na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I'm finally coming to terms with the fact that my ex is done with me, has been done with me for a while and has moved on with her life. She is living her life and probably loving it without me. She probably goes weeks without thinking about me, and if she does she probably says "so happy I left him, I'm so much better off" and continues on with her life. meanwhile I'm here. Trying my best to get over her, realize that she is gone and NEVER coming back, not able to go a day without thinking about her and just feeling down.
jwhite Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Its been almost four months for you right? How long were you together? I read your original thread when you joined...probably should have been on here sooner, but that is neither here nor there. On a side note: The girl who called you to notify you of the things your ex did. She likes you:) You two should hang out. Another Q. Have you been NC? No FB snooping or anything, right?
Author na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 ick just was on facebook and saw a picture of us on my profile. bleh I won't be happy like that for a while.. The BU was the beginning of October, I've been NC since November 3rd. I haven't facebook stalked in over a month. For the better too, I stopped myself before I saw a picture of her with a new guy. I wish I joined here as soon as the BU happened, I would've known about NC earlier and would've felt so much better than I feel now. Also that girl who told me everything is her "friend" and didn't want my ex to break up with me but instead talk to me about everything. Or end the relationship for her because she knew what my ex was doing and didn't think I deserved that. So funny how someone who doesn't know me has my best interest in mind and someone who I've given my heart to doesn't. Love sucks. (sometimes)
jwhite Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Delete those pics. Go to the gym and work HARD for 6 months
Author na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Well she's blocked me so I think because of that I can't see the ones that she tagged me in anymore (which is pretty much all of them, she always uploaded the pictures of us). There are a few that my friend tagged us in though and one that her mom posted of us that I'm still tagged in.
Ramzk001 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) My ex moved on too, She picked a guy who had things that she never wanted in a guy. Shes happy!. Its over now. Once its over it can never be the same, even if i accept her i am sure she'd miss that damn guy who dumped, because we, humans, always love dumper. We want what we cant have. I want her to tap in this fight FIRST! Edited December 7, 2012 by Ramzk001
cavalier99 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I'm finally coming to terms with the fact that my ex is done with me, has been done with me for a while and has moved on with her life. She is living her life and probably loving it without me. She probably goes weeks without thinking about me, and if she does she probably says "so happy I left him, I'm so much better off" and continues on with her life. meanwhile I'm here. Trying my best to get over her, realize that she is gone and NEVER coming back, not able to go a day without thinking about her and just feeling down. Well. Not sure what to say. Big hug? But i feel like your part of my break up class so wanted to post. When the F-k are we going to graduate? Rock On!
LostOne1 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I'm finally coming to terms with the fact that my ex is done with me, has been done with me for a while and has moved on with her life. She is living her life and probably loving it without me. She probably goes weeks without thinking about me, and if she does she probably says "so happy I left him, I'm so much better off" and continues on with her life. meanwhile I'm here. Trying my best to get over her, realize that she is gone and NEVER coming back, not able to go a day without thinking about her and just feeling down. Guess it also means its time for you to move on too.. don't you think? It's going to hurt now, but 5-10 yrs from now when you look back for this moment. You will laugh and wonder why you worried and didn't move on sooner.
Author na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 It's definitely time, I can feel it, I'm just having trouble coming to terms with it. One more week of seeing her in my two classes and then winter break. A month to work on myself, spend time with family and friends and enjoy having money. Then next semester, new classes, some new faces and new opportunities. That's at least how I'd like to draw it up. If I could go through college never having to see her I think I'd be okay with that. By the time I'm "over her" and ready to be her friend, I don't think I'm going to care enough or want to especially considering what she did to me (no friend of mine does that). I guess we'll both go through college not liking each other and have that be that.
Indio Negrito Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 You'll be fine dude... From what I gather you're still in college so the opportunity to be with the next great one - will happen sooner or later. You need to focus on rebuilding your confidence. I had to do the same thing cause I was ****ed up in the head like you and im not someone who gets off track that easy. It hurts, I know...knowing she's moved on but dont forget bro, you're a man. Just like the path to god isnt straight, neither is finding true love or the never ending lessons of life's tribulations when you least expect it.... Dont worry if she wont come back - tell yourself you dont give a **** by building your physical prowess, which will improve your mental state and in return will start being more happy. People will notice your positive attitude in digital and analog...lol I promise you friend - something else will come along....if you're lonely, tell yourself you have the discipline to be with yourself - meaning no strings or anchors holding you back from going to Brazil, a strip club, bar, hockey game, movies, whatever.... Self control is a discipline, practice it...Women will be drawn to you naturally once they know you can hold your ground. I never had a problem with getting women, just picking the right one seems to be elusive... Hang in there!
Author na49 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Thanks a lot. I know that I need my confidence back, some days I feel confident and others I don't.. Some days I don't really "miss" her. other days I really miss her and just wish she'd come back. One thing I don't have trouble with is knowing that she isn't coming back which is harder to deal with than I thought.
magnoliasoutherly Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 You'll be fine dude... From what I gather you're still in college so the opportunity to be with the next great one - will happen sooner or later. You need to focus on rebuilding your confidence. I had to do the same thing cause I was ****ed up in the head like you and im not someone who gets off track that easy. It hurts, I know...knowing she's moved on but dont forget bro, you're a man. Just like the path to god isnt straight, neither is finding true love or the never ending lessons of life's tribulations when you least expect it.... Dont worry if she wont come back - tell yourself you dont give a **** by building your physical prowess, which will improve your mental state and in return will start being more happy. People will notice your positive attitude in digital and analog...lol I promise you friend - something else will come along....if you're lonely, tell yourself you have the discipline to be with yourself - meaning no strings or anchors holding you back from going to Brazil, a strip club, bar, hockey game, movies, whatever.... Self control is a discipline, practice it...Women will be drawn to you naturally once they know you can hold your ground. I never had a problem with getting women, just picking the right one seems to be elusive... Hang in there! +10,000 on all of that. Well said.
shahjahan Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I know exactly how you feel It's never easy to let go, and I know you'd probably do anything just to get her back. But I feel like it's not about having her (after all, she hurt you, would you really trust her again?), it's about having harmony, or THE harmony you have known with her. It will get better with time, though. It must. Stay strong!
Author na49 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Thanks, and you're right. Sometimes I ask myself "do I want her back? or am I just feeling lonely and want someone to love because I remember how loving her felt?" The "old her" (I hate to call it that, she just changed her behavior towards me, she didn't become an evil witch out of the blue) doesn't exist. The person that was really into me doesn't exist. The person who will be really into me is somewhere, but I also don't want to have that be my purpose. I really just want to live life and enjoy it without stressing out about things like this. I'm still young. (freshman in college) 1
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