Steve11 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 It been 5 days since the break up (she ended it saying that we need some time apart to get our lives sorted). It's been two days NC. We were meant to be going to a show tonight, but I obviously made other plans. She texted telling me to have fun, I said I made other plans. I sent her the tickets because her friends were going too. She said she couldn't go because we were meant to be going together and it wouldn't be the same. Why? You broke up with me!! I want her back. I said she should go, that it'd be fun without me. Then she said no, she's got an early morning. I haven't texted back.
Author Steve11 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 I tried. Why would she say that? I told her 3 days after the break up how I felt. How can I get her back?
na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 You can't. She dumped you, unless she changes her mind there's nothing you can do. Stop playing twenty questions and try to focus on moving on.
jwhite Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 It is easy to say move on after a a few months of NC, not so easy the first week. Like Drseussgrrl said above, go HARD NC. 1) She will wonder where you have gone and start to miss you. She will also probably text you telling you this. Here comes the big test. DO NOT ANSWER. She is only looking to relieve herself! She may even tell you you can get back together, it happend to me more than once, only it WILL end up the same way it is now....her not wanting you again. 2) KNOW that it takes more time than a couple of weeks for her to REALLY fall in love with you again. This may take months. You will know this by her begging at your doorstep. Once again ONLY with NC. 3) Now, KNOW what NC is REALLY for; it is for YOU! You will prevent yourself from more hurt by not snooping on FB, by blocking her number on your phone so you dont know she didnt call, and it speeds up recovery. This NC is your new gf. The gym is your new gf. Finding out how to love yourself again is your new gf. BODY(gym), MIND(books), SOUL(find how to love yourself)...in that order. These things will make you a new man so that next time, you will be doing the dumping bc you will see red flags BEFORE they do. 4
Author Steve11 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Really good advice. I'm trying to go NC, but when she contacts I get excited. It makes me happy hearing from her. I play it cool & don't mention the relationship or how I feel. But, I just want her to say 'I miss you'
Simon Phoenix Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Really good advice. I'm trying to go NC, but when she contacts I get excited. It makes me happy hearing from her. I play it cool & don't mention the relationship or how I feel. But, I just want her to say 'I miss you' Stop responding. Odds of her saying "I miss you" increase when you actually disappear and allow her to miss you. So do not respond.
Author Steve11 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 I haven't texted back since. So, no contact starts again today! I want her so much.
TaraMaiden Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Steve11, please read "The All-New Caliguy No Contact Guide" in my signature. The original author actually worked in the same place as his GF. So imagine his ordeal. Everything in it is true, and everything in it, works. 100%. But only if you do it.
movingon12 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Steve11, please read "The All-New Caliguy No Contact Guide" in my signature. The original author actually worked in the same place as his GF. So imagine his ordeal. Everything in it is true, and everything in it, works. 100%. But only if you do it. That thread should be pinned. 2
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