Ajaeck11 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 So I've been seeing this girl in a long distance relationship for about 8 months. I see her roughly every other month for a few days. I've been out to see her a couple of times and she's comes to see me more often here as she comes to my hometown for work. Any way long story short, about 2 months ago, she buys a new phone and gives it to me to check out while she was here.. while I was playing with the phone she gets a text from some guy saying "good morning sunshine, have a great day" Later that day I was setting up her phone and she gets another text from this guy saying "you wearing a skirt today, send me a pic of your hot legs." Again I ignored it. I asked her before she went back to her hometown if she was seeing anyone else as I felt she was a bit distance. She came back and said No. After that conversation, she became a lot more caring wanting to talk a lot more on the phone and she'd constantly tell me she was missing me etc. I thought everything was good. She came back into town recently. Again, she wanted me to show her something on her phone and again while I had the phone this guy messages her saying "hey sexy legs, how's your shoulder, want me to come over?" Anyway, curiosity got the best of me (i know I shouldn't have done this) and I went and look at her conversation history. She's been hanging out with this guy since the time we've been together. She goes to movies with him, he comes over, she cooks dinner for him, and from what it sounds like he's got keys to her place... ie she sent him a text saying "hey I've cooked for you it's in the freezer" i noticed that on days she meets up with this guy, she tells me she's meeting up with one of her girlfriends, evidently not. More recently it seems like he came over and she asked him to bring over bottles of wine. He texts her with lots of sweet nothings and flirts quite a bit. I don't see her flirting back per se in her messages back but evidently she's not bothered by it. Anyway, so in a nutshell I'm pretty sure she's cheating on me? Your thoughts or am I just being too anal? Would you consider this "just friends" behaviour? I just find it hard to beleive that a friend would be asking to come over to give a massage or to constantly cook dinner etc. Just doesn't add up. Thoughts? If she is cheating, how can I confront her as I can't exactly tell her i've seen her texts. Your internet wisdom is appreciated
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 If she is cheating, how can I confront her as I can't exactly tell her i've seen her texts. I call BS: she wanted me to show her something on her phone and again while I had the phone this guy messages Why can't you tell her you've seen these messages? My suspicion is you lied to us. She didn't give you her phone, you went behind her back and snooped. That aside, yeah, she's cheating big time. But with all the evidence you've presented us and you still aren't able to realize this yourself, my guess is you are going to continue to overlook it until you have a smoking gun. 3
justwhoiam Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I call BS: Why can't you tell her you've seen these messages? My suspicion is you lied to us. I had the very same thoughts. If she gave the phone to you, why didn't you innocently tell her that a text popped up? Also, if you read it, it doesn't show as unread anymore. So she would have noticed. So? The truth?
Carenth Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Lol I was thinking the same thing. Obviously the OP went snooping around behind his girlfriends back. I know if that actually happened too me (thank god nothing like that has ever happened to me) I would be like "um... so who the hell is this bozo? :confused:"
TaraMaiden Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) Yeah - trust me, if I'm cheating on my H/getting risky messages from another guy, I'm not going to casually or willingly give my phone to my H to "Check Something"...... And receiving texts from this other guy - WHILE he's got the phone? Twice? Yeah, sure.... Something's stinky in this woodshed.....! Oh yeah, EDIT with PS: Of course she's cheating!!! Edited December 8, 2012 by TaraMaiden Well, D'uh!!
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