tori0001 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 He says to me I haven't heard from you in a while, is everything alright, how are you? He knowthe last time we text he said he would call me and he didn't, plus never responded to my goodnight text. Why do you think I haven't gotten in touch. He can't be that oblivious. He told me he would call later, so we will see. I won't hold my breath.
annabelle26 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 He says to me I haven't heard from you in a while, is everything alright, how are you? He knowthe last time we text he said he would call me and he didn't, plus never responded to my goodnight text. Why do you think I haven't gotten in touch. He can't be that oblivious. He told me he would call later, so we will see. I won't hold my breath. even stilll, i am so jealous. i wish this would happen to me.
Author tori0001 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 He says one thing and doesn't follow through. I mean he shouldn't say anything at all if he's not going to follow through.
annabelle26 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 He says one thing and doesn't follow through. I mean he shouldn't say anything at all if he's not going to follow through. as sad as it sounds, id rather be messed around than completely ignored..
DC4 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 He says to me I haven't heard from you in a while, is everything alright, how are you? He knowthe last time we text he said he would call me and he didn't, plus never responded to my goodnight text. Why do you think I haven't gotten in touch. He can't be that oblivious. He told me he would call later, so we will see. I won't hold my breath. None of this sounds good to be honest.
Author tori0001 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 I will see what happens. I have my not trust shield up.
Leegh Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 He says one thing and doesn't follow through. I mean he shouldn't say anything at all if he's not going to follow through. I agree. A man should not say (or worse yet) put in writing that he will call, and not follow through with calling. Hopefully, he planned to call you but couldn't work up the nerve to call you or something, and will call soon.
integralForest Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 If he's not calling when he says he would, he either has low interest or is a flake. When guys are interested, they will usually make an effort to follow through on their promises.
Author tori0001 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 It's sad to see this come from a highly educated adult man. I hope he has a good explanation. Now a few days have passed, so I can be rational. It's vrry disrespectful what he did.
pbjbear Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Most of the time, flakey guys are really not that interested in you. Sometimes its because they are flakey with everyone...but Id rather not date someone inconsiderate of my time If youd rather be with a flake than alone...well go work on your self esteem
jcrew11 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 He has another girl he met through online dating and she dumped him. Now he is going back to you. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 People set the tone for the rest of the relationship pretty much from the beginning. You are an option to him and he knows you're pouncing on any little crumb, even after flaking out on you. Are you ok with this?
Author tori0001 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 From day one he's always called and text. It's not a pattern where this is done all the time.just this past week. in 3 months twice he said he was going to call and didn't. I got upset more so the usual because of an incident that happened Tues night that really upset me, emotionally he couldn't be there.
Author tori0001 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 I'm not legally divorced neither, and don't plan on it.
Author tori0001 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 In my life he's not a priority neither. Not with my life a chaotic mess. In that respect it works for the both of us. We both have work and home life obligations that come first.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 In my life he's not a priority neither. Not with my life a chaotic mess. In that respect it works for the both of us. We both have work and home life obligations that come first. That is a circular argument. If he isn't a priority, why is it important to you whether he texts or not? You seem to link your happiness with his responses, but as it is, he only has that power because you gave it to him. If he isn't a priority, why do you make it an issue that he has to get back to you? It's not a matter of digital manners or digital etiquettes, it's the fact you're becoming a doormat, and your refusal to see the truth. If you honestly did not make him a priority, it'd certainly be easy for you to walk away.
Author tori0001 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 It's a matter of respect. Nothing else.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) It's a matter of respect. Nothing else. No it is not. You said yourself you are not a priority. Thus, from his standpoint, you are only given as much " respect" as he thinks you deserves. You are merely whining at this point. This merely a power game, one where you're the one losing. You can choose not to play it by walking away and thereby showing him that you deserve more, but it will also mean you cannot backtrack and take him back. Most women don't have that ability to walk away from a man they know is treating them wrong. Edited December 8, 2012 by xpaperxcutx
Author tori0001 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 I think when 2 people are adults the age of games is over.
NiceGuyDTW Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I think when 2 people are adults the age of games is over. Sorry but you can be 20, 30, 40, 50...whatever. People still play games. I remember back in HS the teacher telling us that when we are adult our behavior would not be acceptable. Bulls**t!! Some people never grow up mentally. It's especially true when they deal with the opposite sex.
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