danielle_rae Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 Can a guy cheat on you and really be sorry, and actually not do it again if he really loves you? has anyone ever cheated on someone and learned their lesson? has anyone out there been cheated on and gave their love a second chance and it worked???
Curt Posted August 11, 2004 Moderators Posted August 11, 2004 Originally posted by danielle_rae Can a guy cheat on you and really be sorry, and actually not do it again if he really loves you? has anyone ever cheated on someone and learned their lesson? has anyone out there been cheated on and gave their love a second chance and it worked??? I should imagine it's possible. Who on earth has not made mistakes that cannot be reversed, but that are regretted terribly, and wished to never have happened? I have made major mistakes in life that I cannot reverse. The only thing I can do is make darn sure the mistake is never repeated in future. In some cases, however, that major mistake (in your example, infidelity is the major mistake) could be partly as a result of a situational milleu that surrounds the whole thing. More information on how, why, with whom, how much, and how many times (over how long a time period) would be needed to really assess whether this one time makes a lot of difference to whether or not the infidelity would be repeated. The damage is done, but how un-forgiveable it is ... well, without the facts, it's difficult to postulate. Nothing is ever as simple as it might first seem. Curt
karam Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 I think that there is NO road with no way back, no matter how far you've got. I believe this in a philosofical and religious way as well. I think there is always room for repentance and return and also think that everyone should take this at heart and try to make up with all the people they have wronged, or have been wronged from, if possible, or at least with all the important people. I know that cheating is possibly the most difficult thing to overcome (when this happened to me I couldn't forgive for a long time but did eventually). My oppinion on relationships is that through making mistakes and possibly hurting each other with them, it is possible to create a great relationship. Obviously this has a major difficulty, if the relationship gets too many blows and the partners are not strong about them and their love is not that strong then this can wreck the relationship. However I think that for the sake of being with the one you love, mistakes etc should be dealt with and both should be happy together. I at least try to do that, facing everything that comes, learning from it and continuing. On the other hand cheating is not just a mistake, it needs to be carrie forward and it has many stop points before it actually happens, I think that you should be wary but give him a chance if he means it, getting him to understand that in case he as much as talks to someone else in a more-than-friendly manner it should be over. Hope that helped....
Papillon Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 I'm with Kevin, everything's possible. People are simply too diverse to make any sort of dogmatic predictions or have specific expectations. The only way the truth shall be known, in any such matter, is for time to have it's way with it.
jonyx18 Posted August 11, 2004 Posted August 11, 2004 i dont think it can work out the way i see it is if you cheat then you didn't think about the consequences that this could have brought and u never really cared about the person because why would u try to hurt someone you wouldn't push a child to fall for a laugh wright then thats the way to see it i did cheat on my ex the first month we were together but in reality he was my rebound relationship i was still madly in love with my first love and this was in a lapse of a week that i started with this last guy damn i regreted it for him ( i felt remorse because this guy was treating me good, that didn't mean that wished i hadn't been with my ex at that time)not because i felt i did something wrong. if it wasn't for the fact that my first love got locked up and served 1 yr in prison i would have kept on cheating but this last guy cheated on me after us being together 4 month left and right i always new it was true but i would try to block it out beliving his lies after 2 yrs we moved in together and he got me where it hurt he cheated on in our own home he brought a 15 yr old child into our home and f@#$ed her there the miner snitched and the police came looking for him i kicked him out for 1 month than after all his cries, the pleas that he would never do it again and that he loved me i decided to take him back this was the worst mistake i couldn't take this out of my mind i would wake up every morning with hatred knowing that he had slept with her in that very same bed i couldn't have sex with him i was constantly reminded of his betrayal all trust is lost and u manage to constantly through it back in there face I WAS NEVER HAPPY AFTER THAT DAY AND 8 MONTH LATER HE LEFT ME this cant be forgiven if they loved u the thought of being with some one else wouldn't cross your mind its all the same we all have a hole in between our legs that is used for them to stick in it and they al manage to nut so i dont care what any man says its all the same its different for females all men r not the same size or width or style after that first month i cheated on my fiancee not once did i even look at another man and he was extremely small in size 4inch to be pressis. <<<to much info but this just shows i had reasons to cheat>>> dont forgive cheating they never loved u after mines cheated he left me 8 month down the road for someone else he never stopped cheating on me so once a cheater always a cheater
Author danielle_rae Posted August 12, 2004 Author Posted August 12, 2004 well the didnt have sex or anything. They just considered eachother boyfriend and girlfriend. The most they ever did was make out.
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