bitterruin Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I have seen my ex twice in the past two weeks. The first time was when we where still saying it was a break and we'd get back together but that day I logged into his facebook to find that he was seeing somebody else, he then told me we're not getting back together but we should be friends however, boundaries needed to be set up. The second time was Monday when I told him the only boundary I wanted was no contact at all and that we're not going to be friends so there's no need for him to text me, not even to say Merry Christmas and that I would block him on facebook. I also admitted to him that I knew his Facebook password and had been logging in and read his messsages so he should change it. He said no. I told him I wouldn't log back into his facebook anyway but was having a hard time actually doing it. So today I decided to get his account locked so he'd have no choice but to change his password. Now that he's changed it I realize there is no connection between us anymore. There's no way for me to see what he's doing at all, and it makes me sad. I'm really going to miss him and am kinda hoping he'll break NC by texting me, but I doubt he will. I want him back but I know that he's with someone else now. Maybe this is for the best and I can finally start moving on now. How do I cope with the sadness and make sure I maintain NC?
cavalier99 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I have seen my ex twice in the past two weeks. The first time was when we where still saying it was a break and we'd get back together but that day I logged into his facebook to find that he was seeing somebody else, he then told me we're not getting back together but we should be friends however, boundaries needed to be set up. The second time was Monday when I told him the only boundary I wanted was no contact at all and that we're not going to be friends so there's no need for him to text me, not even to say Merry Christmas and that I would block him on facebook. I also admitted to him that I knew his Facebook password and had been logging in and read his messsages so he should change it. He said no. I told him I wouldn't log back into his facebook anyway but was having a hard time actually doing it. So today I decided to get his account locked so he'd have no choice but to change his password. Now that he's changed it I realize there is no connection between us anymore. There's no way for me to see what he's doing at all, and it makes me sad. I'm really going to miss him and am kinda hoping he'll break NC by texting me, but I doubt he will. I want him back but I know that he's with someone else now. Maybe this is for the best and I can finally start moving on now. How do I cope with the sadness and make sure I maintain NC? I logged into all my ex's accounts to force her to change her passwords. She didn't do it when i asked her. One of my best moves post breakup. She was so upset at me (rightly so) but it would have driven me insane. For any future BU ill do this before we are officially done or not know passwords. It sucks to have to worry about this after BU. Lost some self respect but it was survival time.
Author bitterruin Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 I logged into all my ex's accounts to force her to change her passwords. She didn't do it when i asked her. One of my best moves post breakup. She was so upset at me (rightly so) but it would have driven me insane. For any future BU ill do this before we are officially done or not know passwords. It sucks to have to worry about this after BU. Lost some self respect but it was survival time. I know this was the right move. I'm definitely going to be able to move on now that there's no connection. However, I can't help feeling sad about it now. I was with this guy for five years, we made plans about getting married after grad school and now it's time to face a future without him. I feel so alone I don't know where I'm going to get the strength to keep NC.
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