nofool4u Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 The question of the definition of "abuse" came up in another thread. By slot of people, cheating is seen as a form of abuse. One poster insisted that it is not because the definition of "abuse" centers around "intent" I beg to differ: Abuse - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary Under this definition there are 2 parts that abuse can be centered around. Definition 3: "a deceitful act" Or another sites definition: "To deceive or trick" "An unjust or wrongful practice" Mistreatment was also cited, and cheating is definitely mistreating the BS, intentionally or otherwise. Nowhere is "intent" specifically stated or even implied. Therefore, as far as I'm concerned, cheating is a form of abuse of a committed partner or spouse. And yes, those that find themselves in the cheaters seat are the ones that deny it and throw in the "intent" part. 2
Ninja'sHusband Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Yup, and I think infidelity is intentional. The lying and the deception are both intentional. Everyone knows those are harmful. And no, lies don't only hurt when revealed. They hurt before that, that's why people lie, they don't want people to know the damage they are secretly inflicting. Here's another thread on it http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/360839-infidelity-abuse
Spark1111 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 The question of the definition of "abuse" came up in another thread. By slot of people, cheating is seen as a form of abuse. One poster insisted that it is not because the definition of "abuse" centers around "intent" I beg to differ: Abuse - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary Under this definition there are 2 parts that abuse can be centered around. Definition 3: "a deceitful act" Or another sites definition: "To deceive or trick" "An unjust or wrongful practice" Mistreatment was also cited, and cheating is definitely mistreating the BS, intentionally or otherwise. Nowhere is "intent" specifically stated or even implied. Therefore, as far as I'm concerned, cheating is a form of abuse of a committed partner or spouse. And yes, those that find themselves in the cheaters seat are the ones that deny it and throw in the "intent" part. Of course it is! How is it any different than the man who hits his wife over and over again, but then claims they never meant to hurt you....but you drove me to do it kind of... It'c a classic form of abuse accompanied by all the same blame shifting and denial.
GLDheart Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I'd rather get hit in the gut with a baseball bat... over and over... every day... for a year... than to again go through the pain of infidelity. Abuse?!?!? Yeah. It's the worst pain I've ever felt. 1
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