and she posted a picture in his room! I'm so hurt right now idk why I believed him that he stopped talking to her no wonder he hasn't called. I hate him do much I'm crying historically and I'm drinking it hurts do bad. I will never talk to him I've never been so serious in my life I lived him so much my heart is broken

[big bear]

NC is not a tool to get back together. It is not for RECONCILING

 

NC means not contact and finishing hope for all contact (This is not possible I know).

 

Means no FACEBOOK, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM etc. etc.

 

It means if the ex calls you, do not respond. If they send you a friend request do not accept.

 

It means going all aboard in getting away.

 

It means time to take the power back.

 

The only time an ex can break a real NC is if they show up at your doorstep wanting another chance.

[Dkp]

NC is not a tool to get back together. It is not for RECONCILING

 

NC means not contact and finishing hope for all contact (This is not possible I know).

 

Means no FACEBOOK, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM etc. etc.

 

It means if the ex calls you, do not respond. If they send you a friend request do not accept.

 

It means going all aboard in getting away.

 

It means time to take the power back.

 

The only time an ex can break a real NC is if they show up at your doorstep wanting another chance.

 

I didn't break it. I was just being nosey because I had a feeling he didn't stop talking to her. It's what I needed I needed to kno for sure and now that I do. I will never break nc.

[TaraMaiden]

The more days go by w/ NC the more I think we will never get back together

Thank your lucky stars.....

 

I didn't break it. I was just being nosey because I had a feeling he didn't stop talking to her. It's what I needed I needed to kno for sure and now that I do. I will never break nc.

 

No, you DID break it. Checking up on your ex- or anything associated with them, is breaking NC. And look where that got you....

 

I'm so hurt right now idk why I believed him that he stopped talking to her no wonder he hasn't called. I hate him do much I'm crying historically and I'm drinking it hurts do bad. I will never talk to him I've never been so serious in my life I lived him so much my heart is broken

 

No matter what, you have to stop doing this to yourself.

You broke NC, and now you're back to square one.

Quit drinking, clean up your face and go for a good long, brisk walk in some green place.

[LostOne1]

I didn't break it. I was just being nosey because I had a feeling he didn't stop talking to her. It's what I needed I needed to kno for sure and now that I do. I will never break nc.

Stop the drinking.. I did it and I felt like an idiot.

 

Do something POSITIVE.

 

Let this be a LIFE changing POSITIVE event rather than putting yourself in a hole.

 

Sure it hurts and it's tough, but DO something POSITIVE from this... just tell yourself this HAD to happen, because you HAD to become stronger.

 

And now you WILL become stronger.

[brokengirl3]

i know how u feel my ex dumped me as well i feel the same please be strong NC NC NC NC for ever!!!Its too difficult but we will make it !!!!supergirls;)

[youngnlove89]

Just think...the next time he cheats, it won't be on you!!!

 

*Carrie Underwood, love that song!

 

And trust me, I've gotten back with a guy who cheated on me once and the relationship was worse because I could never trust him again. I always accused him. Once someone cheats, it's over. There is no way of getting over that betrayal.

[KJBA2816]

The longer you keep NC the easier it will be to move on I know it's difficult, I know it's painful and hard and even though they are with other people and heard they are doing great and you're moping over them and a little bit of you hopes that it will work out, it really won't which is so painful I know but keep up the no contact, it will benefit you in the long run I promise

[Dkp]

I'm really going through it right now.. The pain is too much. Just knowing he's been with her and he hasn't called. To know he doesn't care about be anymore is killing me. I'm still in bed I have no energy to do anything I haven't ate. I hate him so much right now. It's going on 5 days nc besides me snooping on the girls page. I want him to care I want him to call so I can say **** off!!! Cheating on me was one thing breaking up and telling me to wait for him to get things in line in his life was another leaving me for another person is another and not even caring! I'm losing it. I'm losing my mind. I'm not gonna break nc but omg I can't take this. I'm a mess.

[Dkp]

He doesn't give you closure. You're waiting for him to cut the cord rather than you do it yourself for several obvious reasons:

 

Your closure:

 

1. You don't want to be with a cheater

2. You don't want to be mistreated anymore

3. You don't want to give up your self-respect and dignity

4. You deserve better and will not accept anything less

5. You realize your value

6. You have boundaries and you will not compromise

 

I need to all these things but im in so much pain right now. I'm so weak

[source24]

 

I need to all these things but im in so much pain right now. I'm so weak

 

Stay strong. I like to think of it this way. It is okay to feel hurt, to feel loss, to feel like we lost something incredible, because we did. But the thing is, no matter how hard you try, getting things back to the way they were at this point is damn near impossible.

 

So keep your head up. Try to focus on yourself. Realize that you experienced something great, and you have to accept that it is gone now. But be excited, because there is so much more out there, and someone waiting to make you feel even more special than you have ever felt before. Make yourself better for that person, the one you deserve. The one that won't hurt you.

 

I believe in you!

[KJBA2816]

You poor girl, seriously I am in the exact same situation as you. He treated me bad, I left him, he begged me to get back together with him so I did and he then left me for someone else taking my friends with him and he did wrong but he is happy.. I did right and I am this way? I am getting better with it but I can't believe someone who meant so much to me, I mean so little to him, after everything I did. It's so hard but all I can say it try your best to motivate yourself to do something, anything! And remember people are going through the exact same thing and have done and come out on top. I know people deal with differently but I see now there's no point over him, it's still so painful and difficult but I am not limiting myself over some idiot who treated me like crap after all I did was to make him happy, it's not going to be easy but you deserve better, motivate yourself, accept any social invites you get, find a hobby, throw yourself into a project, you will be okay I promise x

[Dkp]

I want to send him this! Like a last goodbye should I?

 

Richard, I just wanted to say this to get some closure on my end. For some reason I thought you were being honest about getting things back in order in your life. I was here for you always have been. Offered everything I could to help you.. And you turned me away. It hurts so bad to kno I wasn't worth it to you. I know you have been spending time with her.. and I made that very clear that this would be the last straw for me. I had lil hope that we would get back together but thsts gone now.. Im moving on and I leave with a clean conscience because GOD knows I poured every once of love that I had into the ****ty relationship. No one has ever put me through this pain and suffering I never thought that the person that meant so much to me would do this. Everything was a lie. I'll be changing my number and moving soon. You will NEVER hear from me again. Just think of me as I died. goodbye

[TaraMaiden]

NO!!

No, No, No, No, and most emphatically, definitely NO!!!

 

You know why?

because the instant you send it, you'll wonder how he will feel when he reads it, if he will show her, whether he will reply, when, in what way, will he acknowledge your pain, apologise, come back....

That's BREAKING NO CONTACT - YET AGAIN!!!

 

Quit hoping, quit sounding desperate, quit acting like a doormat! And there's so much poor me Drama queen in that message, he won't take it seriously. If I ever got a letter like that, I'd 'roll eyes' and throw it away....

If he's with her, you think he will do any different??

 

Do not, whatever you might think of doing - send that to him!

In fact, don't send anything to him, at all, ever!!

 

You don't get closure by contacting them again. In fact, you never, ever get closure from them, ever.

The only closure you get - is from you.

[Dkp]

NO!!

No, No, No, No, and most emphatically, definitely NO!!!

 

You know why?

because the instant you send it, you'll wonder how he will feel when he reads it, if he will show her, whether he will reply, when, in what way, will he acknowledge your pain, apologise, come back....

That's BREAKING NO CONTACT - YET AGAIN!!!

 

Quit hoping, quit sounding desperate, quit acting like a doormat! And there's so much poor me Drama queen in that message, he won't take it seriously. If I ever got a letter like that, I'd 'roll eyes' and throw it away....

If he's with her, you think he will do any different??

 

Do not, whatever you might think of doing - send that to him!

In fact, don't send anything to him, at all, ever!!

 

You don't get closure by contacting them again. In fact, you never, ever get closure from them, ever.

The only closure you get - is from you.

 

I didn't send it. I made a new thread about this. I realized I'm only going to give him more satisfaction to kno I'm miserable w/o him. It just sucks so bad!!!!! He doesn't care why should I.

[Jay08]

Look, i was in a similar situation as you, and i will give you my 2 cents:

 

Been 3.5 weeks NC now, and let me tell you how i feel. I feel awesome.

 

You know what, i was with this girl for a year and a half, literally bent over backwards for her, put up with her bullcrap to find out she cheated on me. And instead of ending it because i had the dumb 'everyone deserves a second chance' philosophy, i took her back. After that, i questioned everything she ever did. Even if she was telling the truth, i didnt believe her. And than, she breaks up with me by completely ignoring me. NC no nothing. Cowardly right?

 

Now, 3.5 weeks NC like i said. 1st few days is hard. Then the next few days (where your at) is the hardest. Its inevitable, you thought he may text you and recognize what he had, but he didnt. But eventually week 2 rolls around.

 

Week 2 your hope starts going away, and your sad but your adjusting. It starts getting easier.

 

Now, week 3. Your sad, but your more angry. You stop thinking about the good times, and start thinking about all the times they screwed you over, all the red flags you should have listened to. The past week i find out she cheated on me 2 times i did not know about. At first i was pissed, but then it just helped me realize how big of a d-bag she is and the cycle will continue with someone else.

 

It gets easier. It feels like it wont, i know, but it does. And just understand, one day they will contact you again. You do not need him to contact you right now because it will hurt you even more. But when he eventually does, respond "who is this again?" and delete the number. Making him feel like he never mattered.

[Jay08]

By the way, if thats you in your avatar, your gorgeous. Dont even worry about what hes doing. Go to some social events and youll have dudes trying to be his replacement.

[Dkp]

By the way, if thats you in your avatar, your gorgeous. Dont even worry about what hes doing. Go to some social events and youll have dudes trying to be his replacement.

 

Thank you! Yes that's me.. I'm gonna go out w/ a gf tonight to try to get my mind off of him. I kno time will heal its just during the process that hurts! And the carelessness on his end. I kno I have to accept it. Not that I have a choice. Boy did this one have me fooled tho. Smh.

[Toddbt12y1]

Dkp you poor doll you! Big hugs* it will end soon. This feeling for a need to talk to him. Don't give him a single letter. Don't give him the satisfaction. A pretty girl like you crying over a dick like this. He needs his butt beat. Same for any of you girls.