sarahfort Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Alright so we've been together 2 years, we're in our twenties, and we spend a ton of time together. Things are amazing between us. He is leaving for 5 weeks next month, to practice towards a golfing career, and I fully support him in every way. I'm proud of him for chasing his dreams. Anyways, my concern is I'm a little dependent on him, and I'm anxious sometimes about him changing his mind about me. It has everything to do with my first long relationship 4 years ago, it changed the way I trust people even when I know i can trust a person 100%. He always tells me nothing will ever change and nothing or anyone could never come between us. Lately I've been feeling very scared that while he's down there , he might not miss me as much as i'll miss him - or maybe he'll even realize he likes being alone. I hate feeling that way, and I know a little assurance would make me feel better. I'm just wondering ( boys and girls), how would you bring it up without making the other person feel as though you don't trust them? I don't want to hurt his feelings, so I'm not sure about how to bring it up. I know He'll probably tell me im insane but unless I bring it up, I wont feel better about it.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 unless I bring it up, I wont feel better about it. First, that's a confusing double negative. Second its not true. Whether you bring it up or not has no bearing on how you will feel. You will be jealous, insecure, etc regardless of if you make it know to him that you are jealous, insecure, etc. So, since he's going no matter what, don't ruin it for him or place any guilt on him by discussing it.
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