Highschool Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) See my other threads if you want the whole story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/359736-high-school-guy-need-some http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/360446-high-school-guy-first-relationship http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/360542-high-school-guy-continuation --- It didn't go so well and I've been feeling physically sick for the last few days over it. I can't eat, couldn't for the past couple of days, and just started sleeping again (but now I'm sleeping a lot more than usual, depressed and can't work well). I talked to my dad for a long time, my mom for a long time, and my English teacher today. I've been going home after programming class for the past two days because I'm so upset over this. --- Basically, the girl seemed excited to go to the movies, blahblahblah seemed like it was all going well. Tuesday: I was talking to her and texting, she seemed in a very good mood and really flirty. She started talking about prom (I know it's 5 months away), and I was in a good mood and gave her the heads up, saying that she might get an invite from me when the time comes. She was all positive and really happy and said that would be awesome. After, since I was still in a good mood, I said "You know you're amazing, right? ;)", which I thought she'd just take as a compliment, and I assumed that she knew that I liked her a lot already. Apparently not. The conversation changed, she said that I'm a good friend and that no promises for prom since it was so far away. She said "You're just taking it a little too quick ;)". Okay, cool, it sucked a little bit but she seemed happy still and we could be friends. Wednesday: She seemed excited for the Hobbit (we've been planning to watch it for weeks), and we set up a time to go watch it, she seemed excited and was saying how she said she wouldn't go with her friends because she told them she was seeing it with someone else (me ). Wednesday night everything seemed to go to ****. We were texting late, I said that "It's going to be in 3D too, going to be fun! :)". She stopped texting me. Two hours later, she told me that she didn't know that it was in 3D and that she gets nauseated and a headache over 3D and would only want to see it in 2D or not at all. Then she said she'd think about it, and she really wants to go so she might suck it up. I asked her if it was motion sickness, because I get that a little too and I said that she could pop a Gravol and be fine if it's motion sickness. She took a little while to respond, saying "It's not motion sickness, I get migraines", and talked about last time she went to see a 3D movie and how horrible she felt after. She asked if there was something 2D I'd want to see. I sent her a few texts with suggestions but she never replied. Thursday: She ignored me and avoided me all day. Super obvious and she seemed uneasy and upset. I went home early, upset and feeling sick. Ended up puking and crying... and I'm a dude, this usually never happens..... Friday (today): She avoided me, and I asked her a few questions about homework in programming class and she responded with grunt-type sounds. I told her at the end of class when she was alone that I'd like to talk to her one last time after class. Grunts. I talked to her. She said that I went way too far and overboard, and that we had been planning to see the movie as friends then everything turned into so much more. She then said that "You told me to take a Gravol??? Really? REALLY?", which hurt because I don't understand how that made her upset. She also said that I must be very attracted to her, but that she isn't as attracted to me as much at all. I told her that I'd like to be friendly and not avoid each other forever, and after some hesitation she said sure. ----- I'm upset still, and I hope this doesn't go on for too long. I still can't eat. I didn't think I went overboard, I mean I didn't say "I LOVE YOU AND I WANT TO LIVE WITH YOU FOREVER, HAVE MY KIDS!!", I thought I was pretty... not overboard. I also don't understand her seeming so upset over the gravol comment. She had told me before that we just don't have time for a relationship right now and should be concentrating on getting into university, and that we could be friends. Now, though, it seems like she really doesn't like me. Edited December 7, 2012 by Highschool
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I read your previous posts and get the sense you smothered her or scared her away by being too into her. Its not that she doesn't like you anymore, she's scared of leading you on so she's limited and cut off communication. Ignore her and move on. And I don't mean that in a strategic sense, like "if you ignore her she will want you more". I mean it from a practical standpoint, you need to move on from this girl and not try any more.
Buns Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I read your other threads, and I personnaly don't see where you went overboard. Maybe the prom thing but that's all.. I don't think you went overboard by saying that she's amazing and I don't see why she got all weird after the suggestion of "gravol" (or whatever is was)... It's not your fault the film was in 3D, how were you supposed to know that they make her ill?! I would completly back off for a bit, this could make her panic, and think that she's lost you, and maybe she will realise that you mean more to her than she thinks... if she doesn't come running back then it just wasn't meant to be, and there's no point trying to force it all.
Author Highschool Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Crap, this may be it. I forgot about this, but this is what she may have been pondering over and took wrong. After school on Wednesday we talked, and I told her to keep an open mind about it all, and I said that relationships can be a positive thing and to not just close off herself off (I was implying that if she actually only didn't want a relationship because she was worried about school going down the drain, we could probably work around that.... I wasn't going to say anything but she started going on and on about relationships that day with me after class, I had just said that she was a great girl on Tuesday :/ ). I said "Hell, we could help each other with school". She then said that we could just be doing that as friends, and I agreed but told her to keep an open mind. She must have over-thought that when she went home. :$ I did text her later and say that I'd just like to be friends, and that we could go to the movies, no pressure as friends. Then we were talking and when I mentioned 3D it went bleh. I guess that would be it. Crap. Well now it's just trying to get over her. She was really upset today when we talked and I have to try to not blame myself too much, I think.
Recommended Posts